In order that this union may be achieved, a wife is given a perception of her husband's affections and the highest prudence in how to moderate them

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166. (8) In order that this union may be achieved, a wife is given a perception of her husband's affections, and also the highest prudence in knowing how to moderate them. This, too, is one of the secrets of conjugial love which wives conceal within and keep to themselves - the fact that wives recognize their husbands' affections and discreetly moderate them. They recognize these affections through the three senses of sight, hearing and touch, and they moderate them without their husbands' being at all aware of it.
Now, because these are among things kept secret by wives, it is not appropriate for me to reveal them in their particulars. It is, however, appropriate for wives themselves, and therefore I have included at the end of several chapters four narrative accounts in which wives themselves reveal them. Two of the accounts come from the three wives living in the hall on which I saw what seemed to be golden rain falling.* And the other two accounts come from seven wives sitting in a rose garden.** If these accounts are read, this secret will be seen revealed.
* See nos. 155[r] and 208.
** See nos. 293 and 294.