(토요모임) [21st, September, 2019] Saturday meeting topic

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 https://blogs.worldbank.org/governance/here-are-10-ways-fight-corruption

Here are 10 ways to fight corruption

1. Corruption is not only about bribes: People especially the poor get hurt when resources are wasted. That’s why it is so important to understand the different kinds of corruption to develop smart responses. 
 
2. Power of the people: Create pathways that give citizens relevant tools to engage and participate in their governments – identify priorities,  problems and find solutions.
 
3. Cut the red tape: Bring together formal and informal processes (this means working with the government as well as  non-governmental groups) to change behavior and monitor progress.

4. It’s not 1999: Use the power of technology to build dynamic and continuous exchanges between key stakeholders: government, citizens, business, civil society groups, media, academia etc.
 
5. Deliver the goods: Invest in institutions and policy – sustainable improvement in how a government delivers services is only possible if the people in these institutions endorse sensible rules and practices that allow for change while making the best use of tested traditions and legacies – imported models often do not work.
 
6. Get incentives right: Align anti-corruption measures with market, behavioral, and social forces. Adopting integrity standards is a smart business decision, especially for companies interested in doing business with the World Bank Group and other development partners.
 
7. Sanctions matter: Punishing corruption is a vital component of any effective anti-corruption effort.
 
8. Act globally and locally: Keep citizens engaged on corruption at local, national, international and global levels – in line with the scale and scope of corruption. Make use of the architecture that has been developed and the platforms that exist for engagement.
 
9. Build capacity for those who need it most: Countries that  suffer from chronic fragility, conflict and violence– are often the ones that have the fewest internal resources to combat corruption. Identify ways to leverage international resources to support and sustain good governance.
 
10. Learn by doing: Any good  strategy must be continually monitored  and eval‎uated to make sure it can be easily adapted as  situations on the ground change.

• What kinds of corruption are In Korea? 
• What do you think about the issue of Cho guk, ministry of Justice?
• Do you think Korea is corrupted? 
• Has corruption affected your life?
• Why do you think people are corrupt.
• Can corruption be a good thing?
• How do you reduce corruption?
• Which countries have a lot of corruption?
• What can you do about corruption in your country?
• How do you remove corrupt workers from their jobs?
• What is the largest bribe you have paid?
• Can corruption be a good thing in some societies?
• Do you think corrupt police officers are natural-born criminals?
• Do you know a corruption case?
• Do you think discipline is fair within the police?
• How are you going to prevent corruption and misconduct in the group that you command ?
• Is corruption within the police a result of low pay?
• Have you ever heard of a drug-related corruption case?
• Do you think police unions play a good role in the prevention of corruption?
• Is corruption ever justifiable?
• Have you ever received a bribe?
• Have you ever bribed someone?
• Do you know someone who has been bribed?
• Is bribery a big problem in the country where you live?
• Will you accept a dinner invitation from an important businessman of your city? (He has good connections in the council and you nephew is unemployed.)
• Would you revert to bribery if your life was at stake? If your child's or one of your family members' life was threatened?

https://www.thetalko.com/15-types-of-so-called-friends-you-should-avoid/

15 Types Of So-Called Friends You Should Avoid

• by Amy Johnson
 
• – on Oct 21, 2016
 
• in Girl Talk

It's only natural that as we get older, we start growing apart from our old friends. We become more aware of who we are, who we want to be, our values and what we want to achieve. We realize that we're very different from them. This might seem like a bad thing, but it's actually super healthy and positive. Most of us have at least a few bad friends -- maybe they're overly critical or dependent, or maybe they just get on our nerves – and when we get rid of them, we have room for new friends who will actually benefit our lives. However, sometimes people need a push to get rid of the bad people in their life. Maybe they want to get rid of their friend, but they feel guilty or mean so they continue to hang out together. If this is you, stop! You deserve friends who bring value and happiness to your life. Here are 15 types of so-called friends that you don’t need in your life. They are only bringing you down.▶

15The Friend Who Never Makes An Effort

You never hear from this friend and you're always the one reaching out to see them and make plans. You often call or text them to ask if they want to hang out, and they don’t say yes or no. In fact, they don’t even respond to your message. When they finally respond to a message, they act like they're making a huge effort to see you. They say things like “So good to hear from you! I’m really busy today but you can come to my house tonight if you want. I’m only free at 11PM for half an hour, but drive down and we will chat. Also, bring some food.” Whenever you see them, you're making the entire effort, so you should ditch them as a friend. Your life is filled with people who value your time and effort, but this person doesn’t and that's because they don’t see you as a priority in their life. You don't need that because you deserve to be treated well.

14The Super Critical Friend

This person claims to be your friend, but they always criticize everything that you do and say. They don’t like your job, they don’t like the food that you eat, they don’t like your friends, and they make negative comments about your personality. You never actually do anything that affects them or their life at all, but they still seem to be overly invested in your life choices. There are lots of reasons why someone might behave like this. Maybe they're super insecure or they're just a naturally jealous person. Either way, they don’t have your back, so they’re not really your friend. It's definitely best to cut people like this out of your life, as over time their negative comments can lower your confidence and leave you with low self-esteem. Friends are supposed to build you up and support you, not insult you and knock you down at every possible opportunity.

13The Friend Who Ditches You For Her Boyfriend

As soon as this so-called friend goes through a breakup, they suddenly need you again and you console them through the breakup, and you listen to them ranting about their ex for hours. You grow closer, and it almost feels like you are best friends. When they start to feel better, you become their wingman on nights out, and you help them to scope out possible future dates. However, they totally disappear from your life once again when they start a new relationship. They don’t text or ring you to ask how you are doing, and they are never free to meet up and hang out. While it is normal for friends to have less free time when they start a relationship, this person is literally never free. They prioritize their relationships and they only rely on their friends when they don’t have a partner to rely on. If you have a friend like this, ditch them. You definitely deserve friends who actually value your company and friendship.

12The Selfish Friend

The selfish friend has super high expectations for you. They do not care if you succeed in your career and love life... but they do care about themselves, and they expect you to assist them in every way. They completely forget about your needs, but they expect you to prioritize their own needs. They say stuff like,“I can’t believe you wouldn’t cancel on your friend’s birthday party to see me. Sometimes you can be a really bad friend.” If you’re friends with someone like this, consider removing them from your life. Selfish people rarely change, and it can be mentally exhausting to be their friend. They will continue to demand selfish things from you, but they will never realize that their requests are selfish; they will think that they are being reasonable and fair. You need friends who actually acknowledge your needs as a person, instead of quickly dismissing them.

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The Childish Friend

The childish friend can be a lot of fun sometimes, but their emotions change super quickly and they can become argumentative or difficult in a matter of seconds. They haven’t learned how to control their emotions properly, so they regularly lash out and behave in an unacceptable and passive-aggressive way. You have to deal with this lame emotional rollercoaster, but you get nothing in return because your friend doesn’t even realize how irrational they can be. They probably even think they're totally normal and even mature. This is definitely exhausting since you have to deal with these constantly changing emotions. Of course, no one's perfect but your friend should be able to be an adult. If you have a friend like this, consider taking a break from the emotional roller coaster. Your friend doesn’t hold themselves responsible for their own behavior, which is unhealthy and immature and you're just going to have a miserable time hanging out with them.

10The Negative Friend

The negative friend never has anything nice to say about anyone. They love gossiping and drama and they love putting people down. They normally have low confidence themselves, so they make themselves feel better by insulting the people around them. They normally like to focus their negative energy on one person, so they might have one person who they regularly choose to attack. If you have a friend like this, you might want to think about dropping them. They bring negativity into your life, which you don’t need; the world is already a negative enough place! It is also very unlikely that they are a loyal friend, especially if they always complain about their other friends to you. You can guarantee that it is just a matter of time before they are trash-talking you to someone else because they have to put other people down to feel good about themselves.

9The Needy Friend

The super needy friend is always asking for help. Every time you go out for drinks, they ask if they can borrow money. They often ask you to go on road trips together, and they expect you to drive, but they never give you any gas money. And the worst part? When you don’t have anything to give them, or they owe you money, they completely disappear from your life. When you call them they don’t answer, and when you text them, well, they don’t reply. It’s good to help friends out when they are going through a hard time. After all, that's what good friends do. But this person is trying to take advantage of you. Next time they disappear from your life, don’t try to make contact with them. Instead, go ahead and call a friend who actually likes you for you and doesn't think about the things that you can do for them.

8The Always Unhappy Friend

The unhappy friend always has something to complain about whether it's their boyfriend, their job, their family, their friends, or the weather. Even when things are going well in their life, such as getting engaged or getting a promotion, they still find something to complain about. You spend lots of time trying to cheer them up, but they don’t want to listen. People like this can be difficult friends, as their never-ending negativity starts to rub off on the people around them. If you spend a lot of time with them, you might start to notice that your mindset is changing and becoming more negative. It can be difficult to end the friendship, as you may feel slightly guilty, but remember that there is nothing you can do to make them happy. They choose to focus on the negative parts of life, and no amount of upbeat positivity from you can change that.

7The Friend Who Complains About You

If you’re part of a big social group, you've probably run into the friend who always whines and complains about you behind your back. This always comes back to haunt them, though, and people always tell you what she's said. Unfortunately, she never has anything good to say. They talk about how much they hate the way you dress, or how much weight you’ve gained, and they are quick to question your actions and decisions. If you have a friend like this, you should cut them out of your life ASAP. They don’t respect you or like you, and no-one should hang out with someone who feels that way about them. They could also turn your friends against you; people like this are often insecure, and they will put you down as a way to form bonds with others. You don’t need the extra drama that they bring into your life, and you’re not getting anything positive out of the friendship.

6The Bully

The bully is similar to the friend who says negative things about you, but you might not be the target. The bully acts like they're super good friends with everyone in the group, but they always seem to be upset with someone. They are always picking on someone; they make side comments, and they try to pass off insults as jokes. This person is normally quite controlling, and they often hope that they are the so-called "leader" of the friendship group. They normally get angry at their friends when they don’t do as they say, which results in passive-aggressive comments, as well as straight up insults. If you have a friend like this, now is definitely the time to end the friendship. You shouldn’t tolerate anyone who verbally abuses you or your friends. You don’t need a ‘friend’ in your life to make malicious and hurtful comments; you need friends who cheer you on and offer supportive comments.

5The Friend You’re Secretly In Love With

When you fall in love with a friend, it can go two ways: they feel the same or they just don't. The first option can be pretty amazing since you can start a relationship and see where things go, but the latter option is, of course, totally heartbreaking. If you’re in love with your friend but you know nothing will happen, it might be best to spend some time apart. You don’t need to end the friendship, but it can be emotionally exhausting to spend time with someone who doesn’t love you back. It can make you feel jealous and insecure, and it makes it very difficult for you to move on. Take some time apart so that you can move on and heal, and then after a while, maybe you can come back to the friendship with a new perspective. If your friend is a true friend, they will understand why you need some time away from them.

4The Dramatic Friend

Whenever you spend time with the dramatic friend, you only talk about their life. They never ask about you or try to find out what's new or what's going on with you. Even when they spend time with a big group of people, they still need to be the center of attention. They love talking about their life and their problems, and they always seem to be surrounded by drama and stress. This person can be a selfish friend, as they are too self-absorbed to think about their friends. When you go through a stressful or difficult time, they will be nowhere to be seen... but they will reappear as soon as they want to tell you about their own life. It's pretty unlikely that they will change since they really love being dramatic and choose to be this way, so they attract drama and even revel in it. When there isn’t any drama, they will try to create drama for their own entertainment. You can definitely see how this can be a super negative influence in your life.

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3The Friend Who Thinks You're Their Therapist

The pessimistic friend uses you as their own personal therapist. They don’t pay you or ask about your own problems, but they expect you to help them solve their own problems. They come to you to complain about their relationship problems, and they discuss the problem in minute detail. They ask you for advice and they seem to listen to your answer, but they never follow your advice. People like this can be pretty exhausting as they expect you to be invested in their life when they have no investment in your own life. It's also frustrating that they act like your advice is valuable when in reality they have no plans to follow it. This is normally because they just enjoy talking about their problems but they don’t actually want to solve them. However, their unwillingness to listen to your own problems indicates that they don’t value you as a person. Instead, they see you as a therapist who they can use for free.

2The Friend Who You Have Nothing In Common With

You two were best friends during school, but you drifted apart when you moved away to college. You didn’t speak much for a few years, and now you’re both two totally different people. You like to spend your weekends drinking and swiping on Tinder, and she spends hers shopping for wedding dresses and furniture. Whenever you two meet up it feels awkward and stilted. You don’t dislike each other, but you have grown apart and now you have completely different interests. You keep meeting up because you both want to hold on to the friendship, but it might be best to let each other move on. You’re not throwing away the friendship; you’re just letting it be a natural relationship, instead of trying to force a friendship that isn’t really there. You don’t have much in common anymore, and that is fine. Friendships grow and change as we age, and it is totally normal.

1The Friend Who Turns You Into A Person That You Don’t Like

Whenever you spend time with this person, you don’t like who you become. They're always encouraging you to make bad decisions, and you often feel pressured into doing things you don’t really want to do. For example, they might always complain about your friend group and encourage you to join in. You offer a few comments, and when you go home feel mean and cruel. Toxic people like this don’t challenge you to be the best version of yourself. Instead, they try to make you be the worst version of yourself. They never encourage you or show you support in life, and they call you boring or dull when you refuse to do what they want. Dump this friend so that you can focus on the friends who love and support you in your life. You have lots of people who respect you and care for you, so don't spend time with people who want to bring you down.

• Do you have any friends like that? (example 1~15) if so, explain about it.
• Do you have any long distance friends?
  • How do you keep in touch with your long-distance friends?
  • How often do you see your long-distance friends?
• Do you think it is a good idea to borrow money from a friend? Why or why not?
• Have you made any friends over the Internet?
  • How often do you write to them?
  • Have you ever met them in person?
• How are your friendships different now than they were when you were a child?
• How do you maintain a good friendship?
• How do you make new friends?
• How many people do you consider your "best friends?"
• What factors may result in the breakdown of a good friendship?
What qualities do you think are important in a friend?
• What things should friends never do?
• Do you think it is possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex without becoming a girlfriend or boyfriend?
• Do you think it would be possible for you still be friends with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?
• What are some ways your best friend has influenced your life in a positive way?
• What do you do when you have a misunderstanding with your friend?
• Do you trust all of your friends? Why?
• What qualities do you appreciate in your friends? What makes someone special or best friend?
• What are some good opportunities to meet new people?
• Who is the most interesting person you have ever met?
• Do you think famous people are happier than ordinary people? Why?
• What type of people do you get along with best?
• What quality do you admire most in people and which one do you find the most objectionable?
• What behavior of others hurts you most? When you have upset someone by your actions, what do you try to do?
• Do you tell your best friend everything?
• What would you do if your best friend, that never betrayed you and you thought your relationship to be brother/sister asked you out on a date?