Spouses are companions for life
After you marry, you cannot do whatever you like. Once you marry and have a family you must follow that family’s destined path, even at the cost of your life. (120-225, 1982.10.17)
Beginning with the very first moment of love, you are one, not two anymore. Once you are a couple, you cannot behave individually but should mutually take responsibility for everything. (253-211, 1994.1.23)
If you destroy yourself that’s one thing, but a family should not be destroyed. The wife is the most needed person in the world for her husband, and the husband is the most needed person in the world for his wife. You should be each other’s walking stick and comrade, advising each other. (27-87, 1969.11.26)
A wife should not think that she fulfills her responsibility just by preparing a meal when her husband comes home from work. The most important thing is for her to sit at the dinner table and share intimate words of love. If she comforts her husband after a hard day’s work with that love and the voice she affectionately whispered at their first meeting, his fatigue will be washed away and their love will deepen. (Tongil Segye - Feb. 1982)
Ideally, a woman’s voice should sound softer than the average voice of a man. Her voice should be like the whisper of love. (Sabo, 39-5)
Although I am nearly seventy years old, when I want to go out to the ocean, Mother prepares all my equipment with her whole heart. She even prepares the supplies needed in case I stay out overnight and prays for me to accomplish my purpose in going out to sea. What a wonderful and beautiful wife she is! (Tongil Segye - Nov. 1986)
When a husband goes to bed right after work, snoring loudly without eating dinner and without saying anything, his snoring should be deafened by his wife’s sobs convulsing deep from within her bosom. My wish is to see that kind of family. If I cannot find such a family, my suffering will have been in vain. The six thousand years of God’s sacrifice will come to naught. You should be aware of this. (35-192, 1970.10.13)
When the husband travels to his assigned area, the wife should not feel like saying, “See you later. I am so tired. I have got to sleep now.” Until her husband comes back from his rounds, her heart should make the same effort he is making. Children should also wait with a conscientious heart until their parents return. (30-82, 1970.3.17)
The wife should make her husband successful. She should be his great supporter. (21-79, 1968.10.20)
If a husband tells his wife not to intervene in his business, should she not intervene at all? A wife can stand as an equal in position to her husband. If her husband is absent, the wife should be able to take his place. (31-210, 1970.5.31)
You thought it would be great once you got a husband. However, there are bad times as well. You are not supposed to expect only good things. Can you bathe in the sun twenty-four hours a day? You need the night. Is it not a rule that the high is followed by the low? (30-143, 1970.3.21)
A wife should not be sad because her household is poor or because she cannot wear nice clothes. It is not as though your husband does not know your heart. Deep love and priceless treasures more valuable than diamonds are hidden in his heart of feeling sorry for you. (141-26, 1986.2.16)
I want to advise wives to awaken their husbands from sleeping by chiding them, “How can you sleep so much?” (12-89, 1962.11.11)
A small dose of comfort will immediately dispel a woman’s anger. (203-155, 1990.6.24)
Couples should not engage in petty fights in which they accuse each other of not loving or recognizing one another. Even when you quarrel, you should do so for God’s will. (21-87, 1968.11.3)
On your wife’s birthday, you should invite ladies from your neighborhood and dance and sing in front of them, showing a loving heart toward your wife. (127-95, 1983.5.5)
You can tell, just from listening to your wife or others in your household, whether they had a good day or not. So, when the wife walks in, you ask her, “Why are you upset?” Then, she is at a loss for words because the husband already knows everything without even having seen her. You should be able to gauge things in this way. When you pray for someone out of concern, you will come to know things like this. (42-174, 1971.3.4)
Even if a loving husband were to curse in his home, it can become a stimulant for love. One word from an unloving husband can cause destruction where that word cuts into the flesh. If there is love, even being chastised would be acceptable, but without love, everything would be detestable. (83-177, 1976.2.8)