Keep it up study on May 3rd in 2014

[Alex Jung]

하이~ 리더 Alex 입니다.

창문을 열어 놓으니 션한 바람이 솔솔.. 새가 되고 싶군요..ㅋ

내일 재밌게 공부하고 즐겁게 놀아요 :)

TOPIC 1. The evolution of love and marriage

Writing about marriage, French philosopher Michel de Montaigne lamented, “Marriage is like a cage. The bird outside it wants to get in, but the one inside tries to get out.” Marriage must be a proposition that even Adam and Eve might have agonized over. But is it really so bad? Artists and writers have long pondered this very question.

George Bernard Shaw once compared marriage to business. In one famous quote he said: “It is a woman’s business to get married as soon as possible, and a man’s to keep unmarried as long as he can.” In another quote he offers a reason for his logic: “Marriage is popular because it combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum of opportunity.”

In the past, the reasons for getting married were sex, child-rearing, division of labor and accumulation of riches. But with the increase in women’s status and the development of contraceptives, marriage has evolved from a necessity to a choice.

 That has contributed to the current situation of plunging birthrates and a greater tendency toward cohabitation. In Korea, the number of women choosing not to marry has also increased in recent years. Now, we even have different words for the state of being single. The word “unmarried” is based on the understanding that marriage is a must, whereas “not married” is based on the notion that marriage is a choice.

A recent study found that three out of 10 women in their 30s could be given the label “Gold Miss,” which refers to a free, self-reliant and “not-married” tribe. The problem is not only confined to Korea. “Alpha girls” in the United States and “Shengnu” - surplus women - in China have also become a social problem.

Marriage is difficult, to be sure, and with divorce rates rising around the world, it is hard to have a positive attitude about it. William Shakespeare once said that rushing to the altar wouldn’t bring good results. Henrik Ibsen said that “marriage is something you have to give your whole mind to.” But no one can ignore marriage.

All living creatures are born, go through life and then perish. For them, there is only one duty. But for humans the duty is also a pleasure. Flowers pollinate, lions mate and human beings make love. As the song says: “Love and marriage, love and marriage/Go together like a horse and carriage/This, I tell you brother, you can’t have one without the other.”

Questions

1. Should we get married? Why? Why not?

2. Do you want get mairried? Why? Why not? When?

3. Besides love, talk about some factors related to marriage

4. What`s your ideal type?

5. What`s your parents` influence?

6. Talk about the good things and bad things of marriage.

7. How many children do you want have?

8. If you and your spouse-both are working, how will you share the house chores, such as cleaning, doing laundry, making food and baby sitting?

9. What is the main cause of the rising devorce rate in Korea?

10. How do you think the matchmaking companies?

Topic 2. Past

Are there things in your past that you would rather forget? Do you regret things you did, or opportunities that you missed? Do you sometimes think how different your future will be if only you could change your past? Now there is a scary thought - why would you want to change your past? Think of your life as a series of events.

 Each event has a purpose, otherwise it would not happen. Now think of all those events that you would rather forget or wipe out. What was the purpose of each one of those events? How did each one of them contribute to making you the person you are today? And what kind of person would you have been had it not been for those events? For example, you had the opportunity to study and get a qualification.

At the time you did not want to take on the financial obligations, and you could not imagine yourself being disciplined enough to study for three years. Instead, when your parents finally kicked you out of the nest, you took the first job that came your way. You earned enough to survive and have a good time with your friends. Then one morning you woke up and realized what you had done by turning down the opportunity to study.

 What is next? Too often you get caught in a spiral of self-blame and self-pity. You focus on the missed opportunities and you tell the younger generation not to do what you have done. Do you step back and identify and appreciate everything you have done in the meantime? Do you think of the people who look up at you as their natural leader? Do you list the skills you have gained along the way? Do you look at yourself as a unique person with character traits that are not taught as part of any formal qualification, such as empathy, using your discernment to decide who should be given a hand up and who should be left to learn from their "mistakes", how to manage your finances, and so on?

The list of what you have learned as a result of the route you took is often far longer than the list of things you believe you have lost. So here is the choice: remain stuck in the past and continue to regret and resent the path you have taken, or make a list of everything you have gained and learned, that made you the person you are today. Who you are right now is a result of your past, and your foundation for the future, regardless of how you choose to deal with your past.

The foundation is there. You can use half of it and build a future full of self-blame and self-pity, or you can use the entire foundation and build a future based on appreciation and gratitude for who you have become.

You will make the choice that is right for you.

Questions

1. Do you regret your past something? Why do you think so?

2. What is the most regretful thing in your past? Ex)study, exercise, job, love

3. What did you want to be when you were a student?

4. Do you achieve your dream until now?

5. What was your hobby when you were young?

6. When you meet boy/girl friend, do you really care about their past?

7. What’s your last goal in your life?

[leeyuna]

참석:-D !!

[Alex Jung]

안녕..ㅋ

[Alex Jung]

ㅇㅇ 내일 봐 ㅋ

[STAFF♡]

자료준비하겠습니다!

[May★]

첫 참석하려합니다

[Alex Jung]

반가워요. 환영 ㅋ

[웅이아버지]

첫참석가능한가요

[Alex Jung]

넵.. 환영 함다..ㅋ

[Todd Kim]

저도 댓글...

[Alex Jung]

토드야..!! ㅠㅠ

[Todd Kim]

?? 왜요? 내일 저 한명 데리고 가요~

[Skyler]

저두 첫참석 하려하는데요

[Alex Jung]

넵.. 안녕하세요~

[Tedd]

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