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fragility
[frədʒíləti]
부서지기 쉬움
허약
Shakespeare 의 'Hamlet'에서
주인공 Hamlet 의 그의 어머니의 잦은 (?) 결혼에 실망해서인지
"Frailty, thy name is woman."이라고 했다.
(thy 는 your의 옛말)
Hamlet 이 한국에 살았더라면, "Fraility, thy name is man,"이라 했을텐데...
그러나 나는 Hamlet 의 "약한자여, 그대 이름은 여성이다,"를
이렇게 풀이한 적이 있었다 (내가 비교적 젊고 강한 남자였을 때)
"I insisted that beauty is FRAGILE."
나는 아름다움은 약하다 (부서지기 쉽다)고 주장했다.
Hamlet 도 자신을 낳아 길러준 어머니의 아름다움을 보고,
"약한 자여, 그대 이름은 여성이다,"라고 독백했을지도 모른다.
fragility 는 fragile 의 명사이며,
12 세기의 Latin 어 fragility (easily broken)이 그 뿌리이지만
1400년 대에 들어와서 moral weakness (도덕적 약함)라는 뜻으로도 쓰이기 시작했다.
며칠 전에 읽은 글 (Psychology Today, December 7, 2023)의
제목은 "What Is Fragile in Your Life?
(당신의 삶에서 쉽게 부서지는 것 / 무너지는)이다
그 글 가운데 ㅡ
Be mindful of both actual and potential
FRAGILITY in yourself and others.
"당신과 다른 사람들 안에 있는 실제적이고
가능한 취약점 양쪽에 마음을 두라,"고 했다.
그 글의 일부를 더 소개하겠다.
Part of the truth is that things bruise, tear, erode, disperse, or end;
they are FRAGILE
(다시 말하면) 사물들 (인간이 원하는 모든것)은 상처를 주며, 찢어지고
침식 (侵蝕) 되며 흩어지거나 끝장을 낸다
즉 모무 부서지기 쉬운 것이다.
부끄러운 한국의 정치 세계도 문제지만
부끄러운 정치인이 마치 자신들의 교주 (敎主) 처럼
맹신 (盲信)하는 국민들이 있다는 것이 더 문제다
그들의 눈에는 이런 사람이 안 보이는 것일까,
아니면 보고도 모르는체 하는 것일까...?!
The politician leader's unalterable FRAGILITY is beyond dispute.
그 정치 지도자의 불변의 취약점은 논란의 여지가 없다.
His stupid follwers try to see what they want to see
and hear what they want to hear
그의 멍청한 추종자들은 그들이 보고 싶은 것을 보고
듣고 싶은 것을 본다.
Most of you and I don't think they know that's their FRAGILITY.
대부분의 당신들과 나는 그들이 그들의 취약점을 모른다고 생각한다.
I became so weak and FRAGILE that I can scarecely do what I want.
나는 너무 약하고 부서지기 쉽게 되어서
내가 원하는 것을 거의 할 수 없다.
What is FRAGIBILITY in your life?
당신의 삶 속의 취약점은 무엇인가?
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Rick Hanson Ph.D.
Your Wise Brain
SELF-HELP
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What Is Fragile in Your Life?
Be mindful of both actual and potential
fragility in yourself and others.
Posted December 7, 2023
Reviewed by Jessica Schrader
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a film about the fragility of relationships"
The point was
that beauty is fragile.
My fragile ego is in no doubt
There was an air of fragility about him.
She was so weak and fragile.
The island - state's unalterable fragility is beyond dispute.
불변의 논란의 여지
Keep the ring's fragility in mind when searching for the right ring.
You see, babies are born in a state of utter fragility.
KEY POINTS
Part of the truth is that things bruise, tear, erode, disperse, or end; they're fragile.
Love and other feelings change. Bodies get ill, age, and die. You get mistreated, and good feelings fade.
Notice any discomfort with recognizing fragility.
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The truth of anything is like a mosaic with many tiles and many parts.
One part of the truth of things is that they are robust and enduring, whether it's El Capitan in Yosemite or the love of a child for her mother and father.
Another part of the truth is that things bruise, tear, erode, disperse, or end—fundamentally, they're fragile. Speaking of El Capitan, I knew of someone climbing it who had just placed anchors above a long horizontal crack when the sheet of granite he was standing on broke off to fall like a thousand-ton pancake to the valley floor below (he lived, clutching his anchors).
fragility (n.)
late 14c., "moral weakness," from Old French fragilité "debility, frailty" (12c.), from Latin fragilitatem (nominative fragilitas) "brittleness, weakness," from fragilis "brittle, easily broken," from root of frangere "to break" (from PIE root *bhreg- "to break"). Meaning "quality of being easily broken" is from late 15c.
also from late 14c.
mid-14c., freylte, from Old French fraileté "frailty, weakness," from Latin fragilitatem (nominative fragilitas) "weakness, frailty," from fragilis "fragile" (see fragility). Related: Frailties.
Love and other feelings often change in a family. Bodies get ill, age, and die.
Milk spills, glasses break, people mistreat you, and good feelings fade.
One's sense of calm or worth is easily disturbed.
Wars start and then end badly. Planets heat up, and hurricanes flood cities.
Earthquakes cause tidal waves and damage nuclear reactors.
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Life is like a house of cards, and a single gust—a layoff at work, an injury, a misjudgment, a bit of bad luck—can knock it over.
Taking a longer view, several billion years from now, our Sun will swell into a giant red star that consumes
Mercury, Venus, and Earth: the Grand Canyon and the Pacific Ocean, and all the works of humankind, will come to an end, utterly fragile.
Sometimes we overestimate the fragility of things, as when we don't recognize the deep wells of inner strength in ourselves and others.
But I think we are more likely to deny or downplay the true extent of fragility: it's scary to realize how delicate and vulnerable your body is, or the threads that bind you to others—so easily frayed by a single word—or the balance of climate and ecology on our planet.
It's scary and humbling, neither of which people like, to face the underlying frailty of the body, how easy it is for a relationship to go awry, the ways that so many of us are overextended and running on fumes, the rickety underpinnings of the global financial system, the deep fissures within many nations, or the unpredictability and intensity of Mother Nature.
But if we don't recognize fragility, we'll miss chances to protect and nurture so many things that matter, and we'll be needlessly surprised and upset when things do inevitably fall apart. We need to embrace fragility—to see it clearly and take it into our arms—to be grounded in truth, peaceful amidst life's changes and endings, and resourceful in our stewardship of the things we care about.
The Practice
Simply be mindful of fragility—both actual and potential. Notice how many things do break, defined broadly, and notice how many more there are that could break and eventually will: "things" such as physical objects (e.g., cup, blouse, body, species, ecosystem, Earth's crust), relationships, projects, agreements, states of mind, lives, and societies.
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Notice any discomfort with recognizing fragility. Be aware of the other tiles in the mosaic—such as stability, resilience, and repair—that can help you push through this discomfort. Appreciate that it is the fragility of things that often makes them most precious.
See the fragility of others and their pains and losses related to all the things that have "broken" or could break for them. See the delicacy of their feelings, sensitivities, and vulnerabilities in their sense of worth or well-being. Let this knowing about others—both people you're close to and those you're not, even people who are difficult for you—open your heart to them. Knowing the fragility of others will naturally lead you away from being harsh or unkind to them.
See the brevity and flimsiness of your own life and the fragility of your hopes and dreams: why wait another day to do all that you reasonably can to fulfill them?
Consider where you are unnecessarily fragile—perhaps too prickly about criticism, too vulnerable to a slumping mood, too prone to illness, too indebted, too isolated at work (or in life altogether), or too under-resourced in any significant area—and make a realistic plan for shoring these up. For example, I've been getting run down and have realized I really need to make sleep a higher priority.
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Do what's in your heart about what's fragile in our world, whether it's an ailing elderly person next door or disaster victims across an ocean.
Ultimately, try to come to peace with the inevitable: all things fall apart, one way or another. Everything cracks. And yet there is something so beautiful about this part of the truth, as Leonard Cohen says much more eloquently than I can:
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Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in
That's how the light gets in
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