blatantly / concerted contingencies / prodded self-efficacy

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긍정적 신년 맞이

영어 이야기 

concerted

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합심하는

결연한

2023년은 돌이킬 수 없는 과거에 묻혀지고

2024년이라는 희망찬 366 일을 가슴 설레는 마음으로 맞을 때다

(물론 1년은 365일이지만 금년은 윤년 (閏年)이므로 366일을 살 수 있음)

사람마다 크고 작은 희망과 소원을 가지고 새해를 맞는데

나는 막연하지 않은 구체적 계획을 세운다

 It's time for us to take CONCERTED action for our hope in the year of 2024

우리가 2024년에 우리의 희망을 위해 힘음 합해 행동을 할 때다 

이런 제안 또는 희망이 나 자신에게만 해당되지 않고

분단국은 물론 분렬국 (分裂國)이 되어버린 대한민국 

정치꾼들에게 적합한 문장일 것이다.

그들에게 당부한다.

Never cause fragmentation but take CONCERTED effort to be one.

분렬을 일으키지 말고 하나가 되기 위해 

혼신 (渾身)의 노력을 취하라.

concerted는 우리가 자주 쓰는 concert (음악 연주회) 의 과거분사인데

1600년 중반의 Latin어 concentare 에 언어적 뿌리를 두며

구체적으로 말하면 con (together) + cantare (sing) 이다.

노래 (음악)를 함께 한다 (합창이나 합주처럼)라는 뜻이다.

위에서도 언급했지만 

정치를 비롯한 다른 공동체가 음악의 법칙을 좇아

하모니를 위해 자신은 양보하는 너그러움이 요구된다.

너무 거장하지 않게 쓰여지는 concerted ~

Most of students are CONCERTED on finding a job after graduation.

대부분의 학생들은 졸업 후에

직업을 얻기 위해 혼신의 노력을 다하고 있다

새해를 맞는 우리 대부분의 공통점은 

후회스러운 옛것은 과감히 버리고 새로운 것을 얻기 위해

새로운 각오를 한다는 것이다.

그러기 위해서는

Positive change and growth, as we all know it, don't come spontaneously and automatically.
우리가 잘 알다싶이 긍정적인 변화와 성장은

자발적이고 자동적으로 오지 않으며
but it requires intentional, concerted effort and continual practice and maintenance.

확고한 의지와 젖먹던 힘까지 사용하며

지속적인 행동과 관리가 필수적이다

(Psychology Today, December 30, 2023)

For what are you CONCERTED effort in the year of 2024?

당신은 2024년에 무엇을 위해 혼신의 노력을 다할 것인가..?!

for me to be healthier than 2023.

나는 2023년 보다 더 건강하기 위해 (힘을 다할 것이다_

California Eureka

Latin concentare "to sing together," from con- + cantare "to sing," as the source of the Italian word in the musical sense)

take CONCERTED action

일치된 행동을 하다

CONCERTED effort

혼신의 노력

they took concerted action to improve school standards

I'm concerted on finding a job after graduation.

I'm concerted on improving my public speaking skills.

The team concerted out a plan to overcome their weaknesses.

What we need is a concerted effort to invest in better practices.

"The community came together in a concerted effort to support the local food bank."

"The students made a concerted effort to study for their exams."

The team made a concerted effort to finish the project on time."

It would not take much concerted action to narrow the gap.

 it's time for concerted action by world leader

He made a concerted effort to win me away from my steady, sweet but boring boyfriend.

Michelle P. Maidenberg Ph.D., MPH, LCSW-R, CGP
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Being Your Best Self
The 10 Personal Growth Questions to Ask Yourself

6. What triggers me?
Posted December 30, 2023
Reviewed by Ray Parker

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KEY POINTS

Positive change and growth require concerted effort and continual practice and maintenance.

Avoiding facing yourself puts you at risk of getting triggered, becoming defensive, and projecting.

Your trigger provides insight and information into what still needs healing and to be directly worked on.

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As we blatantly see on a daily basis, life is short, fragile, and uncertain.

Moving into the new year is a prime opportunity to reeval‎uate and assess what we left behind and what we have to look forward to.

Positive change and growth, as we all know it, don't come spontaneously and automatically.

It requires intentional, concerted effort and continual practice and maintenance.
일치 단결
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690s, "to contrive, adjust;" 1707, "to contrive and arrange mutually," from French concerter and directly from Italian concertare "to bring into agreement," apparently from Latin concertare "to contend with zealously, contest, dispute, debate" from assimilated form of com "with" (see con-) + certare "to contend, strive," frequentative of certus, variant past participle of cernere "separate, distinguish, decide" (from PIE root *krei- "to sieve," thus "discriminate, distinguish"). Related: Concerted;

concert (n.)

1660s, "agreement of two or more in design or plan; accord, harmony," from French concert (16c.), from Italian concerto "concert, harmony," from concertare "bring into agreement," apparently from Latin concertare "to contend with zealously, contest, dispute, debate" from assimilated form of com "with" (see con-) + certare "to contend, strive," frequentative of certus, variant past participle of cernere "separate, distinguish, decide" (from PIE root *krei- "to sieve," thus "discriminate, distinguish").

The proposed sense evolution between Latin ("to contend with") and medieval Italian  ("bring into agreement") seems extreme and is difficult to explain. Perhaps the shift is from "to strive against" to "to strive alongside" (compare English fight with), or perhaps it is via the notion of "confer, arrange by conference, debate for the sake of agreement." Some have suggested the sense shifted through confusion of Latin concertus with consertus, past participle of concerere "to join, fit, unite."

Sense of "public musical performance," usually of a series of separate pieces, is from 1680s, from Italian (Klein suggests Latin concentare "to sing together," from con- + cantare "to sing," as the source of the Italian word in the musical sense). The general sense of "any harmonious agreement or orderly union" is from 1796. Concert-master "first violinist of an orchestra" is from 1815, translating German Konzertmeister.

concerting.

Anything we want badly enough will inevitably come with a degree of planning, perceived discomfort, and direct effortful action.

You must commit to cultivating and exercising your self-belief, self-efficacy, and self-compassion.

There's no way around it. You need to decide if you are worth investing in personally and sticking it out for, no matter what.

To forge personal growth and pave the way to be your best self, ask yourself these 10 questions daily:

(1) What values inform the way I live my life and my decision-making?

Our values directly guide our behaviors and actions. They are unconditional and have no contingencies.
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If we don't act on a particular value in a given moment, it doesn't disqualify that value or deem it less important to us.

We have the chance to recalibrate, reeval‎uate, and choose how much credence we'll give to a particular value.

In our values, we find our pain; in our pain, we find our values.

Stipulating these values is critical and paves the way for mindful, conscious decision-making.

In my book ACE Your Life: Unleash Your Best Self and Live the Life You Want, chapter two is dedicated to identifying your values and stipulates specific steps to take to live a meaningful and joyful valued life.
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(2) What am I continually believing about myself that sets me up for certain behavioral patterns?

These patterns can be both positive and negative. We have narratives and fixed ideas about who we are, how we are, and the life we're destined to live.

Some negative thoughts include, "I am unlucky," "I'm an angry person," "It's too difficult for me to change," etc.

These thoughts evoke negative feelings and perpetuate maladaptive and sometimes unproductive behaviors and behavior patterns.

(3) What am I avoidant or fearful of facing about myself?

It is crucial to identify what these attributes or negative characteristics are.

If we don't, we run the risk of getting emotionally and somatically triggered, projecting onto others, and becoming defensive and protective in our interactions with ourselves and others.

Facing our imperfections, wounded parts, and adaptations (what helped us survive) can be incredibly validating and freeing.

It can compel us to connect with our vulnerability and relational and compassionate best self.

(4) What is my core belief(s) focused on?

According to Aaron Beck, the father of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT),

our negative core beliefs center around ineffectiveness, unlovability, and helplessness.

Some of us may focus on one or more of these core beliefs. It's helpful to identify which ones so that when you're evoked, you can connect to which one is being prodded and contemplate how to address the challenge with more openness and conscious awareness.

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(5) How does my stuckness benefit me? We desire to work through the stuckness. We would have let it go long ago if we were able to and were desiring to do so.

There's some secondary gain that we get out of our behaviors. They serve a purpose for us. We may not necessarily be proud of or be conscious of what those benefits are, but understanding that better is the key to forging ahead and exponentially improving your life.

(6) What triggers me? Think about your triggers and what evokes you in an intense, emotionally provocative way. This is direct information and insight into letting you know the parts of you that still need healing and need to be directly worked on. We often blame our triggers on others' behaviors. We need to take ownership of what that says about the way we see and think about ourselves. No one triggers you; you get triggered.

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(7) How else can I see this? When you find yourself getting rigid and digging your heels into seeing and thinking about something in a certain way, it's a clear sign of a need for expansion. There are always alternative explanations if we're open to seeing them and seeking them out. No one thinks or feels the way we do despite having similar circumstances. If we ask ourselves this question, we will be more open to asking open-ended questions rather than being accusatory and critical, strengthening our narratives and confirm‎ing our biases.

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(8) How much effort am I willing to put into being proactive? It is much easier and more comfortable to stay in our comfort zone. Our brain is naturally wired to take the path of least resistance, repeat what's familiar, and be considered more "safe." Growing your willingness to be uncomfortable and challenging yourself when your mind tells you to avoid are valuable and necessary skills. It takes consistent practice to create new neural pathways and prove to yourself that seeking new alternatives is both worth it and valuable to you.

(9) Am I taking direct action to be more connected to others? Connection is varied. You get to define what it means to you. Emotionality, an overt display of emotions, can often be confused with connection. One can be tearful without connecting to one's sadness. Connection leads to intimacy and depth in a relationship with others. Expressing what someone means to you, how you feel in another's presence, and what you want or need from another individual is different than telling them what you think about them (i.e., "you're beautiful" or "you're kind" vs. "I care about you," "I enjoy being with you" or "I want to know more about you").

(10) Am I effortfully taking action to connect to myself? We are in the longest relationship with ourselves, which is our most formative relationship. Some were never taught how to increase their confidence, integrate self-compassion, and assert their worthiness and needs.

Reflect on whether you are checking in with yourself regarding your needs. Are you assessing how confident you're feeling about yourself? Also, consciously notice and validate your values, accomplishments, and proactive steps toward living a life of authenticity and purpose.

I continually bear witness to people's pain because of the work I do. I am reminded daily of the fragility and precariousness of life through individual life experiences. We can't take any moment for granted. We have the power to live each moment fully and meaningfully. Take the time and make an effort to leave the past behind, carry forth the lessons, and, most importantly, commit to enhancing yourself because you're worth it.