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dissolve
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녹이다.
해소하다
나는 가끔 이런 엉뚱한
생각을 한다.
모든 공동체 (특히 대한민국의 정치 / 물론 국회가 우선)는
'김치'와 같아야 한다고 ~
김치를 먹으면서 '소금'이
씹힌다고 생각해 보자.
'젓갈' 냄새가 많이 난다고 생각하든지, 생배추 맛이 난다면
그것은 김치가 아니라, 소금과 젓갈 또는 배추에 불과하다.
소금이나 젓갈 그리고 배추는 '김치 맛'을 위해
자기 자신을 모두 녹여버리는 희생 (?)을 감수하고 있다.
Salt, salted fish and cabbage have to DISSOLVE themselves to become kimchi.
소금과 젓갈 그리고 배추는 김치가 되기 위해 자신들을 녹인다
물론 dissolve라는 동사는
얼음이 높은 온도에 녹는다는
등의 뜻으로 많이 쓰인다.
Just aspirin DISSOLVES
with into the stomach acid,
so pill does in from
saliva.
아스피린이 위 속에서 분해되듯,
(다른) 정제의 약은 침에서
녹는다.
dissolve는 dis- (apart) + solvere (to loosen)
느슨하게 된다는 뿌리를
하고 있으며 '주로' 고체가
액체로 바뀌어서 '본래의 모습'을
알아 볼 수없게 된다는
긴 뜻이다.
영어로 옮기면 이런 문장이 된다.
To DISSOLVE something is to break it up or weaken it, making it no longer recognizable
"무엇인가 '용해'된다는 것은
더 이상 (본래 모습) 알아보지
못하게 되려고
부서지거나 약해지는 것이다."
앞서도 강조했지만,
어느 집단에서 자신만
'너무 튀는 것'은 그가
(또는 그녀) 속한 공동체의
발전에 해만 될뿐이다.
Most of people wonder if there is anything put together which shall not DISSOLVE in political community?
정치적 집단에서 함께 용해되지 않는 무엇인가 못할 것 (이유)이
있는지 국민들 대부분은
궁금하다.
며칠 전에 읽은
'Stronger Decline in DISSOLVING Relationships'
(대인관계 와해 있어서의
강한 쇠퇴) 란 글 가운데 ㅡ
People who are in DISSOLVING relationships tend to show stronger declines in relationship satisfaction than people who are in continuing relationships.
대인관계 (특히 사랑 관계에서)
와해 단계에 있는 사람들은
그들 관계를 지속하려는
사람들 보다 대인관계 만족도에
있어서 심한 쇠퇴를 보여주는
경향이 있다.
(Psychology Today, October 30, 2023)
Don't let failure DISSOLVE up your motivation
to succeed.
실패가 성공에 이르는 동기를
와해 시키지 않게 하라.
그리고 생배추가
1800 up down
Janina Larissa Bühler Ph.D.
How "I" Shapes "We"
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dissolve the party
DISSOLVE the 국회
convene
DISSOLVE salt in water
Stronger Decline in Dissolving Relationships
People who are in dissolving relationships tend to show stronger declines in relationship satisfaction than people who are in continuing relationships.
Relationship satisfaction declines more strongly in dissolving (vs. continuing) relationships.
Research finds that relationships are at risk of being dissolved when they dip below 65 percent satisfaction.
KEY POINTS
Don't let failure dissolve up your motivation to succeed.
The aspirin will dissolve in the stomach.
The aspirin will dissolve with into the stomach acid.
The pill will dissolve in from the saliva.
Is there anything put together which shall not dissolve?
She decided to dissolve herself from toxic relationships.
She chose to dissolve herself from the burden of regret.
“The giant iceberg dissolved over the years during the global warming phase”
If heat be added to the mixture ice will melt and salt dissolve in the water so formed.
To dissolve something is to break it up or weaken it, making it no longer recognizable
As she grew older, her childhood dreams began to dissolve."
The French president, for instance, can dissolve parliament
Stir well until the ingredients dissolve.
Heat gently until the sugar dissolves.
The marriage was dissolved around the same time that Presley got divorced
It will not dissolve in water as gums do, but it is soluble in alcohol, as resin usually is.
"He popped it into his mouth and let it dissolve on his tongue.
Relationship satisfaction declines more strongly in dissolving (vs. continuing) relationships.
Research finds that relationships are at risk of being dissolved when they dip below 65 percent satisfaction.
People who change partners do tend to be more satisfied in the new relationship—but only temporarily.
Barbara Egin, used with permission.
Happier with a new partner?Source: Barbara Egin, used with permission.
Romantic relationships are not stagnant but develop over time. A recent meta-analysis by our lab (Bühler et al., 2021; see this post) showed that relationship satisfaction tends to reach a low point around the age of 40 and after the first decade of a relationship.
At these points, people tend to be least satisfied, with 77 percent of their maximum possible relationship satisfaction.
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However, most of these people likely remain in their relationships, and relationship trajectories might be different for people who will eventually separate.
Indeed, findings on young adults (Johnson & Neyer, 2019; Robins et al., 2022) and recent findings from an age-heterogenous sample (Bühler & Orth, in press) found that relationship satisfaction changes differently depending on the eventual outcome of the relationship—that is, whether the relationship lasted or
whether it was dissolved.
If you had to guess, how would you imagine the trajectories differ?
Stronger Decline in Dissolving Relationships
People who are in dissolving relationships tend to show stronger declines in relationship satisfaction than people who are in continuing relationships.
Interestingly, they have not only lower satisfaction at the end of their dissolving relationship, but at the beginning. This means that relationships that will be dissolved may already show warning signs early on, likely because of the personality characteristics and the interaction patterns of both partners.
dissolve (v.)
late 14c. dissolven, "to break up, disunite, separate into parts" (transitive, of material substances), also "to liquefy by the disintegrating action of a fluid," also intransitive, "become fluid, be converted from a solid to a liquid state," from Latin dissolvere "to loosen up, break apart," from
dis- "apart" (see dis-) + solvere "to loosen, untie," from PIE *se-lu-, from reflexive pronoun *s(w)e- (see idiom) + root *leu- "to loosen, divide, cut apart."
General sense of "to melt, liquefy by means of heat or moisture" is from late 14c. Meaning "to disband" (a parliament or an assembly) is attested from early 15c. Related: Dissolved; dissolving.
also from late 14c.
To give an example: Tom and Lisa, who both have low self-esteem, interact more insecurely with each other and avoid conflicts, even though they have relationship issues to discuss. Their tendency to not talk openly is already manifest in their early time as a couple and pushes them apart, contributing to their eventual dissolution.
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Max and Tina, on the other hand, both have high self-esteem and discuss relationship issues openly and frequently, even when these issues are uncomfortable to talk about. Through these interactions, they get to know each other better and learn how to grow with each other.
Potential for Relationship Growth
We see that certain relationships, then, have a higher chance of growing, while others have a higher risk of dissolving, and that these differences tend to become stronger over time.
But importantly, nothing is pre-determined in relationships—meaning that even risky relationships can grow, if both partners learn to grow with each other.
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Interestingly, our findings also showed that there is a certain threshold of relationship satisfaction at which couples are at risk of separating. This threshold occurs at 65 percent of the maximum possible relationship satisfaction, which is below the low point that we saw in continuing relationships (77 percent).
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These two numbers illustrate two things—that romantic relationships develop, and that relationship satisfaction can move up and down. The downs do matter—at least, according to our data, when they are below 65 percent of the maximum. But these numbers can also encourage us to relax and recognize that we don't always need to be at peak satisfaction in order to be in a relationship. Low points are normal in relationships—as long as they are not too low.
But what happens when partners decide to separate and initiate a new relationship? Are they more satisfied then?
A Temporary Up in the New Relationship
The answer appears to be “yes.” People who begin a new relationship after separation tend to be more satisfied in the new relationship than they were in their previous relationship. However, relationship satisfaction still tends to decrease, regardless of whether it is a previous or a new relationship.
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Thus, although we might anticipate being more satisfied in a new relationship—and although this is often true at the beginning of this new relationship—each relationship comes with a decline in satisfaction. This, in turn, suggests that it might be better to focus on relationship work, rather than jumping from one relationship to another.
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However, as noted above, if relationship satisfaction falls below a certain threshold, we might be better off dissolving the relationship and giving both partners the chance to be in a relationship that is in the upper third of our maximum possible relationship happiness.