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자부심
우리들 대부분은 약점을 도도록 밝히지 않고
장점 (때로는 과장된)만 내세우려고 한다.
그래서 인정받으려는 인간의 본성을 드러낸다.
내 친구 가운데 하나는 비교적 젊은 나이 (50대 후반)에
틀니를 했는데 그것을 숨기지 않고 친구들에게 보여주기까지 했다.
나는 그 친구를 다른 어느 선생이나 목사보다 존경한다.
약점을 자신있게 들어내는 것은 '자부심'의 다른 모습인 것을 알기 때문이다
Embrace your flaws and you can keep your SELF-ESTEEM pretty higher
than those who hide theirs.
당신의 결점을 받아드려라
그러면 그들의 것 (약점)을 숨기는 사람들 보다
자부심을 훨씬 높일 수 있다.
(pretty 는 비교급을 꾸미는 부사들 가운데 하나다)
또 이런 긍정적으로 자부심 갖게 하는 방법도 있다.
Honest and right appropriate compliment can improve everybody's SELF-ESTEEM.
정확하고 적절한 칭찬은 모든 사람의 자부심을 개선시킬 수 있다.
그런 의미에서 요즈음 서울의 몇몇 초등학교에서
교사들이 학생 칭찬하는 것을
부정적으로 보는 몰지각한 학부모 (특히 어머니)들은
칭찬의 효과를 절감하는 한다는 사실을 알아야 한다.
A lot of school parents' wrong egoism (particulraly mothers')
can keep their teachers making compliment
which cause their students to have SELF-ESTEEM.
많은 학부모 특히 어머니들의 그릇된 이기심은
교사들로 하여금 학생들이 자부심을 갖게 하는 칭찬을
못하게 할 수 있다.
자부심 갖는 방법 가운데 하나가 '결점 인정하는 것'이라면 ~
Laziness diminishes SELF-ESTEEM.
게으름은 자부심을 감소시킨다
내가 별로 좋아하지 않는 '자부심' 갖기도 있다.
Plastic surgery boosts people's especiall women's SELF-ESTEEM
and makes them feel better as well.
성형수술은 사람들 특히 여성들의 자부심을 높여주면
그들이 기분 좋게 만들기도 한다.
바람직한 자부심 갖기 ~
Stay true to yourself and that will help you keep the SELF-ESTEEM.
당신은 무엇을 하든지 당신 자신에게 충실하라
그러면 당신이 자부심을 갖는 것을 도울 것이다.
Alli Spotts-De Lazzer, MA, LMFT, LPCC, CEDS-S
MeaningFULL
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Some people are so full of themselves that their self-concept includes thinking they are better than everyone else even though they are not.
KEY POINTS
Self-esteem and self-compassion play roles in well-being.
Self-esteem builds from achieving rewards and avoiding punishments.
Self-compassion involves self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.
Photo and artwork courtesy of Denise Roberston
Source: Photo and artwork courtesy of Denise Roberston
If you want to feel better about yourself, should you try improving your self-esteem or self-compassion?
A journal article published on August 3, 2023, "A Narrative Review and Meta-Analysis on Their Links to Psychological Problems and Well-Being," can help answer that question.
Both self-concepts are assumed to play roles in well-being, which research supports. And both can be seen as relationships with the self.
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Self-esteem
History shows that the concept is complex. The authors, Muris and Otgaar, highlight existing perspectives regarding the function of self-esteem. For example:
Self-value already exists within and that prompts motivation to meet full potential.
Self-esteem builds from achieving rewards and avoiding punishments (basically earning it as you go).
Self-esteem is driven by building our place within our worldview that calms fears about not existing. (Think about “leaving a legacy”).
Self-esteem evolves as social value is reflected (e.g., signs of social rejection and acceptance from others).
Yet “whether conceiving self-esteem as a vehicle of motivation,
a buffer against the fear of death, or
a social thermometer, all these functional accounts align with the notion that the construct has a positive nature and hence may promote psychological well-being and protect against mental health problems.”
The effects of higher (positive) and low (negative) self-esteem have been well-researched throughout the years.
On a day-to-day basis, many of us likely feel our self-esteem wavers.
Yet according to the authors, we can probably relax about variations in self-esteem. There’s a steadiness when viewed over time.
Self-compassion
Self-compassion can be conceptualized as how a person relates to themselves while experiencing personal challenges.
Per Neff, the leader of self-compassion science, it’s comprised of three elements (2011). Quotes from selfcompassion.org follow:
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Self-kindness vs. Self-judgment. Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.
Common humanity vs. Isolation. Self-compassion involves recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience – something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to “me” alone.
Mindfulness vs. Overidentification. Self-compassion also requires taking a balanced approach to our negative emotions so that feelings are neither suppressed nor exaggerated.
According to Muris and Otgaar’s research, the function is likely complicated. For example, self-compassion may stem from something evolutionary. Compassion for others elicits bonding and survival of the species. Self-reflection allows for self-compassion in times of strife. Also, self-compassion enables people “to effectively cope with such emotional dysregulation, ensuring their full participation in social life.”
THE BASICS
What Is Self-Esteem?
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Similarities
Both self-esteem and self-compassion have significant research backing the positive benefits of healthy amounts. (Though self-esteem has more research than self-compassion at this time.)
Both can feel fluid–easier or harder–at different times. Yet self-esteem and self-compassion are likely steady—like traits—when viewed over time.
There’s considerable overlap in the nuances of the two concepts and they may be considered complementary to each other (one adds to the other or boosts the other, and so on).
Pursuing either can have a positive impact on a person’s well-being.
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Differences
Self-esteem interventions can involve thinking positively about oneself, which can be especially difficult for some people. Self-compassion targets kindness, humanity, and mindfulness. Though also tricky for many, these can be more easily achievable than what can feel like self-praise. A study by Barbau and colleagues (2022) supports that phenomenon.
To me, self-esteem focuses on results, meaning “my evaluation of my worth as a human being.” And self-compassion seems inherently action-oriented, meaning “I could utilize whatever compassion I have to get through this.”
Finally, one of the two is commonly perceived to hold risk. Concern about attaining “too much” self-esteem and becoming narcissistic exists. However, Muris and Otgaar address this and assure readers that this is not typically a realistic risk.
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Which is better?
In their research, the authors theoretically explored both concepts and analyzed 76 articles. They concluded that “no evidence was obtained to support the claim that self-compassion has more potential as a positive-protective variable than self-esteem.” So it seems that which is better for you might be personal.
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Which appeals to you most
Which you are more deficient in
Which is easiest for you
Which you want more of
Maybe ask yourself how you value or rate yourself. Then ask yourself how much compassion you give to yourself for your weaknesses. This exercise might point to which can serve your well-being the most.
What can I do to increase either?
It's important to know what science says. It’s equally (or perhaps more) important to understand how to bring research and academics into practical reality. That said, Muris and Otgaar's article provides an informative list of approaches that offer promise, have research behind them, or are considered evidence-based.
For targeting self-esteem:
Cognitive behavioral therapy
Reminiscence-based therapy
Evaluative conditioning
Support groups
Art therapy
Positive psychology
For targeting self-compassion:
Compassion-focused therapy
Mindful self-compassion
Cognitively based compassion training
Bottom line
Instead of "Which is better, self-esteem or self-compassion?" it might be strongest to ask, "Which is better for me?" If you feel low in either self-compassion or self-esteem, there’s always hope and ways to grow. Try either and see how you feel. Since they seem to build and bounce off each other, start with which appears the most realistically achievable to and for you.
Finally, and on a selfish note, I must introduce self-acceptance here. It’s another self-concept that could someday, I believe, compete with these others in helping people to live the contented, fulfilling lives they want. But at this time, there’s not a lot of scientific research on it. To read more about self-acceptance and how it might boost well-being, please visit my blogs: “For Higher Well-Being, Try Self-Acceptance” and “Poor Self-Esteem? Try Self-Acceptance.
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