<p class="cafe-editor-text">I have a problem with my sister -in-law<br />that acting like a princess and bragging about educational background <br />and children, and love showing a large house she lives in.<br />She has never had a job with all the education she had.<br /><br />Yesterday I got a message from her, and<br />I had a big argument over a minor matter on holidays. <br />over the decades, she has never cooked but bought a cooked turkey on Thanksgiving. <br /><br />she asked me if I can come to her place with food on Thanksgiving day,<br />I told her that I can't make it this time <br />because I did invite my employees who have no families here.<br />She was piss off that she started sending me several blaming messages on 카톡.<br /><br />한국예의도 모른다고 직장이 더 중요하냐고 등등...<br />Do I have to listen to her because of 형님?<br />I can't tolerate trampling my self esteem. <br />Besides, I don't like being told by someone I never respect. <br /><br />My hairs stand on end, my blood pumping twice faster, and my patience reaching the end off the cliffs. <br />It was disgusted that I immediately felt sick, nervous, uneasy. <br /><br />She is quite a powerful woman within her family and raises her voice all the time.<br />Her husband is always quite and generous. <br /><br />She will feel sorry for herself this time because <br />I sent messages like this in English. <br /><br />" I don't like to argue with someone thinks smarter than me<br />it is just waste my breath.<br />I am just sick of you blowing noise up my ass.<br />you won't be able to see me again, <br />Goodbye.<br /><br />I couldn't care less about her feelings after reading my message. 이런땐 영어로 표현하는것이 clear 한것 같아요. 한국말로 뭐라 썼다가 이상해서 지웠지요.<br />I Feel I Have Had Enough. <br /><br />My hubby doesn't want to get involved this matter. <br />Which is Good.<br /><br />I feel that she places too much demands on holidays <br />But It won't happen any more. <br /><br />Because she got my message.</p>
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@율리아나님, 그래요, 위로 누나가 둘이예요.. 난 8 남매중에 막내인데.. 잔소리할때마다 , 내가 매형들에게 난리치니깐.. 막내 처남댁에게는 절대로 뭐라고 하지 말라고 매형들이 자기 부인들에게 입조심 시켰어요..ㅎㅎ 이 방법이 모든 가족들이 평화롭고, 편한 최상의 방법입니다 ....ㅎ
How rude she is . Wow. What a b!tch! Forget her.. The only ugly thing in this situation is her attitude. I'm also angry you had to hear those words.. Your sister in law is the ugly one. She needs to sit back down... 나도 썬쌰인님 시누이 같은 누나가 있었는데, 내가 Brother in law 난리쳐서, 다음부터는 , 내 누나가 내 Wife 에게는 아무 말도 못함. 그랬다간은 또 내가 매형에게 난리칠테니깐...ㅎ
@정담1님 , that is right... My brother in law is only the weapon to control my elder sister ...ㅎ I used to continue to push him to come her down, when my sister would keep saying to my lovely wife ...ㅎ
if I were in her position, I wouldn't say like that. I would say. ...I will be happy if you can stop at my place after finishing your party. She was so frickin' mean to me. I honestly don't know what I did wrong.
@썬샤인1님, Your answer is definetely very smart to your sister in Law and yourself .. 하여간 , 바보같은 시누이들이 많어요... 대한민국이건 미국의 교포사회이건간에.. 매일같이 자기와 같이 생활하는 자기 집사람이 자기의 누나보다 중요하다는 사실들을 인정하여야 합니다... 자기 집사람이 형제/ 누나보다도 중요합니다 .. 이런것을 사람들은 왕왕 간과합니다 ...
옛말에 때리는 시어머니보다 말리는 시누이가 더 얄밉다라는 말이 있듯이 서로의 관계를 설명하기가 난해한 과제인것 같아요 재작년인가 이런 소재로 '넝쿨째 굴러온 당신"인가 드라마에서 참다못한 올케<김남주분>가 시누이<오연서분>의 코를 잡고 비틀어 버리는 장면에서 시청율이 높았다고 하던데 공감해서겠지요
How do you handle it your feelings? I just don't understand the situation. so most importantly, we should respect each other more. it's not easy for you mind but If you give an inch, you will become comfortable. Don't be offended~ I try to root for you~^^
첫댓글 며느리를 딸이라 착각하는시어머니도
바보측에 든다고 ,.
Sister - in - law 가 없는 저는딸
보다 더 이쁠거같은데 말이죠
I think you are talking about daughter -in-law.
i am talking about my sister in law who is older than I am.
@썬샤인1 Sister - in - law도
Daughter - in -low도 내겐
암것도 없으니
그저 이쁠수밖에요
@율리아나 님은 하나밖에 몰라요, 그전 단순해서..ㅎㅎ
시누이들의 위세을 잘 몰라서 그러지요..
시누이들은 무조건 올케들을 칭찬하고,
배려하여야 합니다.
그결과는 자기동생이나 오빠 및
부모가 comfortable 합니다 ...
@창조도전 창조도전님도 시누이가 있는가봐요
ㅎㅎㅎ
@율리아나 님, 그래요, 위로 누나가 둘이예요..
난 8 남매중에 막내인데..
잔소리할때마다 , 내가 매형들에게 난리치니깐..
막내 처남댁에게는 절대로 뭐라고 하지 말라고
매형들이 자기 부인들에게 입조심 시켰어요..ㅎㅎ
이 방법이 모든 가족들이 평화롭고, 편한 최상의 방법입니다 ....ㅎ
How rude she is . Wow. What a b!tch! Forget her..
The only ugly thing in this situation is her attitude.
I'm also angry you had to hear those words..
Your sister in law is the ugly one. She needs to sit back down...
나도 썬쌰인님 시누이 같은 누나가 있었는데,
내가 Brother in law 난리쳐서,
다음부터는 ,
내 누나가 내 Wife 에게는 아무 말도 못함.
그랬다간은 또 내가 매형에게 난리칠테니깐...ㅎ
ㅎㅎㅎ u have an instrument how to handle the situation. Same to Sunshine.
Poor your brother in law~~
@정담1 님 , that is right...
My brother in law is only the weapon to control my elder sister ...ㅎ
I used to continue to push him to come her down,
when my sister would keep saying to my lovely wife ...ㅎ
if I were in her position, I wouldn't say like that.
I would say. ...I will be happy if you can stop at my place after finishing your party.
She was so frickin' mean to me.
I honestly don't know what I did wrong.
@썬샤인1 님,
Your answer is definetely very smart to your sister in Law and yourself ..
하여간 , 바보같은 시누이들이 많어요...
대한민국이건 미국의 교포사회이건간에..
매일같이 자기와 같이 생활하는
자기 집사람이 자기의 누나보다 중요하다는
사실들을 인정하여야 합니다...
자기 집사람이 형제/ 누나보다도 중요합니다 ..
이런것을 사람들은 왕왕 간과합니다 ...
For women, especially in Korea, it looks like
the relations with both sister-in-law and mother-in law have no big difference from each other.
Sister - in - law...
Is she a friend or enemy.? ㅎ ㅎ ㅎ
It depends but normally pro enemy. 동생을 빼았아 갔다고 생각하니까~~ㅋ
옛말에 때리는 시어머니보다 말리는 시누이가 더 얄밉다라는 말이 있듯이 서로의 관계를 설명하기가 난해한 과제인것 같아요
재작년인가 이런 소재로 '넝쿨째 굴러온 당신"인가 드라마에서 참다못한 올케<김남주분>가 시누이<오연서분>의 코를 잡고 비틀어 버리는 장면에서 시청율이 높았다고 하던데 공감해서겠지요
저는 올케 4명. . 평생 시누이 노릇은 언감생심 입니다.
시누이들 많은 집 며느리는 힘들겠더라구요. 다 집안
분위기 나름이긴 하지만. . .
여기서 풀으시고 맘이 좀 홀가분 해지시길
위로드립니다.
넘 밉게 구는 사람이네요.
스트레스 마니받아 썬샤인님 화병
나겠어요~~
보낸 멧세지 보구 좀 느끼는게
있으면 좋겠다는 생각이...
How do you handle it your feelings?
I just don't understand the situation.
so most importantly, we should respect each other more.
it's not easy for you mind but If you give an inch, you will become comfortable.
Don't be offended~
I try to root for you~^^
맘고생 했네..
온 우주가 자기중심으로 돌아가는줄 아는 사람들..
아~~
I just hate them...
Don't feel guilty hating her, she deserves it..