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원하지 않는 일들이
꾸준이 이뤄지고 있다
영어 이야기 2028
transpire
[trænˈspaiə(r)]
증발하다
발생하다
요즈음은 옛날에 비해 부부 싸움이 그렇게 많지 않는 편이라고 한다
전에 TV 수신기가 한 가정에 하나밖에 없었을 때
운동 경기를 보려는 남편과 연속극 (드라마라고 해야 품위있어 보이는)을
시청하려고 했고 자녀들은 그들이 원하는 프로그램을 원했었다
거실에 TV, 부부 침실에도 (아니면 computer 로 봐도 되고)
자녀들은 smartphone 만 있으면 되므로 가족끼리
channel 전쟁은 하지 않아도 된다.
A fight between a wife and a husband TRANSPIRED
which channel they wanted to watch on.
어느 channel 로 보기를 원하느냐로
부부간의 싸움이 일어났었다.
이런 부부 싸움도 있었다
The couple's qurrel usually TRANSPIRES after eating in a fancy restaurant
고급 식당에서 식사를 한 후에 종종 그 부부간의 다툼이 일어난다.
(분위기를 좇는 아내와 푸짐하고 격식없이
많이 먹기를 원하는 남편과의 취미 때문에 ~ )
가정의 달이어서인지 부부에게 생기는 일을 하고 싶어진다
며칠 전에 읽은 Continually Improving Your Conversations
'당신의 대화를 꾸준하게 향상시키기'라는 글에서
Preparing intentions for a conversation and then taking time
after to reflect on what TRANSPIRED can improve the flow of your interactions.
대화를 위한 의도를 준비하고 나서 무슨 일이 발생했지 반성하는 시간을 갖는 것은
당신의 (대화의) 상호작용의 흐름을 향상시킬 수 있다.
(Psychology Today,,April 30, 2023)
나는 미국을 자동차 여행을 하면서
사막의 식물 (특히 선인장)에 대한 생각을 많이 했다
Plants growing in a desert particularly a cactus do not TRASPIRED as freely as most plants
사막에서 자라는 식물들 특히 선인장은
대부분의 식물들 보다 자유롭게 증발을 하지 않는다
한반도의 남북관계 정상 회담에 대해 외신은 이런 기사를 보도한 적이 있다
Nobody could guess what had TRASPIRED at the meeting Moon and Kim.
아무도 문과 김의 만남에서 무엇이 일어났는지 상상할 수 없었다
철학에서는 이런 주장을 한다
Perception TRANSPRES continuously over both time and space.
인식 (認識)은 시간과 공간을 초워해서 꾸준히 진행된다
The couple's qurrel usually TRANSPIRES after eating in a fancy restaurant
a cactus does not transpire as freely as most plants
A plant transpires more freely on a hot dry day.
This has never transpired to me befo
It transpired that the gang had had a contact inside
No one will soon forget the historic events that transpired on that day.
it transpired that he had misused public funds.
It transpired that Paolo had left his driving licence at home.
We do not know what will transpire when we have a new boss.
He also knew I was the only person who guessed what had transpired.
Perception transpires continuously over both time and space.
my weight loss would not transpire as quickly as I wanted it to happen.
So far as he was concerned, however, the secret did not at all transpire.
Marcia Reynolds Psy.D.
Wander Woman
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2 Steps to Continually Improve Your Conversations
What to do before and after a conversation to ensure effective results.
Posted April 30, 2023
Reviewed by Abigail Fagan
KEY POINTS
Preparing intentions for a conversation and then taking time after to reflect on what transpired can improve the flow of your interactions.
Before the conversation, set two intentions—one for the goal you want to achieve together and one for how you want the other person to feel.
To continually improve the effectiveness of your conversations, carve out time to reflect on what transpired shortly after the experience.
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If you want good results from your conversations, both live and remote, there are two steps you should take each time.
Whether you think the conversation will go smoothly or be bumpy, these two steps will help you achieve the outcomes you desire from all your interactions. They are intention preparation and follow-up reflection.
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Intention Preparation
You will have two intentions, one focused on achieving a task goal and the other on how you want people to feel.
Goal Intention: You may have a desired outcome for the interaction based on a tangible goal you want to achieve. You should also consider what the person or group you are addressing wants to have as a result of the interaction.
To let people know you understand and respect what they want, start with this statement when you first speak. Clearly and sincerely explain what you believe to be their desired outcome. Let them know your intention is to find a way to work together so they walk away feeling you have found a way forward together. People need to feel you genuinely care about their desires or they will assume you just want them to do something for you.
Then you can share what you want as an outcome. If your desire for a solution or new way forward complements theirs, then say how what you want overlaps with their desires. If your goal is different, then share what you are willing to do to negotiate so everyone accomplishes something of value.
You might ask for confirmation that you understand what they want to be sure there is an agreement before working to blend your outcomes. This agreement will make it easier to create an acceptable plan.
transpire (v.)
1590s, "pass off in the form of a vapor or liquid," from French transpirer (16c.), from Latin trans "across, beyond; through" (see trans-) + spirare "to breathe" (see spirit (n.)). Figurative sense of "leak out, become known" is recorded from 1741, and the erroneous meaning "take place, happen" is almost as old, being first recorded 1755. Related: Transpired; transpiring.
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spirit (n.)
mid-13c., "animating or vital principle in man and animals," from Anglo-French spirit, Old French espirit "spirit, soul" (12c., Modern French esprit) and directly from Latin spiritus "a breathing (respiration, and of the wind), breath; breath of a god," hence "inspiration; breath of life," hence "life;" also "disposition, character; high spirit, vigor, courage; pride, arrogance," related to spirare "to breathe," perhaps from PIE *(s)peis- "to blow" (source also of Old Church Slavonic pisto "to play on the flute"). But de Vaan says "Possibly an onomatopoeic formation imitating the sound of breathing. There are no direct cognates."
Meaning "supernatural immaterial creature; angel, demon; an apparition, invisible corporeal being of an airy nature" is attested from mid-14c.; from late 14c. as "a ghost" (see ghost (n.)). From c. 1500 as "a nature, character"; sense of "essential principle of something" (in a non-theological context, as in Spirit of St. Louis) is attested from 1680s, common after 1800; Spirit of '76 in reference to the qualities that sparked and sustained the American Revolution is attested by 1797 in William Cobbett's "Porcupine's Gazette and Daily Advertiser."
From late 14c. in alchemy as "volatile substance; distillate;" from c. 1500 as "substance capable of uniting the fixed and the volatile elements of the philosopher's stone." Hence spirits "volatile substance;" sense narrowed to "strong alcoholic liquor" by 1670s. This also is the sense in spirit level (1768). Also from mid-14c. as "character, disposition; way of thinking and feeling, state of mind; source of a human desire;" in Middle English freedom of spirit meant "freedom of choice." From late 14c. as "divine substance, divine mind, God;" also "Christ" or His divine nature; "the Holy Ghost; divine power;" also, "extension of divine power to man; inspiration, a charismatic state; charismatic power, especially of prophecy." Also "essential nature, essential quality." From 1580s in metaphoric sense "animation, vitality."
According to Barnhart and OED, originally in English mainly from passages in Vulgate, where the Latin word translates Greek pneuma and Hebrew ruah. Distinction between "soul" and "spirit" (as "seat of emotions") became current in Christian terminology (such as Greek psykhe vs. pneuma, Latin anima vs. spiritus) but "is without significance for earlier periods" [Buck]. Latin spiritus, usually in classical Latin "breath," replaces animus in the sense "spirit" in the imperial period and appears in Christian writings as the usual equivalent of Greek pneuma. Spirit-rapping is from 1852.
trans-
word-forming element meaning "across, beyond, through, on the other side of, to go beyond," from Latin trans (prep.) "across, over, beyond," perhaps originally present participle of a verb *trare-, meaning "to cross," from PIE *tra-, variant of root *tere- (2) "cross over, pass through, overcome." In chemical use indicating "a compound in which two characteristic groups are situated on opposite sides of an axis of a molecule" [Flood].
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People Intention: Know how you want people to feel during the conversation and when you walk away. Whatever you want them to feel — curious, comfortable, courageous, patient, or hopeful — you should intentionally feel the same way as you mentally prepare.
Whether you are alone in your office or in a crowded hallway, before you engage in the conversation choose two emotions you want others to feel. Say these words to yourself as you breathe them into your body. Feel the emotions settle in to your heart and gut.
If you get irritated or anxious during the conversation, take a breath and remind yourself of the two emotions you chose to feel. Remind yourself that you value your relationship before you respond to their words. It is important you model the behavior you want others to portray. It’s also important you consistently model the emotions you want everyone to feel.
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Be aware of your emotions when you ask questions. When you ask how they see the challenge and what solutions they have considered, ask out of curiosity, not to overtly point out holes in their logic. If your intention is to get them to see the faults in their thinking, they will see you trying to convince them they are wrong instead of working to find a solution. They will either become defensive or shut down instead of opening up.
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Ask questions with the intention to understand how they think about a situation and how their past experiences led them to believe what will happen next. Your questions should stimulate them to consider the validity and relevancy of their thoughts without you pushing this analysis. Seek to understand their thinking. This could open them to want to understand your perspective as well, leading to creative collaboration.
Even a why question can be generative if you are asking with compassionate curiosity. Ask "why do you think that happened or will happen?" not "why did you do that?" to keep the conversation open.
If you take even a few minutes to mentally prepare your intentions for an interaction, you will have a broader context for the follow-up reflection. When you are clear about what you might achieve together and how you want people to feel you are more likely to stay in control while allowing an easy flow of ideas.
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Follow-up Reflection
The educational reformer John Dewey said, “We do not learn from experience ... we learn from reflecting on experience.” Often this reflection happens days, months, or years after an event occurs. You can shorten this process by deliberately carving out reflection time shortly after you have a conversation or experience.
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Resist the urge to grab your phone after an event to see what texts or emails you missed. You will forget details. When you recall the event later, your memory is distorted by your current environment, the experiences you have had since the time of the event, and the mood you are in. You pull out details from your memory and piece them together like a jigsaw puzzle, weaving in other memories and emotional reactions.1
To learn from any experience, find a few minutes to answer these questions as soon as you can after it is over:
Did you achieve what you wanted out of the experience?
What turned out to be most important about engaging in this experience?
What went well?
What needs to happen now?
What did you learn that will help you in the future?
Regardless of the degree of controversy you anticipate, mentally preparing your intentions for a conversation and then taking time after to reflect on what transpired will improve the flow of all your interactions. You will not only achieve satisfying outcomes, but you will also strengthen your relationships.