9/7 TOPIC~HERE!! ==Things Never to Say on a First Date==

[n-mini77(최은정)]

안녕하세요~^^

어제 처음으로 참석했었는데~영어가 많이 부족한 저로써~많은 도움 받은거 같애요~^^

단지....토픽을 정해야하는...음....안타까움이 있었지만~즐거웠습니다.

조금 가볍고 쉬운 주제로 정해봤어요~^^

그럼~다들 한주잘보내시구요 담주에 뵙도록해요~^^BYE~

 Things Never to Say on a First Date=

We all know that first dates are the ultimate relationship chess match. Men and women take their turns making verbal moves -- with the hopes that nobody's going to get rooked. But the truth is that first dates, very often, can be pretty far from the truth, with men and women acting as spinmeisters who do what they can to put their best faces (and personalities) forward. The stats certainly tell us that many people lie on first dates (35 percent of men say they lie about their income, and 35 percent of men also say they lie about their willingness to commit). But if the goal is to determine whether the two of you may be a good match, then part of the process is not just detecting the lies, but also knowing the best things to say-and avoiding the worst. Do that and you'll be well on your way to being the kind of person who will engage, interest, and intrigue your across-the-table mate.         

Say This: What do you do for fun?   Not That: What's your job like?       
Standard question, sure. But it's one that will elicit a standard answer-good people, I like what I do, blah blah blah. While most will certainly get the employment issue covered, the conversation will be more engaging-and you'll be more appealing-if you try to home in on those outside interests. Certainly skydiving, poodle rescue, or soup kitchens have got to be more interesting than conference calls and Power Points.       


Say This: You look fantastic    Not That: Good to see you
It may very well be good to see her, but that greeting is about as vanilla as a McDonald's shake. Instead, it's all about conveying enthusiasm-without having stalker sirens go off. No need for standing ovations, but a simple compliment sets the tone. The tactic isn't just for men to use on women, but can be especially effective in the reverse. 

Say This: Got any cool summer trips lined up? Not That: What do you want to do with your life?
If you sound like you're an HR executive, he's going to feel like a candidate for the position you have open at the moment-boyfriend and potential husband. No matter how much he may dig you, he doesn't want to feel like he's part of some master scheme of how you see your life progressing. He won't mind talking about future plans along the way, as long as your questions revolve around you or around him-not some grand plan.      
 

Say This: How's next Thursday?  Not That: Up to anything interesting this weekend? Want to meet up again soon?
Why be coy? Leave the game-playing for computer solitaire, and you'll come off as confident (and more appealing) by being unafraid to take the initiative. Plus, you'll strike the perfect balance-appearing like you have a busy schedule, but also eager to try a second date. This works especially well for women saying it to men, because men are so used to feeling like they have to make the first, second, and third moves before a relationship gets its bearings.       

 
Say This: Where you headed for vacation? What's on your iPod? Read any good blogs lately?
Not That: Can you believe Sanjaya made it that far?
Current events, pop culture, and hair-boy's shaky voice all make for great conversation-starters-and of course, they can show that you're worldly, smart, and interested in other things besides your own life. But soon after talking about the world at large, you need to find a way to bring it back to the world of your dinner companion.       

DISCUSSION::

1)Let's talk about first dates~^^ How do you approach a first date? Do you get more nervous or excited?

2)The article mentions that most people are  not  very  truthful on their first dates.

   Do you agree?? Why? or Why not??~

3)How do you know that a date is good date??

4)How can you tell if you and your partner are a good match??

5)What are your first date rules? Should the man pay for dinner on the first date? Or Should the woman pay her share??

 ^.^~~

[일구비(김진호)]

난도 일빠라는 걸 해보는구나...!! 별것도 아닌데 왜이렇게 기쁘지..!! ㅡ.-;

[June(최현경)]

Congratulations~ kkk

[June(최현경)]

Hi~ thank you for your topic! ^^

[하이지니(박민정)]

이번주 참석~ ^^

[Ace일우]

아니 벌써~~^^

[Vuitton(김소윤)]

감사~~참석!!

[colin 양현모]

저도 이번주는 참석합니다.. 일구바 나오제???

[마쏴토(우)]

this week also i'm not sure for participating, cuz this week i've got very important already-scheduled-appointment on saturday, it will likely stay up the night for drink, chat and fun.. kkk.. it's the day i've been looking forward most.. ain't get me wrong not with girl-related kkk.. i wish.. kkk. but all sundays are my favorite day for u guys... C ya.. woops i alomost forget thax 4 the topic...

[서주(서주형)]

토픽 감사합니다. 이번주엔. 참석할께요.^^;

[kate(강승은)]

저두 참석요~^^

[SuperStar(서동명)]

참석할게요~ 기대많이되요~ 처음이여서 떨리구요~

[훈스(양상훈)]

토픽 감사해요, 몇 달간 농땡이 부려서 죄송...금주는 꼭 참석합니당.

[julie99(미정)]

참석요^^

[Arthur(김덕진)]

이번 주 참석하겠습니다. 잘 부탁드립니다.^^

[flying Alice(신미량)]

저두가요 ^^

[not_yet(김대용)]

참석 할게요..오랜만에 갈듯.. 근데.. 영어가 안되서 공부를 많이 하고 가야 될듯. 이젠 귀도 막히고 입도 막히고.

[olivier(김민)]

I like this topic...Thanks for ur effort~^^

[낌미낌미]

참석합니다~^^넘 늦게 올렸나??ㅎㅎ

[Daunte]

Thank for your topic. It'd be quite useful someone like me

[Happenning(최기철)]

참석합니다~