reading between the lines 행간읽기
Are you tired of trying to read between the lines?
By Angela L Craig Posted on February 13, 2015 In Leadership 0
https://www.angelalcraig.com/2015/02/are-you-tired-of-trying-to-read-between-the-lines/
2 Corinthians 1:13
New Living Translation
Our letters have been straightforward,
and there is nothing written between the lines and nothing you can’t understand.
I hope someday you will fully understand us,
고후1:13에서는 행간읽기를 금지합니다
글도 없는 행간에 내 상상추정으로 글/말을 끼워 넣어 읽고 듣고 이해하면
오해오독은 따논당상되고
계시록에 금지된 가감행위로 저주대상됩니다
성경의 드러난 의미는 우리의 소유이지 감추인 것은 아닙니다 (신 29:29)
일반인에게 감추인 것은 성령하나님께서만 드러내실 수 있습니다 (고전 2:11)
행간읽기는 세상사람의 글 읽기 방식입니만
성경은 성령님을 통하여 읽어야만 이해할 수 있습니다
모르면 추정추리 추측예측 할 것이 아니라 물어봐야 정답을 압니다
Jesus realized that they wanted to ask him about it, so he said, “Are you asking yourselves [what I meant]?
I said in a little while you won’t see me, but a little while after that you will see me again.
예수께서 그 묻고자 함을 아시고 가라사대 내 말이 조금 있으면 나를 보지 못하겠고
또 조금 있으면 나를 보리라 하므로 서로 문의하느냐. (요 16:19)
"서로 문의하느냐"를 독자청자 신자인 '자기에게 묻고 행간을 읽어 답을 구하려드느냐?'로 바꾸면
화자저자이신 예수님께 직접 묻지 않고 행간에서 답을 찾으려는 것을 책망하신다고 이해할 수 있지만
이 또한 행간읽기라 하면 행간읽기이겠으나 행간에 없는 말을 읽어내는 것이 아니고 있는 말을 읽는바
쓰여진 글을 읽는 것이기에 행간읽기라고 정의할 수 없는 건 행간에 없는 말을 추정하는 것이 아니고
모르는 것이 있다면 예수님께나 성령님께 직접 묻거나 이미 물어서 깨달은 분들의 답을 찾는 게 답인 건
다른 제자들도 예수님께 모르는 걸 물었지만 이성적인 도마가 확실하고 분명하게 증명해 놓았습니다
'도마가 가로되 주여 어디로 가시는지 우리가 알지 못하거늘 그 길을 어찌 알겠삽나이까 ' (요한복음 14:5)
도마는 사후의 일을 행간읽기로 추정하지 않았습니다
Last week on a walk with my neighbor, we were comparing stories of similar conversations we had been having with our teenage sons over their forgetfulness of doing household chores. The conversations with our sons went something like this:
Mom: “Son, I know you have a lot of homework but please don’t forget to take care of your household chores as well.”
Son: Silent. Body language says: I am irritated with that statement but not sure how to respond.
Mom: “Did you hear what I said?”
Son: “Do you know how hard I work? It’s not like I am standing around doing nothing. Can’t I just have a break.”
Mom: “I never said you didn’t work hard. I am only reminding you that you have household chores you need to do in addition to your school work.”
This conversation made me laugh because I realized I was not alone in my conversations with my son, and it also reminded me of a blog I wrote a few years back about reading between the lines.
How often do we find ourselves reading between the lines not only in family relationships but also in work relationships? My son read: My mom doesn’t appreciate how hard I work. She doesn’t notice or recognize how much I do. If she did, she would never ask me to do my chores. Of course, this assumption was not the truth, it was only how my son was feeling at the time of the conversation.
It is time we started taking people at their word and be free from the guessing game of reading between the lines.
Re-Post from June 2013
How often in relationships do you find yourself trying to reading between the lines?
One of the most valuable gifts I ever received was when a friend noticed my need to read in-between the lines and she said, “Angela, I don’t know what relationships you have with other people, but with me, I would like our yeses to be yes, and our noes to be no. I don’t want you to give my words meaning that I didn’t say.” In that moment, I felt absolute freedom. Freedom from the responsibility to be a people pleaser, a peace-keeper, or a mind-reader.
Jesus taught his disciples the same principle. “All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything beyond this comes from the evil one” Matthew 5:37 (NIV).
The statement, “anything beyond this comes from the evil one” seems a bit harsh, doesn’t it? But it really isn’t when you understand that Satan’s main goal is to break relationship. He is famous for encouraging us to interpret conversations through our feelings instead of truth. This can turn mental friction into fire, even in the most platonic of conversations.
If you decide to live by the rule of letting your yeses be yes and your noes be no, you give yourself the freedom to say what you need and the responder the option to answer honestly. When you respond to others with the same expectation, holding them accountable for their words, you will eventually stop the unhealthy patterns of non-verbal communication and encourage that person to speak their needs and desires as well.
Today, I invite you to live a life of freedom by simply saying ‘Yes’ or ‘No’.
Enjoy it!