Hi! Urashia
Even though I do not fully konw your circumstances, I would like to say your response in your situation is wrong.
I want to ask you the woman who you think cure your broken heart is the person whom you love?
I understand that in a short term you can recovery your broken haert with her since you feel so miserable I guess.
However, it will not work out in a long term.
Someday, you wake up and you still will feel empty and miserable since you try to recovery your human relationship with the quick fix.
You should not depend on other person in order to fix your relationship. First of all, you have to be an independent person so that you can have the power to bring about the result that is intended or desired for good relationship with others.
I believe, self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundation of good relationship with others.
By the way, I sign up for this membership today after I read your writing.
Why? Honestly, I had same experience like you excepting I did not go out with other guy whom I did not love. But I did almost.
The reason that I stop going out with other guy whom I did not love is that I realized I got worse.
It took 4 years for me to get away from upset, misunderstanding, hate, and loneliness even though I had best friends near around me.
Nobody cures your broken heart without your commitment.
We can often live for years with the chronic pain of our lack of vision and capability in our personal lives since the pain is chronic, we get used to it, we learn to live with it.
However, when we have problems in our interaction with other people, we are very aware of acute pain since it's often intense and we want it to go away.
My experience was so intense that I couldn't control my own daily life. Finally I told one of my professors, and I got a treatment from psychiatrist.
However, I believe, I had an opportunity to learn dealing with other people.
An Emotional Bank Account is a meataphor that describes the amount of trust that's been built up in a relationship.
It's feeling of safeness you have with another human-being.
If I make deposits into an Emotional Bank Account with you through courtesy, kindness, honesty, and keeping my commitment to you, I build up a reserve. Your trust toward me becomes higher, and I can call upon that trust many times if I need to.
I can even make mistakes and that trust level, that emotional reserve, will compensate for it.
I hope, you also have an opportunity to learn dealing with other people.
My communication may not be clear, but you'll get my meaning anyway.
Good luck to you.
Have a wonderful day.
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today is half day. wish go home or see anyone who understand me perfectly...just wish my dream come true..
someday...
is there anybody had an experience going out someone without love?
does that work? maybe bullshit....
sorry for bothering your good mood if I did...
I'm just confused and frustrated cuz I feel some lonely and isolated... even if I have good friends...
my heart is broken and that's too difficult to cure.
hope when I open my eyes tomorrow someone show me another world where I can forget every bad memories....
I know I got hurt from one woman, but the only one who can cure my broken heart will be another woman.....
bye-bye