What’s Missing from the Masculinity Debate

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The Measure of a Man

What’s Missing from the Masculinity Debate

By: John Stonestreet|Published: September 12, 2016 7:00 AM

Topics: Christian Living, Gender Issues, Trends

Where have all the men gone? [A lot of folks //who are asking this question] are looking for answers in all the wrong places.

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Are we in the midst of a masculinity crisis? Two Christian writers offered very different answers /to this question in recent articles. David French at National Review laments a new statistic //that shows today’s young men are, physically, the weakest generation in recorded history.

* masculinity; possession of the qualities traditionally associated with men.

“If you’re the average Millennial male,” he writes, “your dad is stronger than you are. In fact, you may not be stronger than the

average Millennial female…The very idea of manual labor is alien to you, and even if you were asked to help, say, build a back

porch, the task would exhaust you to the point of uselessness. Welcome to the new, post-masculine reality.”

Chandler Epp replied /to French /in a guest column /at Religion News Service, arguing that the idea of masculinity /being

equivalent to physical strength is misguided.

“Popular Christian notions of manhood,” he writes, “shame, repel, and ruin too many young boys and men //who fail to meet

those standards” and who don’t gravitate toward “‘typical’ masculine behaviors.” He concludes, “We must recover the idea

that the marker of a true man is his moral strength, not his muscular fitness.”

Now I know personally both Chandler and French, and I have a lot of respect for them both. In fact, they both demonstrate that sort of moral strength () Chandler talks about in his piece.

Chandler is right that /when most folks ask, “Where are all the men?” [what they mean] is something like, “where are all the

lumberjacks?” They want to know why so few males these days can perform feats of strength, build their own houses,

or fix cars without a mechanic.

There was a time //when these sorts of skills were crucial /to fulfilling the creation mandate. [Expressing the image of God for

most men in history] meant being able to hunt or farm food or keep a fire on the hearth. And I’m thankful every day for those,

like my dad, who still do this kind of work. But the age of brute strength is in many ways past, and that would be the end of the

argument /if we were at the same time /seeing a corresponding increase in other, less tangible, kinds of strength:

like moral courage, fortitude, leadership, and a willingness to sacrifice.

But we’re not. Quite the opposite, as a matter of fact. Most men today aren’t just physically weaker than previous generations.

They’re weaker as people: guys stricken with “Peter Pan syndrome” never leaving adolescence; “safe spaces” on college

campuses protecting perpetually fragile constant-victims /from serious debate; the hookup culture and porn addiction replacing

chivalry; and the sexual revolution promulgating through media, education, and now law that there’s no such thing as male and female. [What we’re seeing] isn’t a different expression‎ of masculinity /adapting to new cultural realities. [What we’re seeing] is

no masculinity at all.

Real masculinity can look like Greg Thornbury, president of King’s College in New York City, who has a body weight () I haven’t

seen since the 8^th grade, tweed jacket and Harry Potter glasses. He’s no lumberjack, but as a champion of sound theology and Christian education in a city //that’s hostile to both, he’s one of the strongest men I know.

Or masculinity may look like Chuck Colson, a marine, Nixon’s “hatchet man” and all-around tough-guy /before he was broken

/by Christ /before going to prison. It wasn’t unusual to see Chuck shed a tear /over an eternal Gospel truth or a changed life.

Yet he typified masculine strength as it should be.

The early Church Father, Irenaeus, said, “The glory of God is man fully alive.” And man fully alive doesn’t play the victim, or

wallow in a sense of entitlement. He embraces the creation mandate /to “fill the earth and subdue it.” He’s a maker,

not a perpetual taker.

It’s this kind of masculinity //that’s in desperately short supply /these days.

It’s a kind that has nothing to do with how much you can bench press.

Further Reading and Information

The Measure of a Man: What’s Missing from the Masculinity Debate

As John has pointed out, masculinity encompasses many qualities, and not necessarily physical strength. Click on the links below to read the exchange of ideas on this topic from Chandler Epp and David French.

Resources

How the Christian Masculinity Movement Is Ruining Men
Chandler Epp | Religion News Service | August 30, 2016

Men Are Getting Weaker—because We’re not Raising Men
David French | National Review | August 16, 2016

Available at the online bookstore

Bringing up Boys
James Dobson | Tyndale Momentum Publisher | September 2014

7 Men: And the Secret of Their Greatness
Eric Metaxas | Thomas Nelson Publisher | August 2013