Re:Re: Parents! Just let them decide alone!

Hi, Steroids Whenever I read your post, I feel that you are like a strict professor. I absolutely agree with you and am admired last two sentences, being a wise parents to teach our children how to make right decision in their lives. I'll try to remember those words all the time. Thank you for your good post... Sung --------------------- [원본 메세지] --------------------- Dear Ray, In many of the Korean dramas, one of the essential themes has been parents' objections to their child's own choice of spouse. Under the veil of love, they'd like to be in control of their child, and easily become frustrated and outraged when their child insists on his or her own choice. Some may argue that it would be natural for any parents to wish their child to get on successfully in the world. I can agree to this statement, but the problem is not their wish but their dictatorship over their child. Parents may advise their child but should not decide by themselves on any matters of life instead of their child. Children are not puppets of their parents, and they have the right to lead their own lives. Traditionally, Koreans have been obedient to their parents, and this filial devotion has been regarded as a top virtue. Being dutiful to parents is doubtlessly a good thing, but leading one's own life is another. Although your life was given by your parents, they cannot live your life. That is, you are solely responsible for your life. In order to be independent of parents, one must be independent in terms of economic ability first, I guess. In western countries, most children left their parents' breast to manage their own lives as soon as they graduate from a high school. They earn their own money for themselves and thereby can decide everything alone. But the situation is much different in Korea. Most Korean children are dependent on their parents, especially in terms of economy no matter how old they are. That's the real problem. In my thought, wise parents will not command their child on every specific of life including the choice of spouse, but will teach their child how to make right decisions, which will greatly help their child throught his or her life. Steroids --------------------- [원본 메세지] --------------------- Hi, everyone. I had a lunch with my co-worker. He is single and young. these days he puts together a pretty girl. They would like to marry. It's not take long time to meet, but they have lots of common things. they are a boy and a girl in their partents. their major is same. she said to him"It's miracle to meet you." Now he is culator,but he really want to be baker. so he is considering to go abroad in one year. Of course, she trust him and he is not culator,eventhough he'll be baker, she must love him. But I asked him, "How about her parents?" I'm married. I knew to marry is not dream. Maybe her parents would not permit to marry . All of parents have a highest expect to their children. Her praents are proud of their daughter. Do you think my thoughts are negative?