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제나이에 어울리는 것만
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age-appropriate
[ eidʒəpróupriət]
제나이에 맞는
나이에 어울리는
우리가 말하는 '친구'와
영어권 국민들의 'friend'는
매우 다르다.
우리의 친구 범위는 매우 제한적인데 비해 'friend'는
아주 넓은 편이다.
AGE-APPROPRIATE relationship especially friend in Korea is much more narrowed than that in America.
한국에서 제 나이에 어울리는 대인관계 특히 친구는
미국의 그것보다 훨씬 좁다.
비교적 미국 사람들을 많이 만났을 때, '황당했던 일' 가운데 하나는ㅡ5살 짜리 어린이에게 친절을 베풀고 재미있게 놀아주면
"This gentleman (somtimes guy) is my new friend.
이 신사 (가끔 사나이)가
내 새로운 친구야,"라고
부모에게 소개할 때였다.
언젠가도 내 옷에 대한 글을 쓴 기억이난다.
I don't think your ripped off jeans are your AGE-APPROPRIATE style.
나는 당신의 찢어진 청바지가
당신 나이에 어울리지
않는다고 생각해.
age-appropriate 는 물론 age 뒤에 appropriate 를 쓴 것이다.
appropriate는 15 세기 Latin어 ad (to)라는 접두어에 propriare (take as one's own / 자신의 것을 갖는다)를
합친 것이므로 age-appropriate 는
그 나이에 어울린다는
낱말의 뿌리를 하고 있다.
내 나이에 어울리지 않는다는
'평 (?)'을 들으면서
내 고집을 꺽지 않으니
10대들이 부모의 (특히 완고한 아버지) 욱박지름에 콧방귀도
꾸지 않을 것이다.
Even though most of fathers want their
daughters to look AGE-APPROPRIATE,
대부분의 아버지들이 그들의
딸들이 나이에 맞게
보이기를 원하지만,
their daughters usually pooh-poo what their fathers
insist or suggest.
그 딸들은 아버지가
주장하거나 제안하는 것에
보통 콧방귀를 꾼다.
자녀 과보호는 아이를 적게 낳는
나라에 사회적 문제가
되고 있는데, 우리 나라 보다
아이를 더 많이 낳는 미국에서도
중요하게 다루고 있다
It’s time we discourage over-supervision of children and encourage giving children AGE-APPROPRIATE opportunities for autonomy.
우리 (미국 성인들)가 자녀들
과보호를 막고 아이들에게
나이에 맞는 자주적 기회를
주는 것을 권장할 때다.
(PsychologyToday, September 4, 2024)
그리고 어린이 과보호를
하지 않는 방법 가운데
하나를 예들었다.
Parents should let their kids walk to school.
부모들은 그들의 자녀들을
학교에 걸어 가게
해야한다.
(어른들 특히 노인도
되도록 많이 걸어야
되겠지만 ㅡ)
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ariah G. Schug Ph.D.
Psychology for Modern Living
CHILD DEVELOPMENT
It’s More Than Just a Walk
Research says parents should let their kids walk to school.
Posted September 4, 2023
Reviewed by Monica Vilhauer
age-appropriate toys
Your style has to be age-appropriate
Their father wanted his daughters to look age-appropriate.
People are talking about age-appropriate relationship.
She doesn't care about being age-appropriate.
Studies link increasing overly protective parenting to the development of depression, anxiety, and phobias.
In a recent commentary in the Journal of Pediatrics, researchers argue that a decrease in independent activity may be the cause for much of the mental health crisis we see among today’s youth.
It’s time we discourage over-supervision of children and encourage giving children age-appropriate opportunities for autonomy.
KEY POINTS
Kids learn through independent activities, like walking to school.
Parents are often unnecessarily worried for their children's safety.
appropriate (v.)
early 15c., appropriaten, "take possession of, take exclusively," from Late Latin appropriatus, past participle of appropriare, adpropriare "to make one's own," from Latin ad "to" (see ad-) + propriare "take as one's own," from proprius "one's own" (see proper). Related: Appropriated; appropriating.
also from early 15c.
appropriate (adj.)
"specially suitable, proper," early 15c., appropriat, from Latin appropriatus, past participle of appropriare "make one's own" (see appropriate (v.)). Related: Appropriately; appropriateness.
also from early 15c.
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ad-
word-forming element expressing direction toward or in addition to, from Latin ad "to, toward" in space or time; "with regard to, in relation to," as a prefix, sometimes merely emphatic, from PIE root *ad- "to, near, at."
Simplified to a- before sc-, sp- and st-; modified to ac- before many consonants and then re-spelled af-, ag-, al-, etc., in conformity with the following consonant (as in affection, aggression). Also compare ap- (1).
In Old French, reduced to a- in all cases (an evolution already underway in Merovingian Latin), but French refashioned its written forms on the Latin model in 14c., and English did likewise 15c. in words it had picked up from Old French. In many cases pronunciation followed the shift.
Over-correction at the end of the Middle Ages in French and then English "restored" the -d- or a doubled consonant to some words that never had it (accursed, afford). The process went further in England than in France (where the vernacular sometimes resisted the pedantic), resulting in English adjourn, advance, address, advertisement (Modern French ajourner, avancer, adresser, avertissement). In modern word-formation sometimes ad- and ab- are regarded as opposites, but this was not in classical Latin.
proper (adj.)
c. 1300, propre, "adapted to some purpose, fit, apt; commendable, excellent" (sometimes ironic), from Old French propre "own, particular; exact, neat, fitting, appropriate" (11c.) and directly from Latin proprius "one's own, particular to itself," from pro privo "for the individual, in particular," from ablative of privus "one's own, individual" (see private (adj.)) + pro "for" (see pro-). Related: Properly; properness. As an adverb, "very exceedingly," from mid-15c., but since 19c. the use is considered vulgar.
From early 14c. as "belonging or pertaining to oneself; individual; intrinsic;" also as "pertaining to a person or thing in particular, special, specific; distinctive, characteristic;" also "what is by the rules, correct, appropriate, acceptable." From early 15c. as "separate, distinct; itself." Meaning "socially appropriate, decent, respectable" is recorded by 1704.
Proper name "name belonging to or relating to the person or thing in question, name given to an individual of a class for distinction from others of the same class" is from c. 1300, a sense also preserved in astronomical proper motion "change in the apparent places of a celestial object in the sky relative to other stars or planets" (c. 1300). Proper noun is from mid-15c.
Over-supervision can hinder child development.
Children can be prepared for safe, independent experiences.
I started walking alone to school at the age of 7. I lived in Milwaukee and crossed a number of busy streets on my route – a circumstance which might be considered dangerous by today’s parents.
Yet, day after day, I arrived to school and back home unscathed. In fact, I took pride in knowing every street name, every crosswalk, and even a shortcut on my route.
Now, as a psychology professor who researches childhood exploration, I recognize that these walks were part of a childhood that trained me to confidently engage with a world full of complex challenges.
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Fewer Kids Are Walking to School
Fifty years ago, it is estimated that almost half of American children walked to school.
Today the number is closer to 15%. While much of this decline can be explained by a desire to keep children safe from perceived dangers, a recent policy report from the Society for Research in Child Development argues that kids need time away from constant adult supervision for healthy development.
They cite walking to school as an ideal opportunity for independent development. When combined with the fact that many cities are now experiencing bus driver shortages, it is now time to reconsider how children get to school.
Kids Learn Through Independence
When children have the freedom to travel through their neighborhood without direct adult supervision, they develop critical skills.
Independent walking promotes risk assessment, social competencies, environmental knowledge, problem solving, and decision making abilities.
These impacts appear to carry into adulthood. Adults who stayed closer to home as children seem to be more anxious when navigating in adulthood.
Similarly, my own work suggests they may have less developed spatial skills – skills which are critical in STEM fields.
Overprotective Parenting Is a Problem
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Studies link increasing overly protective parenting to the development of depression, anxiety, and phobias.
In a recent commentary in the Journal of Pediatrics, researchers argue that a decrease in independent activity may be the cause for much of the mental health crisis we see among today’s youth.
It’s time we discourage over-supervision of children and encourage giving children age-appropriate opportunities for autonomy.
Today’s shift away from walking to school likely began for a number of reasons, including parental fears. However, these fears are less compelling in light of the relevant data.
One of the biggest barriers to kids walking independently is concerns about traffic. Yet, developmental experts note that by the age of 8, most children are capable of safely traveling to school alone. What is critical is preparation. Kids need to be taught the route they will travel and how to safely cross busy streets.
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Another issue is anxiety about strangers. Many parents misperceive the modern world as being more dangerous than it was when they were children. This may be due to increasingly alarmist media coverage. However, the data show that abductions by strangers are extraordinarily rare. Moreover, recent technology gives parents new tools to track their children’s whereabouts, providing greater peace of mind. Because either walking alone or with friends can be effective, parents can also seek out peer companions for their children.
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Prepare Kids for Independence
However, this is not to say that we can blithely ignore the potential dangers that strangers may pose. Instead, promoting independence includes instructing children on the life skills needed to stay safe. Children can be taught how to identify and avoid dangerous situations and learn when to ask for help and from whom. When we consider that teaching children to never talk to strangers has led to serious problems, like the case of the lost Boy Scout who avoided members of his own search party, the cost of not developing these skills is clear.
Importantly, there is no single age at which all children are capable of walking places alone. While some 7-year-olds may be ready, some 9-year-olds may not. Parents are the experts on their own children’s abilities and are well-positioned to make these judgments.
Admittedly, families who live too far from their school or live in neighborhoods coping with frequent violence may not have the option to let their children walk. These families may seek out other opportunities for their children to develop autonomy.
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But those who live close enough and in safe locations should consider the important, albeit daunting, task of preparing and allowing their children to walk to school.
It is not possible to protect kids from every possible danger in the world. Moreover, our efforts to protect may actually harm children by denying them critical developmental experiences. Instead, to paraphrase an old saying, we need to prepare the child for the road because we cannot prepare the road for the child.