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Hello ! All !~
It's me Scarlett !
This week we have 3 topics.
- The World’s Most-Spoken Languages In A Single Infographic
- How great leaders inspire action
- 6 Ways to Cultivate Better Relationships for More Happiness
Hope you enjoy the topics.
With luv
Scarlett
The World’s Most-Spoken Languages In A Single Infographic
This fascinating infographic elegantly breaks down the world’s most popular languages and the countries in which they are spoken.
Specifically, the circle represents the 4.1 billion people around the world who speak one of 23 of the world’s most-spoken languages as their native tongue – the numbers of people speaking an actual language in any given country may actually be higher. It was created for the South China Morning Post by Alberto Lucas Lopez, an infographic journalist. Be sure to view the full-sized version to get all the details!
<Questions>
Q1. How many languages do you speak ? Please name all the languages that you can speak?
Q2. Among the 23 of the world’s most-spoken languages,
which language would you like to learn more ? And why ?
Q3. What are the advantages of multilingual ability?
Q4. What is the reason for learning other languages?
Q5. Learning new language is the one of the process to get to know about
other countries' cultural
backgrounds.
In this perspective, what is the most intriguing language for you?
[TED] Simon Sinek: How great leaders inspire action
Video clip Source : https://www.ted.com/playlists/171/the_most_popular_talks_of_all
<Questions>
Q1. Can you make a definition of good leadership?
Q2. Can you name any public figure who shows good leadership?
For your choice, what was the most attractive points of him/her as a good leader?
Q3. What are the important components to be a good leader?
Q4. What kinds of person you are between a leader and a follower?
Q5. According to the movie clip, Ideas or innovations in the society are spreading out
with 'the law of the diffusion of innovation'. Basically, people in public are divided into 5 groups
which are innovators, early adopter, early majority, late majority and laggards.
And new ideas are generally triggered by the innovators and early adopter and spreading out
to other groups after that. In this context, first two group's role is very crucial
and this bold and challenging attitude can be the prominent characteristics of the leader group.
Among those 5 groups, do you think which group are you involved in ?
6 Ways to Cultivate Better Relationships for More Happiness
Posted: 05/23/2015 10:06 am EDT Updated: 05/23/2015 7:59 pm EDT
Happiness is an elusive topic that has been studied and contemplated by many throughout history. While there are many theories and ideas of what it means to be happy, I decided to focus on the relational aspect of happiness in this blog. As an Imago relationship therapist and someone who specializes in helping my clients achieve happy and healthy relationships I have come to view much of happiness through a relational lens.
It is no coincidence that online dating and the wedding industry are extremely successful businesses. Human beings seek and crave close and intimate relationships. When we feel loved and connected we feel "whole." However, romantic relationships are not the only or even primary source of relational happiness. Friendships and family relationships can be just as important. When someone in therapy is going through a difficult time a psychotherapist may often ask, "who is your support network?" This is an important question because the stronger the support network, the easier the recovery. Feeling loved and supported by a "tribe" is often essential to how happy we are. In fact, research even shows the mental and physical benefits of friendship.
Of course on the opposite end of the spectrum, relationships also have the power to make us extremely unhappy. Being in the wrong relationship or being surrounded by people who don't make us feel good or take advantage of us can feel awful and drain us emotionally. Positive relationships enhance our happiness but negative relationships have the power to make us unhappy. Because relationships are so powerful it is important to know how to cultivate fulfilling relationships. Throughout our lives no one teaches us how to be in relationships. There are no classes in school that tell us how to have healthy and happy relationships. We are often just navigating them on our own and learning as we go.
Given that we are often uneducated on healthy relationships, what are some things one can do to cultivate better relationships with others? Here are a few tips:
1. Empathy: The most successful relationship dynamics are when each person involved in the relationship has a strong sense of empathy. Empathy basically means that you are consciously thinking about how another person might feel and acting respectfully and thoughtfully accordingly. I've seen a lot of relationships end because of the narcissism, selfishness or entitlement of one person. If you want to develop a real sense of intimacy and closeness with another person you have to be able to put yourself in their shoes. I believe that empathy is the foundation and core of any successful relationship.
2. Thoughtfulness and Generosity: When I use the word "generosity" I don't mean that you should be buying your friends and family expensive gifts (or gifts at all). Generosity is emotional generosity. My grandfather died recently and some friends of mine wrote me really thoughtful cards which meant the world to me and made me feel really lucky. Even just checking in with someone on a regular basis to show you care is a sign of thoughtfulness and generosity. Showing appreciation through words, gift giving, verbal appreciation or any thoughtful gesture that shows someone you are thinking of them is also a form of thoughtfulness and generosity.
3. Consistency and Follow Through: I was raised with the mantra: "If you tell someone you're going to do something, you do it" (thanks, dad!). Nobody likes someone who constantly bails, doesn't follow through, or makes empty promises. You can only get away with flaky behavior for so long before people stop putting up with it.
4. Compromise and Fairness: All relationships should have some feeling of reciprocity. This doesn't mean tit for tat but it means both parties in the relationship do not feel like the relationship is one sided or uneven. All strong relationships require a degree of compromise and fairness. People who consistently take from others and expect people to give and bend over backwards for them without lifting a finger are people who don't have many friends or any friendships of real substance. They are users.
5. Don't Ask People For Things Only When You Need Something: This was another childhood message I received that I am incredibly grateful for. Isn't it the most infuriating thing when someone calls you only when they need something from you? All positive and healthy relationships should stem from something beyond just selfish needs. People are more inclined to want to do nice things for you when they feel like you really like them for who they are and not what you can do for them.
6. Boundaries: If you find yourself in a friendship/relationship with someone who has little or no empathy, is not thoughtful or emotionally generous, is flaky, does not compromise, or only asks for things of you when they need something from you, put up a boundary and either distance yourself from the person or end the relationship entirely. There is no point in having relationships that make you feel bad, drain you and leave you resentful.
This article was originally published on Lena's blog at the Imago Center in Washington D.C. website
Article Source : http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lena-aburdene-derhally/want-more-happiness-cultivate-better-relationships_b_7338628.html?ir=Women&utm_hp_ref=women
<Questions>
Q1. What is your definition for Happiness?
Q2. When we feel loved and connected we feel "whole." According to an article,
relational happiness is considered as a primary source for happiness.
Do you agree with it? Do you think what is the fundamental component of Happiness?
Q3. Psychological comfortness is the fundamental factor to make us to be happy.
In this context, when you go to the psychotherapist, you will be asked with below questions first.
Who is your support network?
Q4. Once in a while, everyone is in a tumbled situation mentally or physically.
However if you have strong resilience capacity, you would recover yourself from
those difficulties easily. Do you think what are the crucial factors to be resilient for the adversities?
Q5. Have you ever in a wrong relationship or surrounded by people who don't make you feel good
or take advantage of you? This status will make you feel awful and drain your emotion throughly.
If you are in this situation, How would you deal with it?
Q6. From the article, some tips were proposed by the author to cultivate better relationships
with others. Do you think what can be the other skills for better relationship except below tips?
1. Empathy
2. Thoughtfulness and Generosity
3. Consistency and Follow Through
4. Compromise and Fairness
5. Don't Ask People For Things Only When You Need Something
6. Boundaries
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