[ Dec 14th, Wed ] Jadon is back

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Topic 1 - Who Needs Marriage? Men, Apparently

Men, the stereotype goes, are dragged to the altar, fingernails clawing the floor of the church aisle into splinters until the very last step. There may be some truth to that, but once the marriage is underway, the shoe seems to migrate pretty quickly to the other foot.

Buried in the statistics of a new Pew survey, which informed TIME's current cover story, are a bunch of interesting numbers about how men feel about marriage. And on the whole, guys seem to be fonder of the institution into which they were allegedly drafted than women. (More on Time.com: Can an iPhone App Save Your Marriage?)

For example, 38% of men say it's easier for a married person to find happiness than a single person, while only 22% of women feel that way. (This doesn't mean that 62% of men think it's easier for a single person to find happiness, however; the biggest chunk think married and unmarried people have about an equal shot at happiness.) More men than women believe it's easier for married people to raise children, get ahead in a career and be socially accepted. (Read TIME's 2009 cover story, "Is There Hope for the American Marriage?")

That's regarding marriage in general, of course. Those men may simply be saying society generally accords higher status to married people than singletons. But when asked more personal questions, men were still more positive about life in a legal union. Twice as many divorced or widowed men (32%) than women in the same position (16%) say they want to get married again. (Again, that doesn't mean all of the others said they didn't want to get married again. There was a third choice: not sure. Roughly a third of men were in each category. More than half the women weren't sure.) (More on Time.com: 5 Little-Known Truths About American Sex Lives)

Even with all the changes in the structure of a marriage brought on by the rising economic independence of women, and all the vexation it has caused on the home front trying to figure out what those changes mean, most of the men surveyed (55%) said they had a closer relationship with their spouse than their parents did. Interestingly, only 46% of women felt the same way.

It may be that after all, men are just more romantic than women, with all the benefits and problems that brings with it: almost a third of the men surveyed believe that there is just one perfect match for every human. (And no, there's no evidence

Questions

1. Who got more benefit between men and women?

2. Do you think marriage is optional or mandatory? Discuss this with your member.

3. What do you have to give up because of marriage? What would you get instead? Let’s share the pros and cons of marriage. 

4. When(What age) would be perfect timing for marriage? Who’s your dream spouse?

5. Have you ever dreamed the romantic propose? What’s that?

6. Who do you think would get married in early age in your Group? Who does not well-matched with marriage around you?

7. How many kids do you want to have? What about no kid?

Topic 2 - Workaholic     

Dear Annie: My husband is in his early 50s and self-employed. We are lucky that business is good, but it means he works 24/7. At most, he might take one or two days off a month. He works from home, so I can accept his long hours, but his mood swings are hard to handle. He gets very angry, mostly with me (I work with him). If I mention that he needs to chill out(침착해지다), he only gets worse. He complains I don’t communicate enough with him and he feels isolated. Depression runs in his family, and when I suggest he consider medication, he then makes an effort to change, but it doesn’t last long. I don’t know what to do. I love him, but it’s hard to be around him because of his temperament and it seems to be getting worse. What do you thinks? – Unhappy Worker

Dear Unhappy: You both need to get out of the house more often. Your husband is feeling closed in which makes him nervous and irritable, and you are his nearest target. Short breaks, along with some sunshine, can alleviate his mood and help both of you get through the day. Don’t chastise(벌하다, 몹시 비난하다) him. Instead, explain that being cooped up all day hurts productivity. Suggest an outdoor coffee break twice a day, alone or together, and maybe the two of you can go somewhere for lunch or for a walk now and then. If he refuses to leave the house, you should do so without him, even if it’s just for a few minutes.

Question

1. Do you think the workaholic enjoys his work or pushes himself/herself too hard to achieve success?

2. If your husband or wife were workaholic, how to deal with this problem?

3. How much time do you think is an appropriate working hours in a day?

4. Are you in favor of the idea that we have to be the workaholic if we want to succeed or be rich or be an expert in the certain field?

   Tell us your opinion about that.

5. How much time do you spend on your family in a week?

6. Do you want to be the workaholic if you could? Why or why not?

[Jadon]

1st/Jadon/이정택/ㅋㅋㅋ 뭘 거창하게 쨌든 기대에 부흥하여 1빠로 ㅋㅋ

[DAVID1121]

2nd/David/참석합니다.

[jonathan]

3rd/jonathan/제목보니 참석을 안할수가 없겠네여

[Jadon]

ㅋㅋ 형

[roy kang]

2nd/roy(강민구)/참석합니다

[Risa.na]

4th / Risa / 처음 참석합니다~

[James. lee]

5th / james.lee / 참석합니다.

[Eileen^^]

6th/Eileen/참석합니다

[Aprile]

7th/april/참석이요

[Jenny Oh]

9th/Jenny/참석합니다

[Caren]

참석이용

[Andy(staff)★]

멤버분이 많이 참석하시는거같아서, 1,2,3번방 배정했어용~!~ 3번방에서 다 모이신후 그루핑하시면 1,2,3번 다 쓰셔용 ㅎㅎ

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등업이 안되서 댓글못다는 회원분 한분 더 계시니 포함해서 자료 준비부탁드릴게요

[SunHarry]

11th/Harry/참석 아 머리찡하다 ㅠ

[Jadon]

역시.. 방학시즌이라 이건가..