Thirteen, Alex (Mar.19.2016)

[Alex J Jung]

안녕하세요, 리더 알렉스 입니다.

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급작스럽게 일이 너무 바빠져서 부득이 하게..

이해 바랍니다.

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Topic 1. What efforts do you make to stay young as you age?

Everyone knows the old adage "you're as young as you feel." But that doesn't make the widening 

disconnect between what you see in the mirror and how you "feel" any easier to accept. We asked our Facebook fans about their tried-and-true tricks for looking and feeling young. And they put forth a myriad of suggestions. "I wash my face and neck once a week with sugar and olive oil. I'm 57 and only have two frown line wrinkles," said Beth Ann Roberts. Another reader, Christine Boone, noted: "I use a coffee and sugar body scrub and it really works! Besides, it smells divine."

What does it mean to be "psychologically young"? It's not about wrinkle creams, plastic surgery, or injections to make you look younger. It's about having a positive mental attitude, staying cognitively and physically active, and having a high-quality life.

How long you live and the quality of your life are, to a great extent, under your control. Apart from all the studies that show how lifestyle choices such as exercise and diet play a role in 

longevity, there's also a good body of research that links positive attitude with the number of years people live. For example, one study involving 100,000 women found that women who were optimists were 30 percent less likely to die of heart disease than pessimists. Another study found that optimists were less likely to become frail. Frailty was defined as impaired strength or endurance, balance problems, as well as vulnerability to trauma and other stresses.

Questions

1. What efforts do you make to stay young as you age?

2. You are only as old as you feel. The key to psychological health is how you feel inside, not your chronological age or your physical appearance. How do you consider your mind age?

 3. Here is an interesting opinion we might also want to discuss about it. 

While you're young, you should travel. You should take the time to see the world and taste the fullness of life. I've heard countless excuses as to why people do not or cannot travel. Many of my young friends believe that it's too expensive. Others argue that they can always travel later in life. Some suggest that it hinders career advancement.

- Would you prefer traveling while you are young or getting to it later in life (after you settle down with your career or money)? 

Topic 2. How to Read Faces

Brushing Hair Off Your Face

This movement, a combination of nerves and flirtation, helps call attention to and frame your feminine assets (think face and neck). No wonder it’s a staple of a promising date.

Smiling
Botox be damned! The only real smile, says Anita Barbee, a professor of social work at the University of Louisville, in Kentucky, is one in which eye muscles are engaged. People who grin for more than five seconds and only with their lips can be faking it. Frequent smiling in the workplace can make a person seem less serious.

Blinking
The normal blink rate is six to eight times a minute. But under stress, you’ll blink more often and somewhat more dramatically. Want to know who’s freaking out and who’s as cool as a cucumber at the next big meeting? The eyes have it.

Nibbling Your Lips
If you bite, suck on, or lick your lips when under pressure or in an awkward situation, you’re attempting to comfort or soothe yourself, says psychologist Carol Kinsey Goman, the author of The Nonverbal Advantage.

Scratching Your Nose
Don’t get caught in a lie. “When a person fibs, it’s often accompanied by an adrenaline rush,” says psychologist Michael Cunningham, a professor of communication at the University of Louisville. This release causes capillaries to expand, making the nose itch. Another tall-tale tell: a sustained glance. A liar often overcompensates for being perceived as shifty by focusing a bit too intently on the person he is fibbing to.

Sending Darting Glances
This catch-your-eye game, usually played in guy-girl situations, tends to mirror your scattered thoughts. Does he like me? Do I like him? Do I want him to come over here?Also, unlike a direct gaze, the 

back-and-forth variety is a protective measure: If he doesn’t approach you, you won’t feel rejected.

Nodding Your Head
If you nod in clusters of three, the speaker will sense your interest, and this can lengthen her response threefold, says Goman. Word to the wise: Nod only once when trying to escape Chatty Cathy.

Closing Your Eyes

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By rubbing, covering, or closing your eyes for longer than a blink, you’re trying to keep out certain auditory or visual cues. It’s a survival mechanism to prevent the brain from processing anything undesirable or threatening.

Lowering Your Gaze
This meek gesture is an unconscious bid for public support—a favorite tactic of small children, not to mention the late Princess Diana. It often elicits a parental response. If someone does it to you, she may be searching for your empathy. Be gentle.

Pursing Your Lips
Narrowing the red margins of your lips is a clear sign of anger, says Paul Ekman, professor emeritus at the University of California, San Francisco. Why? When a person is not truly mad, she typically can’t feign this gesture, even if she tries.

Tilting Your Head

Cock your head to the side when hearing a friend’s sob story. This movement indicates that you’re interested and listening. On a more literal level, you’re revealing and angling your ear to her, physically showing that you want to hear every detail.

Raising or Furrowing Your Eyebrows
“Raised eyebrows, one or both, is a true expression‎‎ of piqued curiosity and interest, while lowered eyebrows can indicate negative emotions, such as confusion and fear,” says Laura Guerrero, a professor of communication at the Arizona State University Hugh Downs School of Human Communication, in Tempe. If you’re not interested in a good or bad way, your face will remain still and unanimated.

Looking Up or to the Side
Want a little glimpse into the way someone’s memory works? Notice where the person moves her eyes. When recalling something that was seen, a person will angle her eyes skyward, as if trying to picture it. When remembering something heard, she will look toward one of her ears, as if listening for it. Especially emotional experiences tend to be relived through introspective downward glances.

Questions

1. Are you good at reading faces? How about hiding your face expression‎‎ or emotion?

2. Let’s discuss each 13 face expressions above article says. E.g.) any experiences you revealed or you read.

3. Which of face expression‎‎ of above is most frequently revealed by you? How about second most?

4. Do you think this article is helpful to read faces or hide emotions?

5. Share another face expression‎‎ beside above 13 things if you know.

Topic3. Are You Addicted To Stress?

Stress is a biological process that evolved to help us. Hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol get pumped through the body in dangerous situations. Daily life in the suburbs rarely requires fight-or-flight, but the same agents of reaction can be a boon for scoring a winning goal or delivering a flawless speech. They summon our strength and turn off nonessential functions to funnel resources to muscles and the brain.

Things begin to go awry, however, when cortisol and adrenaline remain present in our system for prolonged periods of time. Rather than tapering off after the perceived threat has passed, chronic stress causes a drippy tap of cortisol and adrenaline to continuously pollute our system. Not only does this wreak havoc on your hair, skin, weight, heart and digestive system, it gets you hooked – and looking for more. "Like a drug addict, you need a bigger fix all the time," says Debbie Mandel, a stress management specialist and author of Addicted to Stress.

To get through deadlines or find relief from boredom at work, we find ourselves craving additional boosts of adrenaline on top of what already chronically plagues our system. "People are tired and they want a rush," says Judith Orloff, M.D., an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles, and author of The Ecstasy of Surrender. "We become adrenaline junkies, which leads to work holism."

Society, too, encourages such addictions. We all have friends (or are guilty ourselves) who, when asked how they are, inevitably respond with, "Busy," "Crazy busy" or even "Insanely busy. "In our minds, busyness seems to equate with importance. Additionally, our smart devices ensure that we can keep ourselves on the busy treadmill even during dinners, vacations and social gatherings. "We're always wondering, 'Is something better happening? Am I getting an opportunity?'Orloff says. "I can be in the best situation in the world, and I still want to check my phone."

Money also plays a role in this cycle, with our self-worth seemingly measured in dollar signs. "Society tells people that you're worthwhile if you make more money, which causes people to overwork like crazy," Orloff says.

Questions

1. Why is it so hard to treat stress properly?

2. Can we be stress-free? How?

3. How do you deal with stressful situations?

4. Do you think living in a complex society is more or less stress-creating than in a simpler

   society or is there no difference?

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[Alex J Jung]

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[Alex J Jung]

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