스크랩 🌹가장 큰 덕(德)은 친절(親切)이다.(The greatest virtue is kindness.)🌹

[관광농업19기 ( 카페지기 최성덕 )]

• 친구를 얻고 싶거든 당신이 먼 저 친구 가되라.(• If you want to get friends, you should be friends first.)
우선 자기 자신과 친구가 되는 일부터 시작하라.(Start by being friends with yourself.)
사람이 갖는 가장 큰 욕망(欲望, desire)은 다른 사람에게 필요한 존재가 되고 싶다는 것이다.(The greatest desire a person has is to be a necessary being for others.)
 
그러므로 다른 사람들이 그러한 느낌을 가질 수 있도록 도와주라. 사람이 가질 수 있는 가장 큰 덕은 친절이다.(So help others feel that way. The greatest virtue a person can have is kindness.)
모든 사람을 사랑 할 수는 없지만 모든 사람에게 친절 할 수는 있다.(You can't love everyone, but you can be kind to everyone.)
 
다른 사람들을 감동시키려고 애쓰지 말라. 다른 사람들에게 당신을 감동시키는재미를 맛보게 하라.(Don't try to impress others. Let others have the fun of impressing you.)
• 적극적(積極的, aggressive) 인 사람이 되라.(• Be an active person.)
 
적극적인 사람은 다른 사람들에게 호감을 주지만 소극적(消極的, passive)인 사람은 
거부감(拒否感, Refusal to do so)을 준다.(An active person likes others, but a passive person is repulsion.)
상대방에게 말을 잘하는 것보다는 그 사람의 말을 잘 들어줌으로써 그사람에게 더 큰 영향을 끼칠 수 있다.(You can have a greater influence on a person by listening to him or her than by speaking well to the other person.)
 
• 상대(相對, opponent)에게
쾌활(快活, cheerful)함을 
전달하라.(Communicate cheerfulness to your opponent.)
의견 차이는 반드시 있게 마련이다. 하지만 그런 의견 차이는 공손(恭遜, polite)한 태도(態度, attitude)로 대하면 해결 될 수 있 다.(There must be a difference of opinion.  However, such differences can be resolved in a polite manner.)
어떤 사람을 놀리고 싶은 생각이 들 때는 자신이 놀림을 당할 경우를 생각하라.(When you want to make fun of someone, think of the case that you are teased.)
 
• 사람들을 상대 할 때는 참다운  관심을 표시하라. 그리고 
상대방이 자신에 관해얘기 할 기회를 주라.(• Show real interest when dealing with pepole. And give the other person a chance to talk about himself.)
미소(微笑, grin)를 짓는 데는 돈  한 푼 안 들지만 미소에는 큰 
부담이 따른다.(It doesn't cost a penny to smile, but a smile comes with a big burden.)
 
그것은 또 자신을 기분좋게 할 뿐아니라 주위의 모든 사람을 기분 좋게 해준다.(It not only makes you feel good but also makes everyone around you feel good.)
• 아는 사람을 만나면 먼저 "안녕 하십니 까? 만나서 반갑습 니다"  라고 말하라."(• When I meet someone I know, I say, "Hello?" It's a pleasure to meet you.")
 
• 너희가 남에게서 바라는 대로  남에게  해주어라." 모든 인간
관계가 이 황금률(黃金律, the golden rule:황금과 같은  율법이라는 뜻으로, 매우 깊은 뜻을 담고 있어 인생에 유익한 교훈이 되는 말을 이르는 말.)에서 시작해 이 황금률로 끝난다.(• Do what you want from others."All human relationships begin with this golden rule[It means a golden rule, and it has a very deep meaning, which is a useful lesson in life.] and end with this golden rule.)


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