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non-verbal
말로 하지 않는
비언어적
부부나 애인이 헤어질 때 하는 말을 보면
"나 같은 노ㅁ (녀ㄴ) 만나서 고생했어요.
앞으로 좋은 사람 만나 잘 사세요,"라고 덕담을 하는 사람이 있는가 하면,
"잘 먹고 잘 살아라, 내가 당신이 어떻게 사는지 지켜 볼거에요."라는 사람도 있다.
그런데 의외로 차분하게 '가요의 가사 처럼'
"떠날 때는 말 없이 말 없이 가오리다,"라는 성숙한 (?) 헤어짐도 있다
그런 표현을 non-verbal good-bye (말 없는 헤어짐)이라는 표현이 있는지 모르겠다.
우리가 잘 사용하고 있는 '비언어적' 은 다음과 같은 좋은 예가 있다
Body language is a NON-VERBAL form of communication,
displayed by facial expressions, stances, and gestures.
몸짓 언어는 얼굴 표정, 자세 그리고 감정 표시에 의해
나타내는 대화의 형식이다.
이런 표현은 언어 구사를 할 수 있는 사람들의
언어 외의 감정 표시 방법이지만 그렇지 않은 경우도 있다
non-verbal 은 물론 '아니다' 또는 '부족하다 (lack)' 라는 의미의
non 이라는 접두어에 verbum (말 특히 동사와 연관된) 을 합친 낱말이다.
'생생한 언어가 아니다'라는 깊은 뜻을 하고 있다
our words crystal clear, we often use body language, a non verbal style of communication
non-verbal
말로 하지 않는
비언어적
. Schiraldi Ph.D.
Hidden Wounds
ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES
Shame Thought Traps and Adverse Childhood Experiences
Acquired thinking patterns matter.
Posted July 12, 2023
Reviewed by Davia Sills
The problem is that he expected you to understand his non-verbal communication.Eye-blocking is non-verbal behavior which occurs when people feel scared
To make the meaning of our words crystal clear, we often use body language, a non verbal style of communication
In nonverbal communication between cultures, the answer is "respectfully."
he knew what your non-verbal communication (his arm around you) meant.
Body language is a nonverbal form of communication, displayed by facial expressions, stances, and gestures.
This goes for dress, too, which is part of nonverbal communication.
Social cues are nonverbal signals that help us understand how others are feeling.
The use of body language and nonverbal cues can also convey meaning.The use of body language and nonverbal cues can also convey meaning.
We can communicate through body language and nonverbal cues.
I was able to surmise out of the nonverbal cues.
추측하다
Misinterpretation can occur with nonverbal cues.
We can use nonverbal communication, such as facial expressions and gestures, to convey meaning.
To be a good listener, you must carefully listen to the speaker's words and nonverbal cues.
This goes for dress, too, which is part of nonverbal communication.
Messengering has its downsides, such as misinterpretation of tone and lack of nonverbal cues.
불리한 면
Nonverbal communication refers to the transmission of messages through facial expressions, body language, gestures, and other nonverbal cues."
KEY POINTS
Shame-based memories from the earliest years of life imprint primarily in the non-verbal right brain.
Once the left brain comes online developmentally, learned verbalized thoughts can add to and worsen shame.
Disturbing thoughts linked to shame can be unlearned, with a resulting lessening of disturbing symptoms.
This post is part of a series on adverse childhood experiences. Read the other parts here.
Shame from the earliest months and years of life imprint primarily in the non-verbal right brain, with its strong connections to the emotional and survival regions of the brain.
a prefix used freely in English and meaning "not, lack of," or "sham," giving a negative sense to any word, 14c., from Anglo-French noun-, from Old French non-, from Latin non "not, by no means, not at all, not a," from Old Latin noenum "not one" (*ne oinom, from PIE root *ne- "not" + PIE root *oi-no- "one, unique"). In some cases perhaps from Middle English non "not" (adj.), from Old English nan (see not). "It differs from un- in that it denotes mere negation or absence of the thing or quality, while un- often denotes the opposite of the thing or quality" [Century Dictionary].
early 15c., "dealing with words" (especially in contrast to things or realities), from Old French verbal (14c.) and directly from Late Latin verbalis "consisting of words, relating to verbs," from Latin verbum "word" (see verb). Related: Verbally. Verbal conditioning is recorded from 1954. Colloquial verbal diarrhea is recorded from 1823. A verbal noun is a noun derived from a verb and sharing in its senses and constructions.
Thus, an angry shout or rejecting look from a caregiver is likely to be internalized by the child as a wordless felt sense (such as dread or fear), with accompanying physical sensations (such as muscle tightness or a sick feeling in the gut).
This response tends to be readily triggered in adulthood if the initial wound is not resolved.
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After the verbal left brain develops around year three, individuals can begin to form negative thoughts that pile more shame on top of the unspoken shame reactions imprinted in the early years.
The Shaming Thought Traps
Fortunately, there are effective strategies to soothe and settle non-verbal memories from the early years. It is also possible to modify the shaming thoughts that heighten the experience of shame.
This article identifies common thought traps related to shame and more reasonable alternatives.
1. Labels
Perhaps someone says, “You are incompetent” (stupid, inadequate, or some other harmful label), and that word pulls up painful emotions and bodily sensations from the past.
What makes labels like these unreasonable is the form of the verb to be.
To say “You are incompetent” means you are always and in every way incompetent. Obviously, no one fits that description.
A kinder way of thinking might be, “I’m actually pretty capable in a number of areas, and I’m still learning the ropes in many other areas.”
2. Self-condemnation
Perhaps you’ve acted in a way that hurt you or another person, and you think, “I’m no good, bad to the core, worthless.” These are thoughts that typify shame. In contrast, guilt says, “That decision or that behavior was bad.” Guilt can be helpful, pointing out where we can grow and ways to live more fruitfully. As long as guilt is not exaggerated (e.g., when you take more responsibility than the situation warrants), and as long as it leads to positive change and is then released, then guilt is a useful emotion.
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The self-condemnation of shame, on the other hand, serves no useful purpose. Instead of thinking, “I’m worthless,” try thinking, “I’m worthwhile” (worth the while, worth the time to try and to grow), or “I have worth as a person, just like everyone else—even though others might have more market or social worth than I.”
3. Pessimism
Pessimism is thinking, “I’ll never improve,” or “Things will never get better.” These thoughts keep us stuck in depression or anxiety and prevent us from trying. Kinder, more upbeat thoughts are: “Where there is life, there is hope. If I keep trying, I’ll likely learn a better way. I might discover ways to heal and be happier. Since many others, even those who have hit rock bottom, have figured out how to enjoy life and themselves, I will, too.”
THE BASICS
What Are Adverse Childhood Experiences?
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The thought traps of shame are simply unkind thinking patterns learned along the way. They lead to harsh judgments of self that sap life’s joy. Just as the shaming thought traps have been learned, so can you learn to replace those patterns with kind ways of thinking that motivate you more effectively.
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