conundrum
[kənΛndrəm]
어려운 문제
난제 (難題)
우리는 6 남매인데 '신기하게도' 1,3,5 와 2,4,6이
문과 (文科)와 이과 (理科)로 나뉘어졌다.
첫째인 나의 형은 서울대학교 (문리대 / 文理大]의 이과
둘 째인 나는 신과와 영문과 (따라서 文) 셋째는 의대 (理)
넷째 文 (역사) 다섯째 간호학 (理) 그리고 여섯째 사회학 / 음악 (文)이다.
그리고 신기하게도 1,3,5는 아버지 편, 2,4,6은 어머니 편이다.
Even though the math problem was a CONUNDRUM for me.
수학문제는 나에게 난제이지만
it is not a problem but a piece of cake for my elder brother.
그것은 내 형에게는 새발의 피다.
한 개인의 역량에 따라 달라지는 난제는 문제가 되지 않지만
요즈음 한국이 국회의원 선거를 앞두고
여 (與)와 야 (野)의 극단적 다툼을 보면서
불한하게 여기는 국민들이 많다.
나라가 위기에 처해도 자신들의 정치적 이익만 되면
괜찮다 (?)는 느낌을 가질 정도다,
They should work together to clear up the CONUNDRUM.
그들은 국가의 난제를 명확하게 하기 위해 함께 일해야 한다.
They must approach this national CONUDRUM with an open mind.
그들은 열린 (너그러운) 마음으로 국가의 문제에 접근해야 한다
conundrum 은 사람을 무시하는 말 (whim / 변덕쟁이) 에서 시작되었다.
별로 쓸모없이 장식으로 쓰이는 사람이라는 뜻도 된다.
사회학 용어로는
'좋은 삶의 의례 (儀禮) / The Good life Ritual
The CONUDRUM of Overusing Kindness
/ 친절 낭용의 문제'라고 했다.
(Psychology Today, March 12, 2024)
친절 남용은 정치인들이 유권자들에게 잘 보이려고
'마음에도 없는 소리'를 하려다가 말실수를 하는 것도 포함된다.
결국 국민들 대부분은 ~
The CONUNDUM the politicians make in their unprepared speach causes a lot of confusion.
정치인들의 준비안되어 생기는 문제는 많은 혼란을 야기하고 있다.
사람도 미로에 빠지면 헤어나지 못하지만
쥐와 같은 동물은 더 하다.
The maze was a CONUNDRUM for the rat to escape.
그 미로는 쥐가 도망하기 위해 만들어진 문제였다
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Jolanta Burke Ph.D.
The Good Life Ritual
EDUCATION
The Conundrum of Overusing Kindness
Explore the depths of child behaviour.
Posted March 12, 2024
Reviewed by Ray Parkㅜer
1900 후반 부터 금상승
The math problem was a conundrum for me.
Can you help me clear up the conundrum I'm facing?
He is faced with the conundrum of trying to find a job without having experience.
The maze was a conundrum for the rat to escape.
We should work together to clear up the conundrum.
We must approach this conundrum with an open mind.
The conundrum has caused a lot of confusion.
This conundrum has left me feeling puzzled.
What's the answer to this conundrum?
The conundrum has no easy answer.
KEY POINTS
Instead of attributing children's actions to unkindness, we must embrace a more nuanced perspective.
Misbehaviour often stems from stressors beyond their control.
Demanding school life can drain kids' mental resilience, leading to outbursts.
Social pressure in schools can overwhelm introverted kids.
Reflecting on my journey through education, I've come to deeply understand the pivotal role kindness plays in shaping children's behaviour.
It's often portrayed as the ultimate solution to the challenges educators and parents face.
However, becoming a parent has made me question whether our relentless emphasis on kindness might sometimes miss the mark.
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While I've always believed in the transformative power of kindness, I've also learned that its promotion isn't always a straightforward remedy.
The complexities of child behaviour extend far beyond simple acts of kindness or unkindness, urging us to dig deeper to grasp the underlying causes of misbehaviour.
In my exploration of these complexities, I've uncovered several overlooked factors contributing to behavioural challenges in children.
Ego Depletion
The demanding nature of school life can take a toll on children's mental well-being, resulting in ego depletion.
This phenomenon describes the depletion of cognitive resources after prolonged periods of self-regulation. Suppressing emotions or thoughts can drain these reserves, leading to behavioural outbursts.
I recall navigating the
labyrinth of my school life 40 years ago. There were moments when I longed for the comfort of home, yet I felt compelled to maintain
a facade of composure in the classroom. Each instance of burying my true feelings beneath a veneer of conformity seemed to chip away at my mental resilience, leaving me vulnerable to sudden outbursts and frustrations. It was a delicate balancing act, trying to navigate the tumultuous waters of school life while tending to the needs of my psyche.
conundrum (n.)
1590s, an abusive term for a person, perhaps meaning "a pedant;" c. 1600, "a whim;" 1640s, "pun or word-play," a word of unknown origin, said in 17c. to be Oxford University slang. Perhaps the sort of ponderous mock-Latin word that was once the height of humor in learned circles; Skeat suggests Latin conandrum "a thing to be attempted" as the source. Also spelled quonundrum.
From 1745 as "a riddle in which some odd resemblance is proposed between things quite unlike, the answer often involving a pun." (An example from 1745: "Why is a Sash-Window like a Woman in Labour? because 'tis full of Panes").
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Additionally, research has highlighted a link between ego depletion and glucose levels in the bloodstream. Children's poor dietary habits or inadequate nutrition can exacerbate this depletion, amplifying the likelihood of disruptive behaviour. Thus, attributing misbehaviour solely to unkindness overlooks the intricate interplay between physiological and environmental factors.
Social Interaction Pressures
In the bustling hallways of educational institutions, introverted children often find themselves drowned out by the din of social interaction. The constant buzz of social engagement can feel stifling for these children, who find solace in solitude. Neglecting their need for quiet introspection can worsen behavioural challenges, irrespective of their innate kindness.
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My journey as an introverted child resonates with memories of feeling overwhelmed amidst a sea of voices. Asserting my need for solitude often felt like swimming against societal expectations.
This is precisely why introverted children must have some breathing space during the day. Some schools have recognised this need and created serene "nurture gardens" where children can enter nature's calm embrace to find their centre again. And in other places, they've set up cosy relaxation spots, giving children a quiet corner to unwind and take a break from the hustle and bustle of school life.
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Teachers and parents play a pivotal role in navigating these tumultuous waters, offering respite through quiet spaces and moments of reflection. By honouring our children's diverse temperaments, we pave the way for a more inclusive educational landscape where kindness extends beyond mere words to encompass the nurturing of individual spirits.
Window of Tolerance
In the heart of every child lies a delicate balance, a threshold known as the "window of tolerance." When stressors breach this threshold, the gentle rhythms of emotion can give way to a disruption of anxiety and unrest, regardless of children's inherent kindness.
In my journey, I've experienced the narrow confines of my window of tolerance, where even the slightest breeze could send waves crashing against the shores of my soul. As I've grown into adulthood, I've learned to navigate these turbulent waters gracefully. Yet, the journey can be treacherous for children who are still finding their footing.
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Recognising and accommodating these differences in tolerance levels is essential to creating a nurturing environment conducive to emotional well-being. Through understanding and empathy, rather than kindness-related judgment, we can offer a lifeline to those teetering on the edge of emotional unrest, guiding them back to calmer waters.
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