Last week, I had an argument with my friend. Of course, I was the winner, but how uncomfortable I have been until now!
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When I was a college student, I was happy when I won against a certanin argument. I had to let others know that I was right anyway then.
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But now what's the use of it is to win or not against others. Is there a real winner or loser in my age? I should have not hurt her mind with such a trivial argument, although she has many faults.
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It seemed that she got hurt her pride and fame due to my harsh remarks. At that time, I was so angry to see her make herself justified. But now I have a mind that she might be right and I misunderstood her. The saying that when you are angry, count from one to hundred(?) reminds me of my hastiness and impatience.
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Of course, I apologized her for my rudeness and she accepted it, but how her lost fame and pride as well as my fallen image will be completely recovered?
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Losing is winning, I think. It's not because I am a compromiser but because I want my mind to be comfortable.
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Have a nice weekend.
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thinking that there is such a thing as winning and losing in an argument is the problem Argument is understanding each others a litter more better in a bad situation which will eventually make you two closer
Yes, your are right. We became closer than before. Real understanding was established after argument. Sometimes a little argument is needed, if not severe.
첫댓글 I think there is nothing noble in being superior to some other man. True nobility is being superior to your former self, isn't it?
Hermes' comment is truly impressive to me.
thinking that there is such a thing as winning and losing in an argument is the problem Argument is understanding each others a litter more better in a bad situation which will eventually make you two closer
Yes, your are right. We became closer than before. Real understanding was established after argument. Sometimes a little argument is needed, if not severe.
good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!