Looking for stability
2004년이 어느덧 한달이 훌쩍 지났네요.
간만에 들어 오죠?
요즘 회사에 신경 쓸일이 많아서 많이 바쁘네요.
일부러 시간내면 할 수 있는 일인데...
내일은 써야지...하면서도 잘 안되네요..
오늘은 꼭 Dear Annie를 올리자는 맘 가짐으로
이렇게 자판을 두드리네요.
남녀가 살아가는 데는 많은 걸림돌이 있는것 같아요
15년동안 같이 살았지만 결혼은 하지 않고 살 수 있다는
게 어쩌면 신기한 일인 듯 하네요.
그만큼 사랑이 있었기에 가능한 것이 었겠지요..
남자란 가정을 이끌어야 된다는 책임감을 느끼곤 하죠.
애인은 무슨 애인 이렇게 혼자서 중얼 거리면서
취직하면 애인 만들어야지... 하는 님들 많죠..
그러나 그땐 때가 늦는듯 하네요..
그리고 이왕이면 편하게 살고 싶어서
능력되는 남친들 찾는 님들도 계시겠죠..
우리 잉글리쉬 홀릭은 없을거라 믿습니다.
사랑이란 무엇인가 ?
또 한번 괜시리 생각하게 하는 내용입니다.
그놈의 사랑이 무엇인지....
안락한 삶은 무엇인지....?
우리는 편안한 삶을 추구하려고
이렇게 발버둥 치는지 모르겠네요....
영문 내용은 직접 공부 하시길...ㅋㅋ
(게을러짐.. 많이....)
그럼 이만..
점심시간 다 되가네요....ㅠ.ㅠ 한숨 자야 되는디...ㅎㅎ
Dear Annie: I have lived with 'Gene' for almost 15 years, although we are not married. When we first met, we each worked and had a normal life. We bought a great house in the country and had lots of family around. Then Gene was fired from his job for stealing. No charges were pressed, so he decided to retire and travel. He said I was welcome to join him or stay home.
I decided I loved him and nothing else mattered. We've been traveling in an RV and have had a good time, but I want stability. Gene has some good qualities -- he does dishes, helps with laundry and can fix anything. The flip side: he doesn't pay his taxes, refuses to get his vehicle licensed, has no insurance, and often won't pay alimony to his ex-wife. He drinks every night and has a horrible temper.
If Gene asked me to marry him today, I could not. I don't want to hurt him, but I want more. Is that so bad? I believe I could have a much more meaningful life without him, but is that any reason to leave? -- Really Lost in Arizona
Dear Arizona: Well, yes. You've matured, and Gene is stuck, trying to avoid the real world. If you stay in this situation, things are not likely to get better and you will become even less contented than you are now. You deserve to have a satisfying life, with a law-abiding citizen who shares your values and desires. Try couples counseling to see if a compromise can be reached. If not, it may be time to move on.