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과장된 겉 장식은
내적 결함이 내포되어있다
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facade
[fəsάːd]
정면, 외관
허울
겉으로 보이는 것에 신경을 쓰고 남에게 잘 보이려고
노력하는 것이 어쩌면 인간의 본능일 것이다.
그런 의미에서 겉모습을 화려한 의상과 뛰어난
화장 예술 (?)로 아름답게 꾸미는 여성들은 '비교적'
겉 장식에 관심을 덜두는 남성에 비해 '창조력'이
뛰어난다는 주장이 설득력이 있지 않을까..?!
Most of females including young girls do their best to maintain a FACADE of their 'external beauty.'
어린 여자 아이들을 포함한
대부분의 여성들은
그들의 외적미의 정면 (허울)을 유지하도록 최선을 다한다.
옛날에 비해 겉모습을 꾸미는
사람의 수는 물론
그 기술도 놀랍도록 발달하고
있다.
그 기술은 '속'을 감추기 위해
'겉' 치장의 기술이 발달했다는
뜻도 된다.
마치 facade 의 정의를 실천하려는 듯...
A FACADE is the fake face someone puts on to deceive others.
허울뿐인 것은 다른 사람들을 속이기 위한 '가짜 (가면)'
얼굴이다.
그런 겉모습의 그릇된 현상이 가정에 생기면 문제다.
그래서 이련 충고를 한다
Don’t put up a FACADE in front of your wife.
당신의 아내 앞에서 (겉과 속이 다른) 모습을 짓지 말라.
facade 는 Latin 어 facia 가 그 뿌리인데 얼굴 (face) 이라는
뜻이다.
얼굴은 다른 사람 앞에서 자신을 가장 잘 보여주는 '도구 (?)'이다.
그 도구를 '허울뿐'일 때
문제가 된다.
그리고 종종 민주주의의 얼굴이 정치인에 의해
본질을 흐리고 있어서 문제도
된다.
We are fed up with this FACADE of democracy.
우리는 민주주의의 잘못된 모습에 진절머리 나고 있다.
(민주주의가 남용될 때,
옛날 같은 군주제로
돌아갔으면 좋겠다는
생각까지 하게 된다)
다음과 같은 글에
공감하는 사람도 많다.
When individuals consistently present an idealized image of their relationship on social media, the pressure to sustain this FACADE
can suppress honest communication and the expression of genuine emotions.
개인들이 사회적 미디어에
그들 대인관계의 이상적 모습을
꾸준히 들어낼 때,
그런 겉모습을 지탱하려는
압력은 정직한 대화와
진정한 감정 표현을
억압할 수 있다.
(Psychology Today, November 5, 2023)
I hope Korean voters can sense the hostility lurking behind the poitician's
polite smiling FACADE.
나는 한국 유권자들이
그 정치인의 예의 바르고
미소짓는 표현 뒤에
숨겨진 적대감정을
알아채릴 수 있기를 희망한다.
California Eureka
When individuals consistently present an idealized image of their relationship on social media, the pressure to sustain this FACADE
can suppress honest communication and the expression of genuine emotions.
She will eventually be able to look through it and figure out that you are deceiving her.
it is not easy to find out who is behind the facade.
The façade of the building, although elegant, does not reflect the luxury within.
They hid the troubles plaguing their marriage behind a facade of family togetherness.
her flawless public facade masked private despair"
Jourdan Travers LCSW
Hard, Cold Research
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3 Reasons to Exit a "Cloutlighting" Love Dynamic
When individuals consistently present an idealized image of their relationship on social media, the pressure to sustain this FACADE
can suppress honest communication and the expression of genuine emotions.
These interior facades were even more tragic than the exterior.
She managed to maintain a facade of bravery.
We are fed up with this facade of democracy.
신물나
With "cloutlighting," you have two choices: address it immediately or move on.
Posted November 5, 2023
Reviewed by Devon Frye
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In the evening the facade is floodlit.
조명을 받은
In the evening the facade is floodlit.
His facade of disinterest infuriated her.
They were trying to preserve the facade of a happy marriage.
I could sense the hostility lurking behind her polite facade
key POINTS
The term "cloutlighting" refers to the exploitation of one’s most intimate relationships to gain online influence and popularity through manipulation and deception.
It happens when individuals use one’s partner to create content, including practical jokes that often go too far or grand romantic gestures that are more plastic than pure, recording their reactions and sharing them with their online world.
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The most damaging aspect of cloutlighting, apart from the obvious erosion of trust, is that the perpetrators almost never realize the emotional and psychological toll they exact on their partners.
They may justify their actions as “just for laughs” or “sharing their happiness,” neglecting the potential consequences on their relationships.
Beneath the facade of entertainment,
cloutlighting can damage even the most stable romantic partnerships in several ways. Here are three.
1. Erosion of Authenticity
When individuals consistently present an idealized image of their relationship on social media, the pressure to sustain this facade can suppress honest communication and the expression of genuine emotions.
Striving to meet the expectations of their online personas may lead couples to keep up this manufactured reality, preventing them from honestly sharing their feelings and concerns.
facade (n.)
1650s, "front of a building," from French façade (16c.), from Italian facciata "the front of a building," from faccia "face," from Vulgar Latin *facia (see face (n.)). Figurative use by 1845.
also from 1650s
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face (n.)
c. 1300, "the human face, a face; facial appearance or expression; likeness, image," from Old French face "face, countenance, look, appearance" (12c.), from Vulgar Latin *facia (source also of Italian faccia), from Latin facies "appearance, form, figure," and secondarily "visage, countenance," which probably is literally "form imposed on something" and related to facere "to make" (from PIE root *dhe- "to set, put").
Replaced Old English andwlita "face, countenance" (from root of wlitan "to see, look") and ansyn, ansien, the usual word (from the root of seon "see"). Words for "face" in Indo-European commonly are based on the notion of "appearance, look," and are mostly derivatives from verbs for "to see, look" (as with the Old English words, Greek prosopon, literally "toward-look," Lithuanian veidas, from root *weid- "to see," etc.). But in some cases, as here, the word for "face" means "form, shape." In French, the use of face for "front of the head" was given up 17c. and replaced by visage (older vis), from Latin visus "sight."
From late 14c. as "outward appearance (as contrasted to some other reality);" also from late 14c. as "forward part or front of anything;" also "surface (of the earth or sea), extent (of a city)." Typographical sense of "part of the type which forms the letter" is from 1680s.
Whan she cometh hoom, she raumpeth in my face And crieth 'false coward.' [Chaucer, "Monk's Tale"]
Face to face is from mid-14c. Face time is attested from 1990. To lose face "lose prestige" (1835), is from Chinese tu lien; hence also save face (1898; see save). To show (one's) face "make or put in an appearance" is from mid-14c. (shewen the face). To make a face "change the appearance of the face in disgust, mockery, etc." is from 1560s. Two faces under one hood as a figure of duplicity is attested from mid-15c.
The desire for likes and shares can eclipse the fundamental elements of a healthy relationship, rooted in open and honest communication.
Consequently, couples may conceal their true emotions, suppress concerns, and neglect addressing issues that need resolution.
This undermines the core of a strong partnership, where honesty and open communication are indispensable for building trust, emotional intimacy, and mutual understanding.
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Research confirms that viewing one’s partner as authentic results in improved relationship outcomes, including increased trust, stronger commitment, and enhanced satisfaction. To maintain authenticity in the face of social media pressures:
Embrace imperfections. Share real moments—the highs and the lows. Remember, people relate to authentic stories.
Dedicate quality time without social media distractions, focusing on meaningful experiences together.
2. Erosion of Privacy
Another concerning aspect of cloutlighting is the gradual loss of privacy. When one partner regularly discloses personal details, it can blur the line between what should remain private and what can be shared publicly. Despite precautions, research indicates that online social networks can inadvertently reveal connections between users, even when the networks are designed to anonymize identities.
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This invasion of personal privacy can trigger discomfort and insecurity in the relationship, leading to reduced trust and emotional vulnerability. The loss of privacy can leave couples without the protective shield of personal space and private conversations, potentially straining the relationship and causing misunderstandings.
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As the desire for public validation overshadows personal boundaries, it’s crucial for couples to address and navigate this loss of privacy to maintain a healthy and resilient connection.
To safeguard your relationship’s privacy on social media:
Set clear boundaries for what aspects of your life stay private.
Regularly check in with your partner to ensure that you’re both comfortable with the level of personal information being shared.
3. Unrealistic Expectations and Comparisons
Cloutlighting gives rise to unrealistic expectations and harmful comparisons in romantic relationships. Numerous studies indicate that social comparison generally has a negative impact on self-evaluation and emotions.
In the context of relationships, people often unknowingly measure their partnerships against unattainable standards set by seemingly flawless influencers. This can lead to dissatisfaction, jealousy, and feelings of inadequacy. Partners may mistakenly believe their relationship should mirror the idealized versions they see online, resulting in conflict and discontent.
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The constant comparison to these idealized images can divert attention from the unique qualities, dynamics, and joys that make each relationship special and genuine. This diminishes the capacity to appreciate and nurture a bond, potentially undermining emotional well-being. Recognizing the worth of one's unique relationship is better than striving for an unrealistic ideal.
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To address the issue:
Cultivate gratitude for your unique bond. Make a habit of acknowledging and valuing what makes your relationship unique and fulfilling.
Boost media literacy. Recognize social media's curated and filtered glimpses of reality. Discuss and remind each other that influencers and celebrities are not representative of everyday life.
Conclusion
Social media, despite its power, presents challenges such as cloutlighting, which can damage personal relationships. Understanding its impact and maintaining private communication aids couples in overcoming these challenges and maintaining a healthy, loving relationship. To increase likes and shares on your preferred social media platform, choose positive, benign, and creative content that captivates and amuses your audience without causing harm or distress, especially to your loved ones.