낙관적인 사람들의 6가지 신념
6 Things Every Optimist Believes
1. ‘뭔가 좋은 일이 일어날 거야’라고 늘 생각한다
Good things are going to happen.
인생에는 기복이 있기 마련이다. 낙관주의자들은 아무리 계곡 밑바닥에 있더라도 곧 정상이 나타날 것이라고 생각한다. 심리학자인 쉐리 부르그 카터 박사는 “이런 자신감 넘치는 태도야 말로 회복력을 강하게 하는 데 도움이 된다”고 말한다.
카터 박사는 “실망과 도전은 인생의 불가피한 한 부분”이라며 “이런 것들을 배우고 성장하고 향상할 수 있는 기회로 여긴다면 회복의 길로 들어선 것이며 어려운 시기에도 원하는 곳까지 갈 수 있게 된다”고 말했다.
2. 감사하는 마음이 충만하다
Gratitude makes you stronger.
낙관주의자들은 긍정적인 면을 잘 인식하고 감사하는 마음을 늘 갖고 있다. 연구에 따르면, 감사를 표현하면 기쁨을 증가시켜 잠을 더 잘 자게하며 심장건강을 향상시키는 것으로 나타났다.
3. 내일은 또 새로운 태양이 뜬다
Tomorrow is a new day.
실수한 것이라든지 어리석었던 일은 그날로 끝내고 잊어버려야 한다.
내일은 또 다른 날이다. 낙천주의자들은 일이 뜻대로 안 됐을 때도 그날은 나빴던 날들 가운데 하루로 보내고 새로운 내일을 떠올린다. 낙관주의자들은 내일은 새롭게 출발하는 날로서 나쁜 날의 부정적인 경험을 줄여줄 것으로 믿는다.
4. 상황을 긍적적으로 바꾸는 힘이 있다.
Anyone has the power to make a difference.
밝은 성격을 가지면 세상에 존재하는 것들도 좋게보는 시각을 갖는다
좋지않은 상황일지라도 낙관주의자는 자신의 마음가짐을 긍정적으로 바꾼다.
2013년 한 연구에 따르면 현실적 낙관주의자들이 긍정적인 태도 때문에 보다 성공적이고 행복하다는 결론을 얻었다.
5. 잠을 잘 자야 한다 Sleep is critical.
긍정적인 태도를 가지기 위해 낙관주의자들은 수면을 충분히 취한다. 연구에 따르면, 충분한 수면은 낙관주의나 자부심과 같은 긍정적인 성격과 연관이 있는 것으로 나타났다.
6. 용서는 행복한 삶의 비결이다
Forgiveness is key to a happier life.
‘전염되는 낙관주의’의 저자인 데이비드 메자펠리는 “오래 기쁨이 넘치는 삶을 살려면 원한을 버리는 밝은 사고방식을 가져야 한다”고 말한다. 메자펠리는 “용서를 할 수 있는 가장 쉬운 방법은 과거는 과거일 뿐이라는 사실을 되새겨보는 것”이라고 말했다.
What if the solution to being happier and healthier depended on how much liquid you thought was in a glass?
If you approach reality with a glass-half-empty mentality, there may be a thing or two you can learn from those who see it from the other side. Optimism has been linked to better cholesterol, a better handle on stress and a stronger immune system.
So how can we start adopting a brighter mentality? There are certain beliefs people on the sunny side remind themselves of on a daily basis -- and just knowing these facts enhances how they live their lives. Below, find six silver linings optimists know to be true.
Good things are going to happen.
Life is a series of ups and downs -- and when they're in a valley, optimists anticipate the peak that's right around the corner. It's that buoyant attitude that can better help you cultivate resilience, writes psychologist Sherrie Bourg Carter, Psy.D. "The truth is that disappointments and challenges are an inevitable part of life," she explains in a Psychology Today blog. "So why not view them as opportunities to learn, grow and improve? If you do, you're on the road to resilience and that's exactly where you want to be during tough times."
Gratitude makes you stronger.
Optimists aren't just very aware of the positive aspects of their lives, they make sure to take stock of them. As a result, these simple acts of gratitude improve their mental well-being. Research has shown that expressing thanks can increase joy, result in better sleep and even improve heart health.
Tomorrow is a new day.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote, "Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense."
Optimists know that when things don't go their way, they've just had a bad day -- not a bad life -- and a new one is coming tomorrow. Optimists know tomorrow is a fresh start, which can in turn help lessen the negative experience of that bad day. Not a bad way to end a bad day, after all.
Anyone has the power to make a difference.
Part of having a sunny disposition is choosing to see all the goodness that exists in the world. While some may feel this is a daft outlook, optimists may see their attitude as a way to make a difference. Research suggests this approach benefits them: A 2013 study found that realistic optimists were more likely to achieve more success and happiness due to their positive, yet grounded views.
Sleep is critical.
No one likes to be around someone who wakes up on the wrong side of the bed. In order to have a positive attitude rather than a grumpy one, optimists get their proper shut-eye. And this habit helps: Research suggests that getting enough sleep may be linked with positive personality traits, such as optimism and self-esteem.
Forgiveness is key to a happier life.
We all have our pitfalls -- and optimists choose to see those as opportunities for second chances. As Contagious Optimism author David Mezzapelle explains, adopting a bright mentality allows you to let go of a grudge in order to live a long, joyful life.
"This is easier said than done but you need to forgive those that have affected your ability to find the silver linings," he told HuffPost. "I believe that the easiest way to forgive and move on is to reflect on the fact that the past is the past. Just look at it this way; the person that you are having a hard time forgiving probably wishes that he or she could erase the past as well."