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spellbinding
[ spelbaindiŋ ]
마음을 사로잡는
우리를 사로잡는 '긍정적 행사 (또는 인물)' 들이 우리 가까이 있어서
잠시나마 이 불신과 모순의 사회를 살면서
숨통이 트이는 계기를 맞는 모양이다.
물론 같은 행사나 인물을 보면서
그것이 그들을 사로잡는 것이든지 아니면 그 반대의 결과를 가져오기는 하지만 말이다
비록 카타르 월트컵에서 16강 밖에 들지 못했어도
온 국민을 사로잡은 경기들이었다.
The soccer tornament with Portugas must have been a SPELLBINDING one.
포르투갈과의 축국 경기는 마음을 사로잡는 것임데 틀림없었다
어떤 사람이 멋진 영화를 보고 친구에게 이렇게 말했다
The movie I watched had me experience a SPELLBINDING ending.
내가 감상한 영화는 나로 하여금 사로잡는 끝장면을 경험하게 했다
이렇게 멋진 spellbinding 이 psychopath (폭력을 동반하는 정신 이상자)에도 있다는
충격적 (?)인 글을 읽어서 소개한다
.Despite their uncharitable personality traits, psychopaths can also present as charming and irresistible
그들의 인정머리 없는 인격적 특성에도 불구하고
그런 정신 이상자도 매력있고 거부할 수 없는 것을 보일 수 있다
(어째서 정신 이상자의 유혹의 강력할까..?!
아름다운 사랑의 환상으로 위장된 사기치는 기술 때문이다)
These words capture the often SPELLBINDING nature of psychopaths.
이런 말들은 정신 이상자의 매혹적인 본성을 종종 사로잡는다
(Psychology Today, December 13, 2022)
좀 밝은 얘기로 전환해서 ~
The frankness and dynamics of the conversation with wit can be SPELLBINDING.
재치를 동반한 솔직하고 정력적 대화는 매혹적일 수 있다
Which movie had you feel a SPELLBINDING love story?
어떤 영화가 당신으로 하여금 마음을 사로잡게 했는지..!?
남자들에게 치명적 (?) 사실 ~
I wonder if your pillow talk has been SPELLBINDING.
당신의 벼갯머리 송사가 매려적이어왔는지 궁금하다
spellbinding perfornance (love story)
The spellbinding display of vibrant yellow colors are attracting tourists from around the world.
Want a truly spellbinding experience?
Their pillow talk would have been spellbinding .
The frankness and dynamics of the conversation were spellbinding.
Their sacred hymns with their overlapping, continuously moving harmonies are spellbinding.
Doing it will actually spellbind everyone who sees it
The view is spellbinding , and a rejuvenating start to any visit.
The spellbinding view of the Grand Canyon is something that pictures will never be able to fully express
You'll especially enjoy the movie's spellbinding ending.
the Museum is a special place with a spellbinding story to tell.
Vinita Mehta Ph.D., Ed.M.
Despite their uncharitable personality traits, psychopaths can also present as charming and irresistible.
Study participants who had dated psychopaths reported emotional, biological, behavioral, cognitive, and interpersonal effects.
In spite of the negative consequences, there were also indications that participants experienced posttraumatic growth.
Why is the seduction of the psychopath so powerful?
Because it is the art of the con wrapped in the beautiful illusion of love. ―Unknown
These words of wisdom, imparted by an anonymous source, capture the often spellbinding nature of psychopaths.
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When Your Romantic Partner Is a Psychopath: 5 Core Themes
New research explores the consequences of being involved with a psychopath.
Posted December 13, 2022
Reviewed by Michelle Quirk
KEY POINTS
Despite their uncharitable personality traits, psychopaths can also present as charming and irresistible.
Study participants who had dated psychopaths reported emotional, biological, behavioral, cognitive, and interpersonal effects.
In spite of the negative consequences, there were also indications that participants experienced posttraumatic growth.
Why is the seduction of the psychopath so powerful?
Because it is the art of the con wrapped in the beautiful illusion of love. ―Unknown
These words of wisdom, imparted by an anonymous source, capture the often spellbinding nature of psychopaths.
They are characteristically grandiose, deceitful, impulsive, without a conscience and remorse, and frequently engage in criminal activity. Yet, despite these uncharitable personality traits, they can also present as charming and irresistible.
Until they show their true colors, that is.
spellbound (adj.)
"to be bound by or as if by a spell," 1742, from spell (n.1) + bound (adj.1) "fastened," past participle of bind (v.).
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Old English spell "story, saying, tale, history, narrative, fable; discourse, command," from Proto-Germanic *spellam (see spell (v.1)). Compare Old Saxon spel, Old Norse spjall, Old High German spel, Gothic spill "report, discourse, tale, fable, myth;" German Beispiel "example." From c. 1200 as "an utterance, something said, a statement, remark;" meaning "set of words with supposed magical or occult powers, incantation, charm" first recorded 1570s; hence any means or cause of enchantment.
While it is estimated that psychopaths comprise a mere 1 percent of the general population, the devastation they leave in their wake can be enormous.
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What are the physical and mental health consequences of being intimately involved with a psychopath?
This was one focus of a study led by psychologist Adelle Forth of Carleton University in Canada.
To pursue this inquiry, she and her research team recruited 457 participants (10.5 percent male and 89.5 percent female) who had romantic involvement with a psychopath before or during taking part in the study (nearly 80 percent of participants were no longer involved).
Relationship length ranged from several months to more than 20 years, with most being between two and five years.
The participants were interviewed about their experiences and completed various psychological questionnaires, including those that assess for posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and depression.
What did Dr. Forth and her colleagues find? The analyses for this study focus revealed five core themes, which demonstrated the deep and lasting impact of being in a toxic relationship with a psychopath. The results are summarized below.
1. Emotional Consequences
The theme of emotional consequences proved most prevalent. Participants reported feelings along the spectrum of anger (including irritability and frustration) and hatred (of self and misogyny). One survivor expressed the following:
For a while after the relationship, I was angry at having been deceived on such a deep level.
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Anxiety, fear, panic, and paranoia were oft-cited feelings, as were depressive symptoms, including anhedonia, and suicidal ideation and attempts. A participant shared this:
I hit rock bottom in my life. It was the most painful experience I have ever endured. I for the first time thought of suicide as life was too painful to deal with.
2. Biological Consequences
Survivors experienced a range of somatic complaints, including gastrointestinal problems, ulcers, and headaches. Consider the repercussions as described by a participant:
I had a substantial amount of weight loss. I would gag when I would try to eat. Initially my hair did not grow. My hair fell out and is coming in gray. My nails would not grow. I would be completely dehydrated. I developed a bleeding ulcer. I would not eat sometimes for days.
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Interviewees also referenced heart and respiratory problems (e.g., angina, asthma, bronchitis), a range of endocrine and urologic diseases (e.g., diabetes, hypothyroidism), and autoimmune diseases (e.g., rheumatoid arthritis). One victim said:
I now believe that my arthritis, colon issues, etc. are directly related to the stresses of living for 14 years with a psychopath. The amount of personal energies required to handle getting through day to day life with him seemed to have sucked health from me personally.
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Some victims referred to physical injuries, like broken ribs and black eyes.
3. Behavioral Changes
Changes to sleeping and eating (e.g., insomnia), lack of self-care (e.g., substance abuse, smoking), and changes in social activities and/or interactions were reported. Many survivors said they had engaged in social activities much less. One participant reflected:
I was dealing with nearly constant depression for a long time after I left this woman. I would not venture out in public for too long, instead preferring to stay indoors and alone. I do not socialize anywhere as much as I once used to.
4. Cognitive Changes
Consistent with PTSD symptoms, survivors referenced intrusion (i.e., flashbacks), dissociation (i.e., rumination), concentration difficulties (i.e., loss of focus), and memory difficulties. A participant remarked:
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I was unable to concentrate and nearly lost my job because my boss noticed I was forgetting things and making mistakes.
5. Interpersonal Consequences
Having an intimate relationship with a psychopath damaged victims’ interpersonal functioning more broadly. Many lost trust in others, as they questioned others’ motives, withheld personal information, and feared being betrayed or abandoned. Participants also had difficulty trusting their social judgment because they had a relationship with a psychopath. Relatedly, they also referenced feelings of loss and loneliness. One participant shared:
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I feel empty and lonely, all the time. Like I’ve lost everything good in my life because I’m an idiot and fell in love with a psychopath. I have little hope for being able to find someone, or anyone who will ever understand me or want to date me.
The authors conclude their study by noting that despite the negative consequences of dating a psychopath, there were also indications that participants experienced posttraumatic growth. They reported instances of resilience and becoming a stronger person, which may be a useful area of study for the future.