Topic 2: How to Have a Long Term
Relationship
Steps
1. Begin by simply being friends with the person you
are seeking a relationship with. This stage is vital as it allows you to learn
more about your partner, as well as confirm/deny your
feelings towards a relationship with them.
2. Going off the basis that a good long term
relationship is based around love, we can look into how love is defined. Dr.
Sternberg (a psychologist who studied love) put forth an article speaking of
the different aspects of love. In short, there are three vital components that
make up true love (or consummate love).
These components are Intimacy, Passion,
and Commitment. The intimacy portion of love is that of friends; You enjoy
spending time together, and have grown rather close strictly If you rush
head-first into passion without considering the needs of a very close friend,
somebody is going to end up hurt.
The final, and equally important, aspect is
that of Commitment. There are two forms of commitment, short-term and
long-term. Short-term commitment is the thought of simply saying "I am
willing to love this person" this may not involve a necessary long term
commitment, but it is the initial choice that one makes before entering the
relationship.
The long-term aspect (and the one we're discussing) is the choice
to remain with said person for an extended portion of time. When all three
aspects are fulfilled, consummate love is attained.
3. Now that you fully understand what love is, you can
make your own assumptions as to what you need to do. While every aspect does
not need to be instantly attained (IE. some portions may come later in the
relationship) usually all need to be present in order to maintain a healthy
long term relationship.
Tips
1. Communication can be the key. Although early on
there may be nervous apprehension, this is all part of the game. In time
though, you may need to be fully frank with someone and let them know how you
feel.
2. Remember to TAKE IT SLOW! A long-term relationship
is something to work towards, it is not just given to you. Just make sure that
neither you, nor your partner is uncomfortable with any aspect of the
relationship you are in and you'll be fine.
Questions
1. Between long term relationship and short term
relationship, Which one do you prefer?
2. Even some people try to having long-term
relationship, it's not easy to them to keep their relationship..
So, Are there any tips to keep long term relationship?
3. Do you love yourself? Do you think kinda self-holic
affect to relationship? how does it work?
Is there bad side effects or good side effects?
4. Do you believe in Soul-mate?
5. Have u ever met your soul mate? If you say yes, Why
did you let him/her go?
If you say no, what do you do-something to meet your
soul-mate?
6. Do you think ego or pride ruin relationship ?
7. What is the difference between love and being in
love?
8. Is it more important to love or be loved?
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