Re:Action speaks louder than words.....

Sunny, Hope you dont mind me saying this... but I think your daughter is rite. You should be living your life to the fullest and be doing things that makes you happy. Husbands can be so insensitive or sometimes suffer from inferiority complex and (for most men) drown into jealousy. Your husband, hope you dont mind me being so blunt, suffer from one of these, a combination of these or from all of it. A cure to all or to any of these is just to drink coffe with him and tell him "I am not happy now and I need to do something about it" Well, hope that works... and again I apologize for being so candid. Richard --------------------- [원본 메세지] --------------------- I was having argument with my daughter the other day(She is only at her 5th grade), and I could not take her certain remarks. She could not accept what I was telling her and tried to give me all those Kakamimi(nonsense) answers. I told her that her mom(of course, it refers to me) is very smart woman and she should respect mom's judgment and listen to mom. She was giving me a doubtful look and told me, "Well, if you are that smart and capable, then proof it to me. Why don't you try yourself to be an anchor woman or war correspondant? You said your wish was always to be the one since your high school. If you are really smart and you know what you wanna be so clearly, why can't you go after with your full heart?" And then, she said "Mom, don't you know the phrase of Action speaks louder than words?" Aha, she had this thought back of her mind and bothered her. It really stunned me and almost shocked me. In a way, I felt so shamed and embarrassed. On the other hand, what she was pointing out could be relevant. Believe me, she is not that rude kid nor she is a spoiled child. She was just so concerned about my happiness and trying to boost me up. Once I was very active working professional and in last about year or so, I am not working full time and only do some occasional work as a freelancer. And it was not by my own will but forced by my husband. And to her eyes, I don't look too happy about it. She could tell. I am trying to adjust myself to this new life style but not there yet and perhaps needs more time. I could not tell her that it's all because of her dad so I used an excuse of which I want to take time off from work and spend more time with her. But she said that she is not a baby anymore and rather sees me happy for myself.(Isn't that sweet?) Anyway, I can't spill out all my family stories in here to back up this writing. Nevertheless, Working moms, out there, don't feel so guilty about your absense and don't underestimate your kid's mental capabilities. They are thinking so deep and so mature than what we adults just assume. They might want to be baby-ed sometimes but most of the time they are so proud of their mom as what they are. I think women look beautiful when they perform of what they are good at and feel proud of themselves and feel the happiness from it. It doesn't matter, it could be full time housewife, employee, entrepreneur, anything as long as they are happy with what they are doing. It's going to rain again, or rather it will be a storm. I hope it takes away clouds of one corner on my mind. Well, my friends out there, visiting this cafe is one of my happy moment these days. Thanks!!!!