The Spiritual Fixer-Upper

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The Spiritual Fixer-Upper
Mary Southerland

Today’s Truth

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have /against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you (Colossians 3:13, NIV).

Friend to Friend

I promised myself that I would never buy a house /that was a “fixer-upper.” I don’t like fixing things. I want everything to be fixed /before I move in. But there I was - buying a town house / that needed so much work even the realtor couldn’t believe ()

my husband and I wanted to buy it. Why didn’t someone stop me? No one did, so the sale was made and we went to work. Actually, my son and husband went to work /while I went crazy.

I had no idea how horrible the process of remodeling could be. Layer after layer of dirt, grime, stains and ugliness was stripped away. Rotten kitchen cabinets were torn /from the walls and rusty appliances were replaced. We basically gutted the whole place and rebuilt it – while living in it. I was not happy!

I will never forget the day () I woke up to see a toilet /sitting at the foot of our bed. That was the moment () I resolved to never set foot in another house //that required so much work. I am so thankful ()God does not feel /that way /about me.

Honestly, I often wonder why God doesn’t just demolish the old me and build a new one. Then He did just that – through a two-year battle with clinical depression. While sitting at the bottom of that dark and slimy pit, the Father lovingly stripped away

old fears and insecurities. From the walls of my heart, He tore the rotten attitudes, undisciplined thoughts and unholy desires //that had walked me to the edge of my pit - then pushed me in. He replaced rusty old dreams with new ones and basically gutted my life to build a new one, a better one, and a stronger one. Part of that new life was forgiveness. God taught me how to forgive myself so I could then forgive others.

Because forgiveness is so important, it only stands to reason () there are roadblocks //that can hinder our willingness to forgive.

We must make the commitment /to identify and remove each one.

Selfishness
Selfishness shouts, “I have been hurt. It is so unfair. I have rights!” [What I am really saying] is that [how I feel about the hurt] is more important than forgiving the hurt.

Pride
Pride cries, “Look at what they have done to me. Don’t they realize who I am?” To receive or give forgiveness requires humility.

Low self-esteem
Some of us have built an entire identity /around a hurt. [The attention () we gain from the wrong () we have suffered] defines who we are. We cherish the pain and refuse to relinquish it /for the sake of forgiveness.

Blindness
We may be blind /to the fact //that we have not forgiven a hurt. We have convinced ourselves that we really have forgiven the one //who hurt us /by going through the motions and saying the right words /without really dealing with the pain. [All we have done] is dig a hole and bury the pain. As long as hurt is buried alive, it will keep resurrecting itself in our life, but when the hurt is dealt with and forgiveness is given, the pain is buried dead – and it stays dead.

Pain
Forgiveness is spiritual surgery. It exposes old hurts that have never completely healed. We can move, change jobs, change churches, change friends or even change families, but until we yank up the root of bitterness and kill it with forgiveness,

we will live with unresolved pain.

Ignorance
Maybe we don’t know how to forgive someone /because are under the impression //that forgiveness is an emotion or feeling.

True forgiveness is a choice – a deliberate choice /to release the person //who has hurt us /from the pain () they have caused.

We can stop forgiving others /when God stops forgiving us.

We need to identify and eliminate the roadblocks /to forgiveness /so God can set us free, heal our pain, and make us more like Him. Now that is a remodeling job () I would welcome.

Let’s Pray

Father, I praise You for the changes You have made in my life through the power of Your forgiveness. Please help me forgive the people who have hurt me just as You have forgiven me.
In Jesus’ Name,
Amen.