주제 공지 [9/9] The right time to say the ‘L’ word: love

[carol ~*]

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/13145511/

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좋은 표현 많이 나오니깐 꼭 시간 내서 들어보세요...

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제가 노트북 가져가서 들려드리고 싶지만...

저희 스터디는 룸을 사용하지 않는 관계로.. 흑...

You’ve been dating that special someone for a couple of months, then it happens, you say simple phrase that can make or break any relationship: “I love you.”

   It’s a romantic, even passionate moment. He’s been so giving and caring. He’s looking into your eyes, and you feel that mental and physical connection. You feel close, he gets you, and so you blurt out, “I love you.” And then he is silent. What a horrid and awkward moment. Now it all seems weird and uncomfortable. You feel humiliated. What have you done?

    Actually, you’ve done nothing that millions of men and women who have been swept up in the rush of deep feeling and longing for that special someone haven’t done before. Unfortunately, when one person says “I love you” and it is too soon for the other, both can retreat from the relationship altogether.  

    What does love mean anyway? Sometimes the definition is murky. When you say “I love you,” you may mean that you feel close to your boyfriend, he seems right for you, and you want a future together. He may see saying “I love you,” as meaning that you have to get married. And if he doesn’t feel obsessed with you, then he may not think that he’s in love with you. Sometimes people confuse lust and love. Having great sex is terrific, but does it mean love?

    Even more problematic is the person who is so uncomfortable professing their love that they’re terrified to say the “L” word. Children who grew up in a home never hearing “I love you” may have trouble with the concept of love. Or if they never heard their parents say the “L” word to each other, then they may feel uncomfortable saying it to their partners.  

   The point is to try to wait to say “I love you” until you feel pretty certain you and your partner are on the same love page. Discuss your feelings for each other to test the waters. How do you feel about each other? Do you like spending time together? Do you see a future together?  Do you feel you’re right for each other?

     And if you’ve said the “L” word too soon, it’s OK to say, “Oops, I blurted that out in a gooey moment and I’m not really sure I'm ready either.” That will take some of the pressure off of your partner to reciprocate his feelings at that moment. Once you’re ready to say “I love you,” say it loud and say it proud. Everyone wants to know, feel and hear they are loved. And eventually your children will learn from you how to express their love and how to mean it.

1. what do you think about the article?

2. Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend/partner?

   when did you feel the physical &mental connection for the first time?

   and how did you feel?

3. As the article said, have you ever"blurt out in a gooey moment"?

   what did you do &how does it affect your relationship? 

4. What does it mean "say proud and say it loud"?

   Have you ever done this? when was it?

if you have more time to talk,,, then,, talk about these questions below~8

5. Share us the best place where you and your date ever have spent together, and why do you think the place was the best for you fellas?

6. Share us the most moving/touching/impressive event that your date ever have done to you, and explain us why do you think the event worked for you?

7. Tell us that you really want to visit your date in future without considering financial issue. And why?

8. Tell us that you really want to do for your date. And why?

9. Tell us that you really wish that your date do for you. And why?

more questions....

1. Have you got any unusual dates?

    Or if you know something good way of dating, please tell about it.

2. If you are organizing a date, what kind of thing (good mood, well organized plan, memorial  

   present, etc.) are you focusing on? And why did you choose that?

3. There may be many kinds of way of being close to somebody and improving relationship.

    And everyone may have different thinking so please,

    tell how you try to improve relationship with your partner?

 < Discussion 2 >

1. Your boy or girl friend is ugly, not well-educated, shallow minded and poor.        

     Your friends ask you to break up with them. What will you do?

2. You are in a traffic accident with your fiance or fiancee. A doctor diagnosed       

   their illness as a coma and they can󰡑t have normal lives. Will you marry them?

3. Your marriage plan meets with strong opposition from your parents and their        

    health is getting worse because of your plan. What will you do?

4. It certainly is a tragedy that you are in love with your best friend󰡑s girlfriend.    

    What will you choose: love or friendship? On the other hand, if your boy or girlfriend

    were in love with your best friend. What would you do?

5. If after marriage you don󰡑t love your wife or husband and you even feel they     

    nauseate you, what would you do?

6. Do you have any special experience of love?

    If you do, could you share it with  your team members?

자료가 갑자기 길어져서, 당황스럽죠? ㅋㅋㅋ

하지만 질문은 완전 허접한 것들 입니다. ㅎㅎㅎ

혹시 했는거면, 리플 달아주시구요~!

우리 스터디는 쫌 하드월킹이 필요한것 같습니다^^

시간 약속 잘 지키시구요~ 프린트도 꼭 뽑아오세요^^*

[carol ~*]

일단 올리긴 했는데^^; 어쩜 토욜에 못 갈지도.. ㅋㅋ 엑스코에 국제모터싸이클쑈 있어서.. 그거 보러 갈지도 ㅠ.ㅠ

[사랑하라(Manager)]

이번엔 재빠르게 올리셨네요~ 근데 이번주엔 저도 참석여부 미지수!! ㅠ.ㅠ

[John]

재미있게 봐어요~~^^ 제가 가장 좋은 하는 I love you는 "I love you,too" 예요. 하하하~~^^

[John]

이번 토픽은 남,여 서로가 할 말이 많겠네요 ^^

[통통아씨]

캐롤님~ 하드월킹만 지르고 어디 도망가십니까? ㅋㅋ 근데~ 저도 이번주는 힘들다우~ 나도 급도주~ ㅋㅋ 근데~ 모터쇼 가시게요? 저도 스태프로 가는데~ ㅋㅋ 어쩜 마주칠 수 있겠는데요? ^^

[민트]

오랜만에 갈까 싶었더니 토픽 어려버라~

[eun-ju]

올만에 참석하려고하는데,, 토픽이 ..ㅜㅜ 열공해서 가야겠네요..ㅋㅋ

[Jessica]

신입인데 처음 참석하려고 해요~ ~그때 뵐께요~~

[grinfeel]

주제보다 저 독해가 어려워...^^ 독해 사전 좀 뒤져겨 봐야겠네요...ㅋㅋ

[I will]

꼭 출석합니다~ㅎ