How to Deal with Conflict Quickly
by Rick Warren
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19 (NIV)
"내 사랑하는 형제들아 너희가 알지니 사람마다 듣기는 속히 하고 말하기는 더디 하며 성내기도 더디 하라"(야고보서 1장 19)
How do you deal with conflict quickly?
I ll tell you, but you are not going to like it. The solution to resolving conflict is confrontation.
That s right; if you re going to resolve conflict, you must confront.
You don't have to confront in anger, though. In fact, you shouldn't confront in anger. Lovingly go to the person and, speaking the truth in love, deal with the problem immediately.
In James (1:19), we are taught three rules for confrontation: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
If you do the first two, the third one is automatic. If you re quick to listen and you re slow to speak, then you will be slow to anger.
What are you listening for?
You listen for the hurt in that person. Hurting people always hurt other people. When someone is being a jerk, more than likely, it s because that person is hurting. When you understand their hurt, you have a better understanding of why they do what they do, and you are a little more patient with them.
© 2008 Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved.
Resolve Anger Quickly
by Rick Warren
If you are angry, be sure that it is not out of wounded pride or bad temper. Never go to bed angry don't give the devil that sort of foothold. Ephesians 4:26-27 (PH)
“화를 내더라도, 죄를 짓는 데까지 이르지 않도록 하십시오. 해가 지도록 노여움을 품고 있지 마십시오. 악마에게 틈을 주지 마십시오.”(에베소서 4장 26,27절)
It s okay to be angry, but anger becomes wrong when it s not resolved quickly. The apostle Paul teaches, if you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin and do not stay angry all day.
The Phillips translation says, Never go to bed angry. That would keep a few of us up all night! If you said. In our marriage, we will never go to bed angry, you might work toward resolving problems a lot faster.
When anger is not dealt with quickly, it can turn to resentment and, then into bitterness. Bitterness is always sin; resentment is always sin; those emotions are always wrong.
But that doesn't mean anger is always wrong. When you care about people, sometimes anger is the correct response. I get angry when I see people blowing their lives on things that don't matter. I get angry when I see people walking right into the middle of something they know is wrong.
Regardless, we are to resolve our anger quickly, or else we are giving the devil a chance push us into bitterness and resentment.
© 2008 Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved.
Rick Warren is the founding pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, Calif., one of America's largest and best-known churches. In addition, Rick is author of the New York Times bestseller The Purpose Driven Life and The Purpose Driven Church, which was named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th Century. He is also founder of Pastors.com, a global Internet community for ministers.
How to Deal with Conflict Quickly
by Rick Warren
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19 (NIV)
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How do you deal with conflict quickly?
I ll tell you, but you re not going to like it. The solution to resolving conflict is confrontation.
That s right; if you re going to resolve conflict, you must confront.
You don t have to confront in anger, though. In fact, you shouldn t confront in anger. Lovingly go to the person and, speaking the truth in love, deal with the problem immediately.
In James (1:19), we re taught three rules for confrontation: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
If you do the first two, the third one is automatic. If you re quick to listen and you re slow to speak, then you will be slow to anger.
What are you listening for?
You listen for the hurt in that person. Hurting people always hurt other people. When someone is being a jerk, more than likely, it s because that person is hurting. When you understand their hurt, you have a better understanding of why they do what they do, and you are a little more patient with them.