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cliche
[kliːʃéi]
상투 (常套)적 말투
우리가 쓰는 말들 가운데
성경 말씀이나 속담처럼 수천년동한 쓰면서도
어제나 '새롭게' 느껴지는 것이 있는가 하면
비교적 새롭게 만들어진 '유행어'가
"또 그 말을 울궈먹고 있네!"라는 비판을 받는 것들도 있다.
구약 성경의 말씀인 '이에는 이로 눈에는 눈으로..'
신약 성경의 '새 술은 새 부대에,,"를 재탕한다고 하지 않는다.
영어로 진부하고 상투적 (常套的) 이라는 말은
A CLICHE is a phrase or opinion that is overused
and betrays a lack of original thought.
상투적인 말은 너무 자주 쓰거나 원래의 뜻이 갖는 의미를
재대로 쓰지 않을 때 것이다
예를 들면
The exmaple of the old CLICHE is “one man's meat is another man's poison
오래된 진부한 말투의 예를
"한 사람에게는 고기인 것이 다른 사람에게 독이 될 수 있다,'는 것이다.
어려움을 당하고 있는 사람에게 ~
The well-known cliche is "Every clould has a silver lining."
잘 알려진 판에 박힌 말은 "모든 구름은 (뒷면에) 은빛 빛이 비친다."이다
요즈음 한국 정치인들이 상투적이고 진부한 표현을 하는 것 가운데 하는
"'소설 쓰시네,' 또는 "신작 소설을 쓰는데 잘 팔리지 않을 것 같다,"는 것이다
그 말을 듣는 사람들은 "내가 소설가"냐고 반박하는데
나 같으면 (그렇게 비난하는 사람도 없지만) 이렇게 대답할 것이다.
"나를 소설가 취급하시니 감개무량 (感慨無量)입니다.
Shakespeare 나 Tolstoy 만큼 소설을 잘 씁니까!"
What he speaks in satire, "You write a novel,"
is one of terrible CLICHES these days.
그가 '소설 쓰시네"라고 비꼬면서 하는 말은
요즈음의 한심한 상투적말투 가운데 하나다.
나는 (내 착각이지만) 비교적 상투적인 언어를 쓰지 않으려고
노력중이지만 다른 사람의 눈과 귀는 다를지 모른다.
I wonder my article and English lecture are stuffed with CLICHE.
나는 내 글과 영어 강의가 판애 밖힌 말로
꽉 채워져 있을까 궁금하다
cliche 를 비교적 긍정적으로 사용하는 서양 속담 하나 ~
The phrase ‘a diamond in the rough’ is a positive used CLICHE.
"덜 가꾸어진 다이어먼드 (재주는 있으나 교육이 부족한 사람)이라는 문구는
긍정적으로 사용되는 상투어다
cliche 는 프랑스어 cliché를 빌려 쓰는 낱말로 click 이라는 뜻이다
여기서 click은 computer 에서 사용되는 뜻과 달리
'약하게 만든다'는 의미로 사용되어진다.
결국 상투적 표현은 화자 (話者)가 강조하려고 해도
그 말을 접하는 사람에게는 '약화'되는 효과가 난다는 깊은 뜻이다
All that glitters is not gold (from the Merchant of Venice) is a good example of cliche as well.
반짝이는 것이 모두 금은 아니다(베니스의 상인에서 인용) 또한
상투적 표현의 좋은 예다.
내 마음이 이상해
"이 상하면 치과에 가,"라는 진부한 표현을 지금도 쓰는 사람이 있을까!
동서고금을 통해 다 사용하는 상투적 표현 ~
But the CLICHE is trueㅡtime heals.
그러나 상투적인 것이 진리이다
예를 들면 "시간이 치료한다 (약이다)"
Theresa E. DiDonato Ph.D.
Meet, Catch, and Keep
RELATIONSHIPS
The 11 Magnetic Traits That Promote Longer Relationships
The saying “a diamond in the rough”
is a cliché used to describe someone whose true value has not been revealed.
All that glitters is not gold – (The Merchant of Venice)
Every cloud has a silver lining.
His article is stuffed with cliche.
My coach told us that there’s no “i” in team.
The phrase ‘A Diamond in the Rough’ refers to someone or something whose good qualities are hidden.
Could you please stop using that cliché and say something I haven’t heard before?
Example of Use: “This film is one of those diamonds in the rough – a wonderful gem that almost no one has noticed.
It sounds like a cliché but music was my friend.
But the cliché is true: time heals.
It is a cliché but true that people are not machines. ☆
Authentic and Real.
Strong Self-Confidence.
Sense of Humor.
Free Imagination.
Healthy Optimism.
Full Of Energy.
Active Listening Skills.
Full Of Empathy.
☆
These stabilizing traits tend to keep people together.
Posted August 24, 2023
Reviewed by Michelle Quirk
KEY POINTS
Magnetic traits are those that help ongoing relationships last far into the future.
Most magnetic traits are the same for men and women.
Magnetic traits are only one piece of the puzzle when it comes to relationship stability.
Dating relationships are hard to maintain but, for some, relationships tend to last.
These people don't hear the cliche breakup lie, "It's not you, it's me," (meaning: "It's you"), because it's really not them.
People want to hold onto relationships with these people. They are the stabilizing forces.
What makes these people different?
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cliche (n.)
1825, "electrotype, stereotype," from French cliché, a technical word in printer's jargon for "stereotype block," noun use of past participle of clicher "to click" (18c.), supposedly echoic of the sound of a mold striking metal (compare native click).
Originally, a cast obtained by letting a matrix fall face downward upon a surface of molten metal on the point of cooling, called in English type-foundries 'dabbing.' [OED]
Figurative extension to "trite phrase, worn-out expression" is first attested 1888, via the notion of the metal plate from which a print or design could be reproduced endlessly without variety, paralleling the sense evolution of stereotype. But this sense was not common in English until the 1920s, when it was identified as a French idiom. Related: Cliched (1928).
also from 1825
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click (v.)
1580s, "cause to make a weak, sharp, sound" (transitive), of imitative origin (compare Dutch and East Frisian klikken "to click;" Old French clique "tick of a clock"). Intransitive sense "make a weak, sharp sound" is from 1610s.
The figurative sense, in reference usually to persons, "hit it off at once, become friendly upon meeting" is from 1915, perhaps based on the sound of a key in a lock. Mental figurative meaning "to fall into context" is by 1939. Related: Clicked; clicking.
stereotype (n.)
1798, "method of printing from a plate," from French stéréotype (adj.) "printed by means of a solid plate of type," from Greek stereos "solid" (see stereo-) + French type "type" (see type (n.)).
The meaning was extended to the stereotype plate itself by 1817. The plate saves time and effort as it duplicates, in a single piece of type-metal, the face of a page of types composed by hand for printing.
Hence the figurative meaning "image perpetuated without change" (such as a visual trope or oft-repeated expression; compare cliche), which is recorded by 1850, perhaps via the verb in this sense (which is by 1819).
The specific meaning "preconceived and oversimplified notion of characteristics typical of a person or group" is recorded by 1922 (Walter Lippmann, "Public Opinion").
Magnetic Traits Can Differ From Traits We Find Initially Attractive
We all know that having certain traits provides an advantage in attracting partners.
Good looks, a warm smile—some people stand out. Evolutionary theory suggests people are attracted to goal-facilitating traits: For short-term relationships, people want partners with traits that signal "good genes" (e.g., physical attractiveness), and for long-term relationships, people want partners with traits that signal a "good" partner or co-parent (e.g., loyalty; Buss & Schmitt, 2019).
The human brain sees some traits as attractive during relationship initiation because these traits are linked to better reproductive or survival outcomes.
But the qualities people seek initially aren't necessarily the qualities that will help sustain a relationship over the long haul.
Once people enter relationships, the power to sustain that relationship may be linked, in part, to the extent they have certain qualities that are uniquely magnetic in ongoing relationships.
What are these traits that keep relationships together?
The Magnetic Traits That Keep Relationships Together
Research from Greece used a multistep process that aimed to identify the magnetic traits possessed by some people who are linked to longer relationships (Apostolou & Christoforou, 2021).
First, in-depth, semi-structured interviews with 20 individuals and an open-ended survey administered to nearly 200 people targeted the question of which partner traits motivate people to stay in relationships.
Analysis yielded 75 different traits. Next, nearly 1,200 participants currently in a relationship rated the traits for their current partner, indicated their relationship quality, and reported information about how difficult it feels to maintain their relationship and how long they expect their relationship to last.
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Results point to 11 magnetic qualities that support relationship stability (Apostolou & Christoforou, 2021). How well do they capture you or your partner?
Being trustworthy and faithful: More than any other factor, having a partner whom you judge as trustworthy is a magnetic force in an ongoing relationship, one that helps keep that relationship going into the future.
Being dedicated and caring: People expect their relationships will last when their partner is invested in taking care of them, protecting time, and, in all other ways, showing true commitment. This is something we can't know about another person until we are in a relationship with them, but it is a magnetic quality once a relationship is ongoing.
Being fun to spend time with: Does your partner have a good sense of humor? Are they intelligent and imaginative? The magnetic nature of someone whose company you want to keep is a key factor in predicting relationship longevity.
Being romantic and sensitive: Love relationships benefit from affection and attraction. When people's partners are able to show their romantic and sensitive side, these qualities support long-term relationships.
Getting along well with family and friends: Relationships do not operate in isolation. Having a partner who gets along well with the people who are important to you is a magnetic quality, fostering relationship stability.
Being helpful at home: Being a good cook and/or being ready and able to share the housekeeping workload makes a difference. Although this might be hard to perceive when you first meet someone, discovering this magnetic quality may make it less likely that you will want to end the relationship.
Being good in bed: Having a healthy and satisfying sex life supports relationship stability. It's a magnetic quality when people find a partner who can keep them sexually satisfied, who feels passion for them, and who can sustain their sexual interest.
Being positive: In ongoing relationships, positivity is a magnet that supports stability. Having a positive attitude and being confident, dynamic, and cheerful... all of these qualities point to relationship longevity.
Being ready to compromise: Moving through life is difficult with someone who whines, complains, never compromises, and wants their way every time. People in ongoing relationships see the ability to compromise as a magnetic trait, one that keeps people together.
Sharing common interests: When people discover that they share interests and goals with their partner, their heightened enthusiasm for continuing the relationship may reflect an underlying benefit of compatibility: More aligned interests translate to fewer conflicts. As such, sharing common interests is a magnetic factor in keeping relationships together.
Being well-off: Economics aren't everything, but they can create a magnetic pull in ongoing relationships. A practical factor, having income and financial stability can support relationship longevity.
Magnetic Traits Are Only One Part of Stable Relationships
Interestingly, the researchers noted only a few gender differences (Apostolou & Christoforou, 2021). Specifically, having a sexually satisfying partner and having a partner who makes compromises predicted more years in a relationship exclusively for men (not women), and having a partner who is dedicated and caring was associated with fewer difficulties in maintaining a relationship only for women (not men).
THE BASICS
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Having a partner with these magnetic qualities is an exciting prospect for the future of a relationship, but relationships are rarely driven by one person. In fact, these qualities, as assessed in the above research, reflect a person's perception of their partner. Because we see our partners through our own subjective lens, these participants' thoughts and emotions are coloring their judgments (and also influencing relationship stability).
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Further, relationship stability is not only an outcome of each individual partner but also of their dynamic and the social context that underlies their relationship. Many a happy relationship has been derailed by situational forces beyond the individuals' control. So, while these magnetic traits are helpful in revealing qualities that may promote relationship stability, they are not (sadly) a guarantee.