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Howdy ! It's me Scarlett !
This week, we will talk about the global trends and Some basic qualities we have to keep.
In this perspective, main topics will be about Global risks, Relationships, Health and Work Productivity.
Do not be obsessed with all the articles too much. Just pick some articles what you have interests and prepare your opinions related to those articles. :)
Topics are as follows.
◈ Small Talks
◈ Global Risks Report 2020
--- Burning Planet: Climate Fires and Political Flame Wars Rage
◈ Human Relationships
--- 8 Ways to Really Connect With Each Other
--- 7 Reasons Why Connection With Self and Others Is So Important
--- The Purpose Of Friendship: The Only 4 Types Of Friends You Need In Life
--- Making New Friends Gets A Lot Harder As We Grow Up Because We Are Not As Open As We Were
◈ Future Health and Healthcare
--- The 'ideal diet' is too expensive for 1.6 billion people
◈ Work Efficiency
--- 12 ways to get smarter – in one chart
--- Warren Buffett: “Really Successful People Say No To Almost Everything"
Hope you enjoy the topics.
With luv
Scarlett
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The 5 Biggest Global Risks in 2020
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Justin Trudeau blames Trump for Ukranian plane deaths | ABC News
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The Purpose of Friendship
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Learning how to learn | Barbara Oakley | TEDxOaklandUniversity
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Small Talks : Morning Special_(2020. Jan. 13. Mon. - 2020. Jan.18. Sat.)
▶Touch! Global Headlines
HEADLINE 1 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
The U.S. and China have signed their so-called phase one trade deal.
HEADLINE 2 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
The articles of impeachment that will be used to prosecute U.S. President Donald Trump are expected to be sent to the Senate this week.
HEADLINE 3 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
The two Koreas have been listed among the top 20 countries in the Power Index 2019, which ranks countries on the basis of how powerful they are militarily.
HEADLINE 4 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
Melbourne Airport has canceled flights over bad weather and smoke haze from the Australia bushfires.
HEADLINE 5 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
The U.S. National Security Agency has tipped off Microsoft on a major security flaw in the Windows 10 operating system.
HEADLINE 1 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
The U.S. has reversed its decision to brand China a currency manipulator.
HEADLINE 2 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
Iran has given Canadian investigators permission to analyze the “black box” from the Ukrainian passenger plane it shot down with a missile.
HEADLINE 3 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
China's mystery pneumonia virus has spread beyond China's borders for the first time with a case emerging in Thailand.
HEADLINE 4 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
Ocean waters hit their highest temperature ever last year.
HEADLINE 1 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
Flight operations at the Philippines' main international airport have partially resumed after the airport was closed due to volcanic ash fall.
HEADLINE 2 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau has said he will seek "justice" for those killed on board a Ukrainian passenger plane downed by Iran.
HEADLINE 3 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
China has officially opened operations of the world’s largest radio telescope.
HEADLINE 4 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
New Zealand has announced that all schools nationwide will have access to materials about the climate crisis starting this year.
HEADLINE 1 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
Taiwan's president, Tsai Ing-wen, and the ruling Democratic Progressive Party, have both won landslide victories in the latest presidential and legislative elections respectively.
HEADLINE 2 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
Researchers have announced that a new strain of pneumonia that broke out in the Chinese city of Wuhan bears close similarity to SARS.
HEADLINE 3 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
Former Nissan Motor chief Carlos Ghosn has justified his escape to Beirut as he sought a third country where to receive a fair trial.
HEADLINE 4 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
Australian Prime Minister Scott Morrison has said he will take a proposal to establish a royal commission into the bushfire disaster to Cabinet.
HEADLINE 5 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
Online retail giant Amazon has fired several employees after they leaked private customer data to an undisclosed third-party.
▶News Focus 1 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
The president of Mexico, Andrés Manuel López Obrador, has made selling off the luxurious presidential jet a centerpiece of his austerity program, but there’s just one problem: nobody wants to buy it.
López Obrador said on Tuesday the Boeing Dreamliner will be returned to Mexico after a year on sale in the United States, where it piled up about $1.5m in maintenance costs.
López Obrador is now entertaining various ideas, such as selling it to a consortium of companies for executive incentive programs.
-piled up
-entertaining various ideas
▶News Focus 2 (2020. Jan. 16. Thu.)
Spike Lee is all set to become the first black filmmaker to head up the Cannes Film Festival jury this spring.
"I'm honored to be the first person of the African diaspora (USA) to be named president of the Cannes jury and of a main film festival," which happens to be "the most important film festival in the world," Lee said in a statement, adding he was "shocked, happy, surprised and proud all at the same time."
Lee will also receive the festival's highest prize, the Palme d'Or for lifetime achievement. Seven of the director's films have premiered at Cannes.
-all set
-head up
▶ News Focus 1 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
Furious Canadians are lashing out over the $1.7 million it will potentially cost to provide security for Harry and Meghan when they move to Canada.
The Queen on Monday agreed to allow her grandson and his wife to split their time between Canada and the UK while an agreement was made on their future following their shock resignation as senior royals.
Following the Queen's statement, Twitter went into overdrive with some Canadians vowing to riot if they have to pay any money to help cover the cost of protecting the couple.
-lashing out : 혹평하다. 비난하다.
1. to make a sudden violent attack on somebody
2. to criticize somebody/something in an angry way
-cover the cost : 밑지지 않다.
▶ News Focus 2 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
A Swiss court on Monday threw out a case against a dozen climate activists who were on trial for storming a Credit Suisse office, and playing tennis inside — part of a protest against the bank’s investments in fossil fuels and its brand ambassador Roger Federer.
Lawyer Aline Bonard, representing the Lausanne Climate Action activists, said the court acquitted the defendants over the stunt that riffed off Federer's role with the bank.
The trial was billed as the first of its kind in Switzerland. The bank had argued that it could not tolerate “unlawful attacks” on its branches.
-stunt
-tolerate
-throw out a case v. : 소송을 각하하다.
▶ News Focus 3 (2020. Jan. 15. Wed.)
Protests by people from all walks of life have been taking place across France against the government’s pension reform plans.
But a man dubbed the French “Spiderman” held a rather peculiar protest. With just a chalk bag and his climbing shoes, Alain Robert scaled the Total tower in the French capital's business district on Monday. At 187 meters, the Total tower is one of the tallest buildings in Paris.
Robert’s protest is part of a nationwide movement to stop President Emmanuel Macron from overhauling the French pension system, an ambitious but clumsily handled reform that has been stymied by 40 days of strikes.
-clumsily
-stymied : (계획 등을) 방해하다[좌절시키다] (=foil)
▶News Focus 1 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
Women have replaced men as the majority of jobholders in America, and the roles they’re choosing signals a labor-market shift.
Women held 50.04% of non-farm payroll positions in December, the highest share since 2010. The proportion has been steadily ticking up in recent years as a tight labor market pulls them in and offers higher wages and perks.
Over the past year alone, they’ve taken on a greater share of positions traditionally held by men: they make up 13.8% of mining and logging jobs, up from 12.6% a year earlier, as well as a growing share of manufacturing work, and are climbing toward holding one-third of transportation and warehousing roles.
- ticking up
- perks : 명사 (급료 이외의) 특전/ 비금전적 혜택
▶News Focus 2 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
Activists placed hundreds of painted-red women’s shoes on Mexico City’s sun-drenched main square Saturday to call attention to gender-based violence in a country where, on average, 10 women and girls are murdered each day and less than 10 percent of the cases are ever solved.
There has been a string of public demonstrations in recent months over violence against women, including angry anti-rape protests in which demonstrators tossed glitter and defaced monuments and more low-key marches and even knit-ins.
President Andrés Manuel López Obrador has pledged to make femicide and other gender-related crimes a priority.
- sun-drenched :햇빛[햇볕]이 많이 내리쬐는
- low-key : 형용사 삼가는, 저자세의, 억제된. (=restrained, low-profile, controlled.)
▶News Focus 3 (2020. Jan. 14. Tue.)
A 100-year-old Galapagos tortoise who single-handedly saved his species by fathering 800 offspring is set for release.
Diego was recruited along with 14 other adults for a captive breeding programme and will be returned to his native island of Espanola in March.
Diego's contribution to the program on Santa Cruz Island, Southern California, was particularly noteworthy, with park rangers believing him responsible for being the patriarch of at least 40 percent of their 2,000-tortoise population.
- single-handedly : 부사 (남의 도움 없이) 혼자서, 단독으로 (=alone)
▶News Focus 1 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
Queen Elizabeth II has reportedly called a private meeting with Prince Charles, Prince William and Prince Harry to discuss the recent royal drama that has unfolded in the press.
Buckingham Palace made headlines last week when Meghan Markle and Prince Harry announced they would be stepping down as "senior members" of the British royal family and splitting their time between the U.K and U.S. to become financially independent of the crown. "We have chosen to make a transition this year in starting to carve out a progressive new role within this institution," the couple said in an Instagram post. “It is with your encouragement that we feel prepared to make this adjustment."
-unfolded : 타동사 〔접은·닫힌 물건〕을 펼치다, 펴다.
-stepping down : (후임을 위해, …의 지위를) 퇴진[사직]하다
1. a formal resignation and renunciation of powers
2. the act of abdicating
▶News Focus 3 (2020. Jan. 13. Mon.)
A monk in southern Thailand caused an online sensation when he announced that worshipers can make merits at his temple by ordering online delivery. The monk said he understood the changing pace of modern life, which prevents many Buddhists from handing food and other offerings to the monks in person. The monk said the practice is also catching on in many temples. The monk first drew attention when he posted on his Facebook that someone just delivered food to his temple via a popular application. He then dispensed blessings to the worshiper on a video call.
-changing pace
-catching on
Q4. China's mystery pneumonia virus has spread beyond China's borders for the first time with a case emerging in Thailand. Do you think your immune system is good enough to protect yourself from coming down with any disease? How do you maintain your health conditions?
Q5. Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau has said he will seek "justice" for those killed on board a Ukrainian passenger plane downed by Iran. What do you think of Justin Trudeau as a young leader? Also how do you think about his attitude on the issue?
Q6. Justin Trudeau said US escalation partly to blame for Iran plane deaths. Do you agree or disagree with his opinion?
Q7. Iran has given Canadian investigators permission to analyze the “black box” from the Ukrainian passenger plane it shot down with a missile. If your country is in Canadian's shoes, what should your president do?
Q8. According to an article, furious Canadians are lashing out over the $1.7 million it will potentially cost to provide security for Harry and Meghan when they move to Canada. If Harry and Meghan want to move to Korea so Korean citizens have to pay the money to provide security for them, what would you say about it?
Q9. Have you ever delivered the food in a religious place such as church or temple? If a priest or a monk let you do that, do you have any intention to do it?
Q10. Do you have any stereotypes on religious leaders?
Q11. The World Health Organization estimates that every year some 100,000 people across Africa die from taking "falsified or substandard" medication. Weak legislation, poor healthcare systems and widespread poverty have encouraged the growth of the market, and since 2013, Africa has made up 42 percent of the fake medicine seized worldwide. If your kid is taking bogus medication so they are deceased or their symtom is degraded, how would you feel about it ? How can we deal with those boguse medication issues?
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Burning Planet: Climate Fires and Political Flame Wars Rage
Published/ 15 Jan 2020/ Max Hall, Public Engagement
▶Severe threats to our climate account for all of the Global Risks Report’s top long-term risks, with “economic confrontations” and “domestic political polarization” recognized as significant short-term risks in 2020
▶It warns that geopolitical turbulence and the retreat from multilateralism threatens everyone’s ability to tackle shared, critical global risks
▶Without urgent attention to repairing societal divisions and driving sustainable economic growth, leaders cannot systemically address threats like the climate or biodiversity crises, the report warns
▶Read the full report here and find out more about the Global Risks Initiative here. Join the conversation using #risks20
London, United Kingdom, 15 January 2020 –Economic and political polarization will rise this year, as collaboration between world leaders, businesses and policy-makers is needed more than ever to stop severe threats to our climate, environment, public health and technology systems. This points to a clear need for a multistakeholder approach to mitigating risk at a time when the world cannot wait for the fog of geopolitical disorder to lift. These are the findings of the World Economic Forum’s Global Risks Report 2020, published today.
The report forecasts a year of increased domestic and international divisions and economic slowdown. Geopolitical turbulence is propelling us towards an “unsettled” unilateral world of great power rivalries at a time when business and government leaders must focus urgently on working together to tackle shared risks.
Over 750 global experts and decision-makers were asked to rank their biggest concerns in terms of likelihood and impact and 78% said they expect “economic confrontations” and “domestic political polarization” to rise in 2020.
This would prove catastrophic, particularly for addressing urgent challenges like the climate crisis, biodiversity loss and record species decline. The report, produced in partnership with Marsh & McLennan and Zurich Insurance Group, points to a need for policy-makers to match targets for protecting the Earth with ones for boosting economies – and for companies to avoid the risks of potentially disastrous future losses by adjusting to science-based targets.
For the first time in the survey’s 10-year outlook, the top five global risks in terms of likelihood are all environmental. The report sounds the alarm on:
▶Extreme weather events with major damage to property, infrastructure and loss of human life
▶Failure of climate-change mitigation and adaptation by governments and businesses.
▶Human-made environmental damage and disasters, including environmental crime, such as oil spills, and radioactive contamination.
▶Major biodiversity loss and ecosystem collapse (terrestrial or marine) with irreversible consequences for the environment, resulting in severely depleted resources for humankind as well as industries.
▶Major natural disasters such as earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanic eruptions, and geomagnetic storms.
It adds that unless stakeholders adapt to “today’s epochal power-shift” and geopolitical turbulence – while still preparing for the future – time will run out to address some of the most pressing economic, environmental and technological challenges. This signals where action by business and policy-makers is most needed.
“The political landscape is polarized, sea levels are rising and climate fires are burning. This is the year when world leaders must work with all sectors of society to repair and reinvigorate our systems of cooperation, not just for short-term benefit but for tackling our deep-rooted risks,” said Borge Brende, President of the World Economic Forum.
The Global Risks Report is part of the Global Risks Initiative which brings stakeholders together to develop sustainable, integrated solutions to the world’s most pressing challenges.
Systems-level thinking is required to confront looming geopolitical and environmental risks, and threats that may otherwise fall under the radar. This year’s report focuses explicitly on impacts from rising inequality, gaps in technology governance, and health systems under pressure.
John Drzik, Chairman of Marsh & McLennan Insights, said: “There is mounting pressure on companies from investors, regulators, customers, and employees to demonstrate their resilience to rising climate volatility.
Scientific advances mean that climate risks can now be modeled with greater accuracy and incorporated into risk management and business plans. High profile events, like recent wildfires in Australia and California, are adding pressure on companies to take action on climate risk at a time when they also face greater geopolitical and cyber risk challenges.”
To younger generations, the state of the planet is even more alarming. The report highlights how risks are seen by those born after 1980. They ranked environmental risks higher than other respondents, in the short- and long- terms. Almost 90% of these respondents believe “extreme heat waves”, “destruction of ecosystems” and “health impacted by pollution” will be aggravated in 2020; compared to 77%, 76% and 67% respectively for other generations. They also believe that the impact from environmental risks by 2030 will be more catastrophic and more likely.
Human activity has already caused the loss of 83% of all wild mammals and half of plants – which underpin our food and health systems. Peter Giger, Group Chief Risk Officer, Zurich Insurance Group warned of the urgent need to adapt faster to avoid the worst and irreversible impacts of climate change and to do more to protect the planet’s biodiversity:
“Biologically diverse ecosystems capture vast amounts of carbon and provide massive economic benefits that are estimated at $33 trillion per year – the equivalent to the GDP of the US and China combined. It’s critical that companies and policy-makers move faster to transition to a low carbon economy and more sustainable business models. We are already seeing companies destroyed by failing to align their strategies to shifts in policy and customer preferences. Transitionary risks are real, and everyone must play their part to mitigate them. It’s not just an economic imperative, it is simply the right thing to do,” he said.
The Global Risks Report 2020 has been developed with the invaluable support of the World Economic Forum’s Global Risks Advisory Board. It also benefits from ongoing collaboration with its Strategic Partners Marsh & McLennan and Zurich Insurance Group and its academic advisers at the Oxford Martin School (University of Oxford), the National University of Singapore and the Wharton Risk Management and Decision Processes Center (University of Pennsylvania).
Annex
■ Respondents were asked to assess: (1) the likelihood of a global risk occurring over the course of the next 10 years, and (2) the severity of its impact at a global level if it were to occur.
▶These are the top 5 risks by likelihood over the next 10 years:
- Extreme weather events (e.g. floods, storms, etc.)
- Failure of climate change mitigation and adaptation
- Major natural disasters (e.g. earthquake, tsunami, volcanic eruption, geomagnetic storms)
- Major biodiversity loss and ecosystem collapse
- Human-made environmental damage and disasters
▶These are the top 5 risks by severity of impact over the next 10 years:
- Failure of climate change mitigation and adaptation
- Weapons of mass destruction
- Major biodiversity loss and ecosystem collapse
- Extreme weather events (e.g. floods, storms, etc.)
- Water crises
■ Global risks are not isolated, and so respondents were asked to assess the interconnections between pairs of global risks.
▶These are the top most strongly connected global risks:
- Extreme weather events + failure of climate change mitigation and adaptation
- Large-scale cyberattacks + breakdown of critical information infrastructure and networks
- High structural unemployment or underemployment + adverse consequences of technological advances
- Major biodiversity loss and ecosystem collapse + failure of climate change mitigation and adaptation
- Food crises + extreme weather events
▶Short-term risks: percentage of respondents who think a risk will increase in 2020:
- Economic confrontations = 78.5%
- Domestic political polarization = 78.4%
- Extreme heat waves = 77.1%
- Destruction of natural resource ecosystems = 76.2%
- Cyberattacks: infrastructure = 76.1%
Notes to Editors:
How to contact the following Partner companies:
Jason Groves, Director of Communications, International, Marsh & McLennan Companies, United Kingdom, +44 (0)20 7357 1455, jason.groves@marsh.com
Pavel Osipyants, Senior Media Relations Manager, Zurich Insurance Group, Switzerland, +41 (0)44 625 20 13, pavel.osipyants@zurich.com
For more information on the Global Risks Report 2020:
· Watch the report launch press conference at https://wef.ch/risks20
· Find out more about the Annual Meeting 2020 at https://wef.ch/wef20
· Read the Forum Agenda at https://www.weforum.org/agenda
· Follow the Forum via @wef and @davos and join the conversation using #risks20 and #wef20
· Subscribe to Forum News Releases at http://wef.ch/news
· Become a fan of the Forum on Facebook at http://wef.ch/facebook
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· Follow the Forum on LinkedIn at http://wef.ch/linkedin
· Learn about the Forum’s impact on http://wef.ch/impact
The World Economic Forum, committed to improving the state of the world, is the International Organization for Public-Private Cooperation. The Forum engages the foremost political, business and other leaders of society to shape global, regional and industry agendas. (www.weforum.org).
Article source : https://www.weforum.org/press/2020/01/burning-planet-climate-fires-and-political-flame-wars-rage
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< Questions >
Q1. What is the definition of risk?
*** RISK
noun. Risk is the possibility or chance of loss, danger or injury. An example of risk is a teenage boy on a car insurance policy. An example of risk is a vacation in the Middle East during a war.
Q2. According to an article, Severe threats to our climate account for all of the Global Risks Report’s top long-term risks, with “economic confrontations” and “domestic political polarization” recognized as significant short-term risks in 2020. What is the most urgent agenda in risk management individually and socially?
Q3. Currently, many natural and artificial disasters such as volcanic eruption, spreading bush-fire impact, China's mystery pneumonia virus and escalating tension between Iran and america have strong impact worldwide. What is the most scary disaster to you?
Q4. According to this reports, without urgent attention to repairing societal divisions and driving sustainable economic growth, leaders cannot systemically address threats like the climate or biodiversity crises. and over 750 global experts and decision-makers were asked to rank their biggest concerns in terms of likelihood and impact and 78% said they expect “economic confrontations” and “domestic political polarization” to rise in 2020.
In Korea, we also have similar arising issues on the social and economic system. Do you think which one is more crucial issue between social division and unsustainable economic growth issue in Korea?
Q5. From the report, John Drzik, Chairman of Marsh & McLennan Insights, said: “There is mounting pressure on companies from investors, regulators, customers, and employees to demonstrate their resilience to rising climate volatility. Now proper level of responses to climate change is not a matter of governmental level but every sector of society. In this perspective do you think your organization such as company or school have enough tackling measures for climate change risk? Or how about you? What climate action are you taking?
Q6. Some of the risk can have escalating impacts by integrating effects. Following combination is addressing the merging effects of risks. Do you think which one is the most serious issue?
▶These are the top most strongly connected global risks:
- Extreme weather events + failure of climate change mitigation and adaptation
- Large-scale cyberattacks + breakdown of critical information infrastructure and networks
- High structural unemployment or underemployment + adverse consequences of technological advances
- Major biodiversity loss and ecosystem collapse + failure of climate change mitigation and adaptation
- Food crises + extreme weather events
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8 Ways to Really Connect With Each Other
The world may be anti-depth. You don't have to be.
Posted Sep 30, 2015/ Carrie Barron M.D./ The Creativity Cure
The other day, a 21-year-old family acquaintance and I were talking about how “What are we?” has become a taboo question among dating couples in her generation. Better to be unconcerned about commitment issues, apparently, even if strong feelings arise or intimacies have occurred.
"I think your generation is anti-depth,” I said.
"It’s true,” she said.
Is superficial somehow better than deep?
Superficial connectedness appears to be a preference in the collective unconscious of millennials, as technology threatens to supplant face-to-face intimacy. With devices in hand, we can avoid human exchange—and the potential awkwardness therein.
One might ask, “What is wrong with avoidance?” As a professor of mine once said, “If you have a flying phobia, you can get treatment—or you can just not fly.”
Because avoidance relieves discomfort or fear in the moment, it feels like a solution. However, prolonged evasion exacerbates anxiety, makes it harder to extinguish, and limits possibilities for life enjoyment. Resilience, a very useful trait, is gained by exposure to stimulus. In small doses, we learn that we can manage and that the threat was unnecessarily inflamed. Maybe we even start to embrace what we shunned.
It is one thing to have a mouse phobia and another to have a social phobia, especially if the latter is culturally induced. Avoiding mice probably won't detract as much from an optimal life as avoiding people. Current research suggests that we do suffer without deep human connections. But how do you define a deep or true connection and how does it differ from say, a Facebook connection? How do you develop it?
Someone recently told me a story: An older person was baffled by a teen’s suicide since the deceased had 40 Facebook friends. A younger person explained that Facebook friends are not necessarily real friends. You may have never met them, and they may not actually care if you live or die or had a bad day. Facebook friendship no longer connotes a precious relationship. We might think we are meeting our primal need via virtual solutions and high tallies of friends or followers but it seems we are not.
According to MIT professor and researcher Sherry Turkle, author of the upcoming Reclaiming Conversation, devices interfere with conversations, empathy, imagination, patience, resilience, inner life and mental health. (Read more here.) Studies show that empathy is decreasing rapidly in rising generations.
As inner resources and empathy decline, depression, anxiety, and stress are soaring: College health services are inundated with students overwhelmed by depression, anxiety, stress, fragility, fear, loneliness, helplessness and a feeling of victimization. One colleague told me that 75% of the kids on her campus are in treatment. Claiming that one has been traumatized via “micro-aggressions” —passing statements or book passages that trigger feelings of vulnerability—is becoming commonplace as noted in the Atlantic. We have arrived at a place where the outer world presents ongoing psychological danger and the inner world cannot cope. (Boston College psychologist and educational expert Peter Gray describes the astounding situation in this post.)
What explains the suffering? Device dependency, helicopter parents, image over substance, and a surfeit of superficial engagements compromise a deeper relationship with the self and with others. Self-knowledge/reliance/soothing techniques, inner resilience, and problem-solving skills do not develop properly. The literature indicates that kids are so stressed about grades, social media, and performance that they are sleep deprived, sheep-like and soulless. The very things that will help them succeed and stay well, such as meaningful relationships and conversations, are sacrificed. True connections take time to develop—and they do not have ample time.
The strange thing is that there is now so much talk, hype, and valuing of connectedness—being connected, connecting the whole world, reaching out. People in remote places or underserved communities may need a way to “connect” for health or educational reasons. However, those with resources may be inundated with so many meaningless connections that they feel overwhelmed, depressed, or hopeless—especially if they crave depth and substance. Breadth does not do it for everyone, or perhaps anyone.
In the Steve Jobs documentary, the mother of his first child comments that he made a device that created connectedness because he had trouble connecting to people in real life. Inventing devices can involve a rich creative process or a psychological solution/compensation for the innovators. But the impact on consumers may be less freeing and more fraught. It appears that early innovators did not anticipate “addiction” risks—or perhaps business interests trumped human needs.
Author Jonathan Franzen, in a review of Turkle’s new book, says that we “adopted new technologies in pursuit of greater control, only to feel controlled by them.” We cannot just stop using our devices, being seduced by them, or depending on them. They are beautiful and serve many purposes. It seems that Jobs believed his devices would place innovation, expression, creativity, education, and delight in the palm of each hand holding a smartphone, yet had his own children take technology in stride. As is the way with most things, balance breeds betterness.
■ 8 Suggestions for Cultivating Helpful Conversations, Health and Friendships
1. Notice it when things do not feel quite right while you are ensconced in your device.
Self-sensitivity preserves your health and increases your ability to understand others. Many people deny or dismiss inner feeling states but they are a great source of information.
2. Make a plan to participate in the real world
—meet a friend, take a walk, use your hands to make something or sit on a bench and daydream or dialogue with your self or with another.
3. Establish a moderate use pattern for devices, as Turkle recommends.
Make a clear, consistent plan so that your mind and body integrate it. Have conversations without devices in view.
4. Find a way to form deeper friendships.
Start casual, take small steps, tolerate strange situations and strangers, and let it evolve when something clicks.
5.Trade self-consciousness for interest in the other person.
Be in a conversation rather than putting on a performance. This is a version of emotional altruism—and altruism is a “healthy defense.”
6. Figure out, for you, when your needs are best met by technology and when nothing will replace a human interaction.
Look for this answer inside by what sinks or elevates your emotional state.
7. Develop empathy by listening, observing, learning, and asking questions.
Be curious. Delve into an endeavor that has personal meaning and draws you in. These are both ways of getting “deeper.”
8. Know that there is something ubiquitous, primal, and timeless about the need for a true friend and that deep friendship heals. Science says so.
In the car on the way home after writing this draft, the song “You’ve Got a Friend” by Carole King came on the radio. I just cannot help but share because since 1971 (and evidenced today by the current Broadway hit “Beautiful,”) it has resonated with millions of people. In those days, “get real” was commonly prescribed advice. Just saying ...
“When you're down and troubled and you need a helping hand.
And nothing, nothing is going right.
Close your eyes and think of me and soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night.
You just call out my name, and you know wherever I am,
I’ll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer or fall
All you’ve got to do is call
And I’ll be there. You’ve got a friend … ”
(Lyrics by Carole King)
Article source : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-creativity-cure/201509/8-ways-really-connect-each-other
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Anna Chui/ Editor. Life Enthusiast. Amateur Musician.
Are you aware that as you grow up, friendship is the thing that drifts away most easily? Work, vacation, relationships, family times — they’re all so important to life that it’s just hard to put friendship at a higher priority.
Have you ever been at supper at a friend’s home, you and your friends just didn’t have anything to talk about and had to force yourselves to just talk about something, like “so how have you been recently?”, or “oh the pasta is really nice…”?
This kind of awkward situation only leaves us wondering what friendship is for; but then, we also feel uncomfortable to have to declare that friendship has to be for something — how contradicting we are.
Here’s some good news for you…
Friendship does have its purpose, and having a purpose doesn’t ruin true friendship.
People come to your life for a reason. (Duh.) People do come together to become friends for some reasons though.
Alex Lickerman, the author of The Undefeated Mind: On the Science of Constructing an Indestructible Self talks about the things that draw people together as friends.
Instead of building friendships with random people, we tend to build bonds with people who share the common interests, share common values, have gone through the same difficulties, and who support each other equally.[1]
We’re being selective about friends because not everyone can serve the purpose of being able to exchange thoughts and feelings with us.
When we get to know people, there are four things we really look for.[2]
Firstly, we want reassurance so we know we’re not alone in being a specific way.
Everyone of us has our weak spots. There’s always something that we aren’t satisfied with, or some thoughts that we’re reluctant to share with others because we’re afraid of being judged or being let down.
We need the kind of friend who understands our thoughts and weaknesses; so we can feel comfortable to let down our guard and be comfortable with who we are.
We also want to have fun with people who we can be silly with.
Life is stressful; and we’re taught to always be serious and mature at work and in life as a grown-up. Imagine yourself as an elastic band, if you kept on pulling yourself and stayed tense, you’d eventually break. That’s exactly what would happen if we didn’t get enough fun in life.
Friends here, serve the purpose of letting you be as silly as you want and share the joy and excitement with you.
And we need someone’s help to clarify our minds.
We’re all imperfect people, sometimes we are confused and our minds go chaotic.
For example, very often we are frustrated at work and not quite sure why, but after we share our confusions with friends, we somehow get things figured out and have a clearer mind to go back to work.
A thinking friend who gives us constructive advice and asks us probing questions can inspire us to solve our problems and get to know ourselves better.
Finally, we network to seek collaborators to help us achieve our goals.
We have our own dreams and goals but we are small and fragile as an individual. To get things going, we need collaborators to align their abilities and energies with ours.
Take Emma Watson as an example, she’s an activist in feminism, and she networks to gather like-minded people who also aspire to fight for gender equality through the HeForShe campaign and the feminist book club Our Shared Shelf.
The spiritual core reason for a friendship is help us change and grow.
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said,[3]
“You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with.”
This relates to the law of averages,[4] a theory that the result of anything will be the average of all outcomes.
So if you want to grow, be successful, or simply be happy and positive; the people you spend time with matter.
Moving on from some friendships simply means you’ve understood what real friendship is like.
You may ask, “what about those who don’t share my ambitions or interests? And those who can’t reassure my existence? Or those who I don’t really feel comfortable to be silly with?”
As time goes, you probably will feel difficult to stay friends with these people. Dare to let go of some people who don’t help you change and grow as a better and a happier person.
It doesn’t mean you’ve lost hope or belief in friendship, it simply means you’ve understood what a real friendship is like.
Move on from the friendships that you can hardly maintain. You don’t need to deny having these friends, and you can keep the memories with you. Moving on is just a way to help you get closer to true friendships that are best for you and others.
This article is inspired by The School of Life’s The Purpose of Friendship. Watch the full video here.
Article source : http://www.lifehack.org/560546/the-only-4-types-friends-you-need-life
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Making New Friends Gets A Lot Harder As We Grow Up Because We Are Not As Open As We Were
Ana Erkic/ Social Media Consultant, Online Marketing Strategist, Copywriter, CEO and Co-Founder of Growato
It kind of makes sense, that as we grow older it is much harder to sustain friendships, let alone make new ones. There are a number of reasons for this. First of all, as careers, relationships and kids become our priorities, there is simply not enough time to chill all day with our besties and talk about everything. Moreover, as we get more mature, we get pickier about who we spend our precious time with. Remember when you were a teenager, you could hardly count all the members of your squad? And now, you can barely have one person to talk to once a month. Yet, this doesn’t have to be the end of your social life. Even better yet, now it is the time to make true and closer friendships that will last for a lifetime. Let’s learn how.
The new old friends
In order to warm up for creating new friendships, you can try reconnecting with the old ones first. This doesn’t mean we have to call each and every person we met, no matter how much we liked them. We all know a couple of great people we used to hang out with, that we simply stopped seeing due to our busy schedules. Make time to make a couple of phone calls and see how they are doing. This could be beneficial in many ways:
- Firstly, you will be much more comfortable meeting new people once you start in the familiar ground.
- Secondly, you may make more honest and open friendships with those people now that you have matured and are ready for more meaningful connections.
- Finally, old friends have probably met some new people that could potentially be your new friends as well.
Now that you have made the first step with the old friends, it is time to make some new ones. Here are some suggestions as how to make genuine connection with people you meet.
Be interested rather than interesting
When found in a new social group, most of us would focus on being interesting so as to make people like us. This is fine up to a point, but, if we are looking for ways to connect with people on a deeper level, we should prioritize listening instead of entertaining. People like when they feel they are being heard and when others show honest interest in their thoughts, feelings and beliefs about anything. By actively listening to what someone is expressing, we would show that we are not shallow and narcissistic, but respectful and caring. Moreover, once we take an interest in other people’s lives, we would be much more able to find things we have in common and build on that as we move forward.
Put yourself out there
In order to get something, you have to be able to give something too. Don’t be afraid to share some of your personal thoughts, feelings, or struggles with others. Being vulnerable will make you more human and people will respond to that. This doesn’t mean that you have to go around and tell all of your secrets to everyone who says “Hi!” to you. Once you meet people who you feel you can trust and have a lot in common with, feel free to be more vulnerable and share a bit more. This makes a bridge between good friends to very close friends. As we open up, we are letting people to truly get to know us, which makes us go from an acquaintance to a real human being in their eyes. Also, people will be much more willing to share their deepest feelings with us, as they will feel they can trust us and find a kindred spirit and a loyal friend in us.
Article source : http://www.lifehack.org/555996/making-new-friends-gets-lot-harder-grow-because-are-not-open-were
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< Questions >
Q1. What differences exist between acquaintance and friends?
Q2. How would you define friendship?
Q3. What is a good number of friends to have?
Q4. What is the most important relationship in your life?
Q5. Do you think you can be a friend with your ex-boyfriend?
Q6. Some said that friendship between men and women is possible. What is your opinion on that?
Q7. Do you have any friendship you are still remember in your school days?
Q8. What are friends for? This article suggest 4 kinds of functions of friendship as below. Which type of friend do you need the most?
- Friendship for Advice
- Friendship for Alliance
- Friendship for Amusement
- Friendship for Reassurance
Q9. Do you agree that making new friends gets a lot harder as we grow up? Why?
Q10. Have you made any friends over the Internet?
Q11. How do you maintain a good friendship?
Q12. Where is a good place to meet new friends?
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The 'ideal diet' - projected to be in place by 2050 - would keep people and planet healthy, said the Lancet. But it would cost an average $2.84 per head per day, said researchers from the International Food Policy Research Institute and Friedman School of Nutrition Science and Policy at Tufts University.
< Questions >
Q1. What is the food you like and dislike ? Why?
Q2. What is the meaning of the sentence "You Are What You Eat"?
Q3. Could you describe your daily eating habits?
Q4. Do you exercise on a regular basis ?
Q5. Do you think you have good eating habit?
Q6. Do you know anyone who have good in shape with good eating habits? Could you explaint their eating habits?
12 ways to get smarter – in one chart
12 Feb 2018/ Jeff Desjardins/ Founder and editor of Visual Capitalist
The level of a person’s raw intelligence, as measured by aptitude tests such as IQ scores, is generally pretty stable for most people during adulthood. While it’s true that there are things you can do to fine tune your natural capabilities, such as doing brain exercises, puzzle solving, and getting optimal sleep – the amount of raw brainpower you have is difficult to increase in any meaningful or permanent way.
For those of you who strive to be high-performers, this may seem like bad news. If processing power can't be increased, then how can life’s increasingly complex problems be solved?
The key is mental models
The good news is that while raw cognitive abilities matter, it’s how you use and harness those abilities that really makes the difference. The world’s most successful people, from Ray Dalio to Warren Buffett, are not necessarily leagues above the rest of us in raw intelligence – they have simply developed and applied better mental models of how the world works, and they use these principles to filter their thoughts, decisions, strategies, and execution.
Today’s infographic comes from best-selling author and entrepreneur Michael Simmons, who has collected over 650 mental models through his work. The image, in a similar style to one we previously published on cognitive biases, synthesizes these models down to the most useful and universal mental models that people should learn to master first.
Concepts such as the 80/20 rule (Pareto’s principle), compound interest, and network effects are summarized in the visualization, and their major components are broken down further within the circle.
Mental model example
In a recent Medium post by Simmons, he highlights a well-known mental model that is the perfect breadcrumb to start with. The 80/20 rule (Pareto’s principle) is named after Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto, who was likely the first person to note the 80/20 connection in an 1896 paper.
In short, it shows that 20% of inputs (work, time, effort) often leads to 80% of outputs (performance, sales, revenue, etc.), creating an extremely vivid mental framework for making prioritization decisions.
The 80/20 rule represents a power law distribution that has been empirically shown to exist throughout nature, and it also has huge implications on business.
If you focus your effort on these 20% of tasks first, and get the most out of them, you will be able to drive results much more efficiently than wasting time on the 80% “long tail” shown below.
This is just one example of how a powerful mental model can be effective in making you work more intelligently.
Article source : https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2018/02/how-to-be-smarter-infographic
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Warren Buffett: “Really Successful People
Say No To Almost Everything”
When Bill Gates first met Warren Buffett, their host, Gates’ mother, asked everyone around the table to share the single most important factor to their success. Gates and Buffett both gave the same one-word answer: “Focus.”
Michael Simmons/ Jan 7, 2019
When I tell people that Warren Buffett follows the 5-Hour Rule and spends 80% of his time reading and thinking, they have an immediate and predictable reaction: “Well, he can do that because he’s Warren Buffett, one of the richest people in the world. I could never do that.”
While this response may help people feel better about themselves, it certainly won’t make them smarter.
Because the reality is: Buffett has spent most of his time reading and thinking since he was in grade school.
Having more money or managing a large company doesn’t magically give you free time.
Having free time is never the default. People don’t just fall into huge blocks of free time unless they retire. Rather, free time is the result of strategy. It’s the result of looking at time differently.
Curious about Buffett’s unique strategies, I’ve read several books about him, read most of his annual letters to stockholders, and watched nearly all of his interviews.
And make no mistake about it… behind Buffett’s jovial demeanor is the most stone-cold, ruthless prioritizer (in a good way) in the world.
Below are the top six strategies Warren Buffett has used throughout his career in order to have lots of reading and thinking time. I invite you to copy them so you can have more time to do what’s most important to you everyday.
As you read these strategies, be aware that these aren’t just random strategies that are thrown together like the typical listicle you see online. There’s a deeper pattern that most people miss — his #1 mental model.
■ Buffett Strategy #1: Kill busy work
Buffett has eliminated almost all of the obligatory CEO tasks from his schedule:
•He never talks to analysts (Buffet estimates that 20% of the typical public CEO’s time is spent talking to Wall Street).
•He rarely talks to the media.
•He doesn’t attend industry events.
•He has lived outside of NYC in Omaha, Nebraska for almost his entire career.
•He barely attends any internal meetings like typical CEOs.
What’s important to see here is that these decisions don’t happen by accident. They require continually resisting immense social pressure.
We get insight into how Buffett deals with distractions and obligations via his personal pilot, Michael Flint. Buffett once walked Flint through his three-step strategy for prioritization [1], and I invite you to try it right now in order to truly get the message:
1. First, Buffett had Flint write down his top 25 goals on a piece of paper. Go ahead and write your goals down now.
2. Next, he had him circle the top 5. So far, nothing special.
3. Finally, he had Flint take the 20 goals he did NOT circle and put them on an “avoid-at-all-cost” list. This is the step where you see Buffett’s true prioritization genius. At this point, most people would simply just focus on the top 5 goals and intermittently work on the rest of the goals. Not Buffett though. He advised Flint: “No matter what, these things get no attention from you until you’ve succeeded with your top 5.”
Buffett’s strategy gets at a few fundamental truths:
• 20% of our priorities typically account for 80% of our results. Buffett’s top five priorities are 20% of 25. For more on the 80/20 Rule, read my article: This Is Exactly How You Should Train Yourself To Be Smarter [Infographic]
• The real threats to our time are not obvious distractions that we know are wrong. Rather, the real threats are the wolves in sheep’s clothing — activities which make us feel like we’re working hard, but that do not ultimately move the needle. Buffett’s three-step approach inoculates against these!
• The real challenge to prioritization is saying, “No!” It’s easy to say yes. What’s hard is saying no to busy work that gives you the satisfaction of checking an item off your to do list — meeting an obligation to someone else, doing an easy task, writing an email.
■ Buffett Strategy #2: Only work with people you could see yourself working with forever
“If you can’t see yourself working with someone for life, don’t work with them for a day.” — Naval Ravikant
Similar to how Buffett audits his work activities, he also audits who he works with.
Buffett ONLY works with CEOs he trusts, who get results, and who he can see himself working with for decades. As a result, he does incredibly little negotiation and due diligence before he buys a company, and doesn’t actively manage the CEOs of the business he owns. Furthermore, he enjoys the conversations he has with the CEOs.
(Notice the word “trust.” Buffett has passed up on purchasing many companies with attractive financials who had CEOs he did not trust.)
Buffett applies the same criteria to the people on his team — many of them have been with him for decades.
■ Buffett Strategy #3: Keep things super, super simple
Buffett has cut out nearly all of the bureaucracy in his company. Berkshire Hathaway’s portfolio companies have nearly 400,000 employees, but its actual headquarters has only two dozen employees or so. Here is a photo from the 2014 Christmas Party of one of the largest companies in the world:
Buffett’s personal life is also very simple. He lives in a modest home (the same one he has been in for 60 years), and he only spends $100,000 per year personally.
As we grow in our careers, in our companies, and in our lives, it’s extremely easy to add complexity. In fact, it’s the norm.
As you get more profit, it’s normal to hire more employees. As you earn more money, it’s normal to spend more and more.
What’s truly powerful and unique is to keep things simple. That takes effort and skill. And, that is part of Buffett’s genius.
It’s odd to say this, but one of the world’s richest people may also be one of its biggest minimalists when you compare the lifestyle he could live to the one he chooses to live.
■ Buffett Strategy #4: Focus on a few, high-quality bets
Warren Buffett only makes a handful of investments per year.
I remember when I first heard this, I was shocked. “How can the wealthiest investor in human history do so few deals?”
William Thorndike gives us the answer to this question in his book, The Outsiders:
“Buffett believes that exceptional returns come from concentrated portfolios, that excellent investment ideas are rare, and he has repeatedly told students that their investing results would improve if at the beginning of their careers, they were handed a twenty-hole punch card representing the total number of investments they could make in their investing lifetimes. As he summarized in the 1993 annual report, ‘We believe that a policy of portfolio concentration may well decrease risk if it raises, as it should, both the intensity with which an investor thinks about a business and the comfort level he must feel with its economic characteristics before buying into it.”
Buffett explains his philosophy in the following clip from the Becoming Warren Buffett documentary:
In short, Buffett says:
“The trick in investing is just to sit there and watch pitch after pitch go by and wait for the one right in your sweet spot. If people are yelling, ‘Swing, you bum,’ ignore them.”
■ Buffett Strategy #5: Focus on long-term bets
Buffett holds his bets for extraordinarily long periods.
According to investor William Thorndike, author of The Outsiders…
“He has held his current top five stock options for over twenty years on average. This compares with an average holding period of less than one year for the typical mutual fund. This translates into an exceptionally low level of investment activity, characterized by Buffett as “inactivity bordering on sloth.”
(I wrote more about how Buffett focuses on a few big bets in this article.)
Buffett applies a similar concept to investing in knowledge that will pay him back forever. In the only authorized biography of Buffett, his biographer comments on what she learned from him:
“The things you do learn and invest in should be knowledge that is cumulative, so that the knowledge builds on itself. So instead of learning something that might become obsolete tomorrow, like some particular type of software [that no one even uses two years later], choose things that will make you smarter in 10 or 20 years. That lesson is something I use all the time now.”
(I wrote more about how knowledge compounds in Why Successful People Spend 10 Hours A Week On “Compound Time”)
Buffett is not alone in thinking long-term.
Sam Altman, the president of Y Combinator, the largest accelerator in the world, refers to long-term thinking as “one of the few arbitrage opportunities left in the market.” Jeff Bezos measures the success of new programs over seven-year time frames, while most other public companies think in three-month increments. (I go deeper into Bezos’ long-term thinking philosophy in this article.)
■ Buffett Strategy #6: Avoid the technology bandwagon
One would think that the greatest investor of all time (the GOAT if you will) stays on top of the latest technologies in order to stay up-to-date.
Interestingly, the opposite is true. Here are few examples:
• He has never had a computer at his office
• He has never used a stock ticker
• He does NOT have a smartphone
These unique choices show a few things about Buffett:
• Buffett is very clear on what data he needs to know in order to make an investment.
• He is confident enough in his thinking that he is willing to NOT do what is popular .
• He proactively removes potential distractions from his environment rather than depending on willpower.
Here’s How To Apply Buffett’s Core Mental Model
Now, you understand. Warren Buffett’s free time to read and think isn’t just a fluke. He’s designed his life for it.
And these aren’t random strategies… They are all derived from a critical mental model — the 80/20 Rule — the fact that 20% of efforts cause 80% of the results across many areas of our life. In each domain of his life — relationships, investments, technologies, priorities — Buffett is a master at ruthlessly prioritizing the few things that matter and cutting out everything else.
So, now the question is: how do you actually consistently and masterfully apply the 80/20 Rule to your life.
While Buffett’s 3-step process is extremely helpful on a theoretical level, I’ve also found it lacking on a practical level. It misses a lot of the nuance that can derail the plans of us mere mortals.
For example, simple putting something on an “avoid-at-all-cost” list is not enough. It takes work and skill to avoid these tasks in my experience. In addition, prioritization takes time, which means you need to make it a new habit, and creating consistent habits take hard work and skill.
So, here is the adapted 13-step process I use so you can prioritize your schedule with the 80/20 Rule:
1. Determine your true values.
When you prioritize without having clear values, your goals often end up feeling empty. Without your own north star, the goals you set are often the result of the values of the cultures you have previously been in. Therefore, your goals aren’t truly your goals. I first learned about value setting in Value-Focused Thinking: A Path to Creative Decision-making.
2. Determine your true goals.
Without setting clear goals, your daily priorities become overwhelmed with urgent tasks that have a short-term payoff that make you feel good. Having clear values-based goals keep you focused on what matters short-term and long-term.
3. Set aside time for prioritization.
I recommend setting aside the following blocks in your calendar as a bare minimum: 15 minutes daily, 1 hour weekly, 3 hours quarterly, 1 day yearly.
4. Make a list of everything you have to do.
Getting it out of your head and onto paper is cathartic, and it gives you the fodder for the rest of the steps. I learned the power of this step from David Allen’s Getting Things Done.
5. Circle the top 20% of priorities that will give 80% of the results.
This is where you separate the wheat from the chaff. It’s where you rise above information overwhelm and get perspective on what really matters and can move the needle.
6. Practice the 80/20 Rule like you would any other skill.
Applying the 80/20 Rule doesn’t just mean asking yourself, “What’s most important?” and then moving on. Prioritization is a skill. By learning and then using different mental models such as the bottleneck analysis, ICE method, or the critical path approach, you get different ways of seeing your priorities. Every time you set your priorities is an opportunity to practice becoming better at prioritization.
7. Identify the single most important priority.
The 80/20 Rule is fractal. Meaning that within each 80/20 there is another 80/20. So, if you narrow down a list of 25 priorities to five priorities, you can then apply the 80/20 Rule again to focus on the one priority that gives you 80% of the results of the five priorities. I learned the power of narrowing down priorities another level via The One Thing.
8. Do your “one thing” first.
When our day starts, we have the most energy and the least distractions. This makes it the perfect time to tackle the hardest, most important activity. If you leave your one thing for later in the day, it will probably not get done on that day. I learned about managing my days based on my energy levels in The Power Of Full Engagement.
9. Collect and measure metrics primarily on your “one thing.”
The mind loves metrics, especially public metrics. This is why social media platforms can so effectively train us to maximize our followers, likes, and comments. When these vanity metrics increase, we feel like we’re making progress and doing important work. But, at the end of the day, if you run a business, what matters more is tracking profit first. If you run a non-profit, what matters more is improving the world. If you are trying to reduce loneliness, what matters more is how many high quality interactions you have with close friends. My business changed overnight when I took the time to identify the few metrics that really mattered and then focused religiously on them. Once you do this, your mind automatically and subconsciously thinks about maximizing these important metrics rather than vanity ones.
10. Put everything else on your “avoid-at-all-cost” list.
Just as Buffett suggests you do.
11. Create a pre-mortem for your “avoid-at-all-cost” list.
Here’s the key… the reality is that it takes a ton of energy and discipline not to do certain items on your “avoid-at-all-cost” list. If you are not deliberate, you will likely fall into old habits. To make sure this doesn’t happen, I recommend doing a pre-mortem. With a pre-mortem, you envision your day and ask yourself, “Let’s assume I fall into old habits and get distracted. What was the cause?” By being aware of potential distractions before they happen, we drastically increase the odds of avoiding them.
12. Practice saying no.
Similar to how applying the 80/20 Rule is a skill, so too is saying no. The skill is recognizing areas where we should say no, but don’t and then devising a solution for each situation that actually works.
13. Get both accountability and coaching.
In my experience, I often resist the things that are most important, because they require me to confront my fears and self-sabotaging beliefs. Therefore, I always operate more effectively when I share my priorities with others every day and every week, and when a coach forces me to be brutally honest with myself and gives expert feedback. Accountability helps me put my foot on the accelerator. Coaching helps me remove my other foot from the brake.
Each of these steps is absolutely critical. Miss one of them and your ability to pick and follow through on the right priorities plummets.
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We all have 24 hours in a day. Therefore, “hustling” harder can only get us so far.
Focus is one of the 20% of skills that give us 80% of results in our life. It allows us to accomplish in one year what might take someone else a decade. Furthermore, by focusing on the few things that matter at work, we get back time in our personal life to be healthy and spend time with loved ones.
But remember this: To get the full benefits of focus, we need to look at it as difficult skill that takes years of practice to develop. Focusing sounds simple, but it requires huge emotional and cognitive resources to follow through on consistently. This is why everyone touts the power of focus, but few people actually truly focus.
Warren Buffett’s strategies inspire us all to be one of the few who do.
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[1] Disclaimer: Keep in mind that I came upon the story of Buffett’s pilot through a chain of people I trust, and it has been written about in several top publications. At the same time, I take it with a grain of salt. Thank you to a commenter below who shared this article, I’m not sure if it happened at all, in part, or not at all. Either way, the advice is sound and has had a big impact on my life.
Article source : https://medium.com/accelerated-intelligence/warren-buffett-really-successful-people-say-no-to-almost-everything-ab78832ffebc
< Questions >
- Topic 1 ----------------------------------------------------------
Q1. Do you carry out any treatment to tune your natural capabilities? For example, doing brain exercises, puzzle solving, and getting optimal sleep.
Q2. How can we be more productive with our performance with life’s increasingly complex problems?
Q3. This article suggested that we can improve our performance by using specific mental model which is applying concepts such as the 80/20 rule (Pareto’s principle), compound interest, and network effects. For instance, If you focus your effort on these 20% of tasks first, and get the most out of them, you will be able to drive results much more efficiently than wasting time on the 80% “long tail” shown below.
Do you have any experience to improve your work efficiency by applying 80/20 rule?
Q4. Are you good at making high performance in a short time? Otherwise, do you need longer duration to make your best performance?
Q5. Do you know any effective learning skills?
Q6. Are you a fast learner or a slow learner?
Q7. What is the maximum concentration time at a time?
Q8. What does Pomodoro technique mean?
*** The pomodoro technique is a time management method based on 25-minute stretches of focused work broken by 3-to-5 minute breaks and 15-to-30 minute breaks following the completion of four work periods. ... Each working interval is called a pomodoro, the Italian word for tomato (plural: pomodori).
- Topic 2 ----------------------------------------------------------
Q1. What do you think of Warren Buffit?
Q2. Do you have any role model? Why?
Q3. What value is the most important thing for you when you choose your role model?
Q4. Do you have motto? Why?