3月7日 Technology's role in long-distance relationships (관련 자료 조금 추가 ^^)

[minnie(천민희)]

http://www.metronews.ca/toronto/comment/article/459326--technology-s-role-in-long-distance-relationships

메트로에 있던 칼럼입니다 ^^

Maintaining a relationship when geography keeps you apart isn’t easy.

Technology has certainly helped to bridge the gap. But while things like webcams and Skype, texting and email can literally keep you connected when school, work or even war separate you for long periods of time, these new technologies don’t always make long-distance relationships easier.

In fact, sometimes they can even make things worse.

“One of the problems with email when you’re in a long-distance relationships is that you can’t express tone and it’s easy to misread things,” explains 32-year-old Lisa, who’s boyfriend of two years is in Australia for a year for work.

“Emoticons help a bit, but there are limitations. Once in a while we deal with bigger emotional stuff by email, but we try to avoid it,” she continues.

“It can be tempting to write things in email you wouldn’t say to each other in person and, once it’s in writing and you hit send, you can’t take it back.”

Texting can be great because you can send each other quick “hits” throughout the day just to let the other person know you’re thinking about them. But, because technology has trained us to expect constant and immediate communication, if you don’t get a returned text immediately, it’s hard not to fill the empty space with doubt about why you haven’t heard back.

In some cases, communicating more often can even push long-distance couples apart.

Gregory Guldner is the director of the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relationships in the U.S. He also spent four months as an emergency physician in Iraq.

In an article in Forbes magazine, he says that, in the military, for instance, tools like satellite phones have broken down some barriers that would have better been left standing.

“Technological communication can interfere with the separate worlds that people are trying to maintain,” Guldner is quoted saying.

“When a soldier is pinned down in combat and his wife is at home trying to deal with a broken dishwasher, they can’t really relate to one another.”

And communication technology can only take “that long-distance feeling” so far.

Lisa and her boyfriend have regular video conferencing “dates.”

But, says Lisa, “While it can be fun to watch a movie together on a Saturday night while we’re both on webcam, sometimes, the experience just makes me miss being physically together even more.”

1.     Have you ever had a long distance relationship? Was it easy to maintain?

2.     What usually causes trouble between couples in L.D.R?

3.     Do you believe the saying “ Out of sight, out of mind “ ?

4.     Do you think new technology makes it easier to maintain the relationship?

5.     Will you be alright with your boyfriend or girlfriend going to Africa to volunteer over a year?

       Can you let him go?

  토픽 올리고 보니 약간 심심해 보여서 토픽을 생각하게 한 드라마의 장면들을 같이 올려요 ^^

 혹시나 풍부한 화제를 만드는 데 도움이 될 수 있을까 해서요 -

 제가 좋아하는 미드 중 하나인 Ugly Betty 구요. 아는 분은 아시겠지만, 못생겼지만 능력있는 베티가 미국 최고의

 패션매거진 미드에서 일하게 되며 겪는 이야기 입니다. 시즌 4 진행중이구요.

 순진하지만, 우유부단한 헨리 ( 베티를 좋아하지만, 전 여친이 임신해 베티를 떠난..), 나름 귀여웠던 샌드위치 가게 주인

 지오, 약간 약먹은 듯한 밴드 보이 등; 여러 남자를 거쳐 마침내 맷을 만납니다.

 맷은 백만장자의 아들내미에 다수의 학위, 예술적 재능까지 겸비했고, 집착으로 보일 정도로 베티에게 넘치는 사랑을

준답니다... 이번에는 제대로 만났나 싶었는데......

                                  자신이 원하는 글을 쓰고 싶은 베티와 그녀만의 블로그를 만들기를 제안하는 맷

                                                  블로그 이름은 " 한사람에게 라도 영감을 주는 것 " 입니다.

     아프리카에서 개발사업을 돕고 있는 멋진 여성을 만나 인터뷰를 하고, 표현하기 힘든 그녀의 느낌들을 글로 옮기는 베티.

                        베티의 글은 확실히 한 사람에게는 영감을 주죠..다름 아님 남친 맷 !

                        그는 반짝이는 눈으로 아프리카에 가서 구호활동을 해보고 싶다고 합니다...

                        얼마나 걸릴지도 모르는 데 말이죠..

                        지금까지 항상 자신이 하고 싶은 일이 무엇인지 몰라 방황해왔는데, 이번엔 남들에게 도움이 되는 일을

                       해보고 싶다고 합니다..

                           Look, you said that I needed to find meaning in my life, And you were right. 
                          And I've wasted so mh time asking myself, What do I need? What do I want?
                           But your story got me to ask a different question, Like what do other people need?

                베티는 결국 아주 쏘-쿨 하게 그를 보내줍니다...왠지 한국 커플 같았으면 "나랑 헤어지고 가라~"

               며 울며 불며 매달릴 거 같기도 한데...그들은 아쉬움만 뒤로 한 채 각자의 길을 간답니다.

                " 내가 어딜가든 너에 대한 내 마음은 변하지 않아.." 라고 말하는 맷이 밉게 느껴지기도 해요..

              마지막 장면에서 베티가 쓴 Good bye에 대한 글이 꽤나 마음에 남아 적어봅니다.. ^^

I've have to say good-bye more times than I would have liked

But everyone can say that

And no matter how many times we do it

even when it's for the greater good, it always stinks.

and though we'll never forget what we've given up,

We owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward.

What we can't do is live our lives always afraid of the next good-bye

Because chances are they're not going to stop.

The trick is to recognize when a good-bye can be a good thing when it chances to start again.

[Anna(유정)]

미니- why didn't you go MT?? I miss U ^^*
토픽 땡스~*

[minnie(천민희)]

일이 생겼었어..ㅠ_ㅠ안타까워 흑흑..이번주에 봐용 +_+

[cindy(장인경)]

어글리 베티... 다운 받아서 보고 싶네요~ ㅎㅎㅎ 토픽 캄사~

[scott(박범석)]

어글리 베티는 아직 안 봤는데 ~ 빅뱅이론 다 보고 한번 봐야겠네요^^!! 토픽 올리느라 수고 많으셨어요~~ 일욜날 보자구요!! Yeah~~^^

[Vuitton(김소윤)]

아~tv에서 하는거 딴데로 바로 돌렸는데..ㅠㅡㅠ좀 볼껄~~토픽 감사요^^

[Daunte]

토픽 고맙습니다. 안 하셨으면 섭섭했겠는데요.만남과 이별^^윤회설