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Poll finds we frown on lying, but white lies are frequent

(AP) -- It can be hard to get people to face the truth sometimes. Especially about lying.

 

You don't want your kids to eat too much, so you say all the cookies are gone. You don't feel like going out, so you tell your date something important came up. You're overloaded with errands, so you call in sick.

 

Lies, all of them -- but we don't really like calling them that. In a new Associated Press-Ipsos poll, over half of respondents said lying was never justified. Yet in the same poll, up to two-thirds said it was OK to lie in certain situations, for instance, protecting someone's feelings.

 

Apparently white lies are an acceptable, even necessary, part of many lives -- even though we dislike the idea of lying.

 

Rebecca Campbell knew exactly what she was doing when she recently told her 4-year-old son that there were no more cartoons on TV. And she didn't like it. "One day, he'll probably figure it out," she says. "There are cartoons on all the time!"

 

But, says the 25-year-old mother from Quincy, Illinois, "We couldn't have the TV on all day." Deep in her heart, she knew that telling him the truth would have been better, though more time-consuming, as discipline often is. "It's the easy trap of a lie," she says ruefully. "It's easier than telling the truth."

 

Which is, of course, why new haircuts receive so many compliments, notes Teresa Velin, a mother in Palm Desert, California.

 

Velin says it was just too darned hot and she didn't feel up to getting dressed and leaving home for a recent movie date. So she told a friend she was busy. "I'm not always as busy as I appear to be," says Velin, 27. "But I don't want to ruin a friendship over a broken movie date."

 

Nearly two-thirds of Americans agree. In the AP-Ipsos poll, 65 percent of those questioned said it was sometimes OK to lie to avoid hurting someone's feelings, even though 52 percent said lying, overall, was never justified.

 

Among those 52 percent, if he'd been alive and reachable, would have been the 18th-century German philosopher Immanuel Kant, who believed all lying was bad -- every single lie, even one that could save someone's life.

 

But most moral philosophers would disagree, assures noted ethics columnist Randy Cohen, who himself is so far from the Kantian view as to proudly proclaim: "I'm a big fan of lying."

 

"Not only is lying justified, it is sometimes a moral duty," says Cohen. An obvious example is when you're lying to protect someone from serious harm. But much less extreme cases often call for lies, Cohen says.

 

An example he likes: Your fictional spouse, about to accept a Nobel prize, asks if they look fat. "If you're on the way to the award ceremony, you say, 'You look fabulous,"' Cohen instructs. "Anything else would be cruel." If you're still in the hotel room, a suggestion of a different outfit might be appropriate.

 

Still, every lie has its cost, Cohen says, and that's just another factor you need to consider. One key cost is credibility: Once a person finds out you lied, you lose currency in their eyes.

For Harold Smith, it was worth the risk when he lied to his adult daughter about his health when undergoing treatment for a kidney tumor. "Why get her all traumatized?" says Smith, 64, of Pioneer, California. "I tried to protect her. It slowed down the anxiety. Later, I told her what really happened."

 

In the poll of 1,000 adults taken June 23-27, four in 10 people said it was OK sometimes to exaggerate a story to make it more interesting, and about a third said it was OK to lie about your age. (In interviews, though, some specified that meant lying backward in time, not forward, as in trying to get past the drinking age.) The poll was taken June 23-27 and had a margin of error of plus or minus three points.

 

A third also said it was OK to sometimes lie about being sick to take a day off work. Very few would admit to thinking it was OK to lie on a resume, cheat on taxes or lie to a spouse about an extramarital affair.

 

Among the groups more likely to say lying was sometimes OK: people aged 18-29, college graduates and those with higher household incomes. "People have this idea that lying is bad," says Bella DePaulo, a visiting professor at UC Santa Barbara who's studied the phenomenon of lying. "But when you really start going through it, it's not that simple."

 

In a study in the late '90s, DePaulo asked 77 college students and later, 70 people in the Charlottesville, Virginia, community to track every lie, however small, in a journal for a week. Of the 77 students, only one reported having told no lie. Of the 70 other people, six made that claim.

 

"People who say lying is wrong are often thinking in the abstract," DePaulo says. "In our real lives, we can't always pick honesty without compromising some other value that might be as important" -- like maintaining a happy relationship. If you're at a party and your partner is saying something you disagree with, for example, you might stay quiet, in the name of marital harmony.

 

Of course, there are inherent problems with any study that asks people to be honest about, well, being dishonest.

 

In the AP-Ipsos poll, for example, four in 10 people answered that they'd never had to lie or cheat. But one in 10 of THOSE people said in the very next answer that yes, they might have told a lie in the past week.

 

Which means they might have misunderstood the question -- or, ahem, they may have lied.

 

Reference

http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/07/11/lies.we.tell.ap/index.html

 

Questions:

 

1. How many percent of the people questioned said that it was sometimes ok to lie?
2. According to the article, what kind of lie is an acceptable, even necessary, part of many lives?
3. According to the article, what news organization conducted the poll?
4. Do you lie?
5. When do you usually tell a lie?
6. What was the biggest lie you have told?
7. Was there a time that you got in trouble for telling a lie?
8. Do you think telling white lies is actually necessary? Why?
9. Can lying be justified? If yes, how can lying be justified?
10. What do you think about people who tell lies all the time?

Vocabulary

 

errand  

A short trip taken to perform a specified task, usually for another

 

poll  

A survey of the public or of a sample of public opinion to acquire information

 

darn  

Used to express dissatisfaction or annoyance

 

philosopher  

A person who lives and thinks according to a particular philosophy

 

fabulous  

astonishing

 

outfit  

A set of clothing, often with accessories

 

exaggerate  

To represent as greater than is actually the case; overstate

 

compromise  

The result of such a settlement