I read something a little while back and thought of it again today. The kindest people are the ones who get used and abused.
My question is...
Do you believe that kind and compassionate people are mostly the ones who gets used and abused?
I say yes, usually it's because they have so much empathy that they tend to have a soft spot for people in need.
Let's say even if those "people in need" act weak, helpless, scared, sad and say lies just to get what they want. Because maybe those actions and words already made them get things or even money from the kind people. They are the type who are "pity me, I'm like this" or "woah is me." 🙄
I hope kind people are smart too or they learned a lesson or two, maybe they won't get used and abused the next time.
Blackmail? I don't know.
Do you owe them? Here's the thing about owing people. Let's say yes you owe them because they have done or are doing things for you BUT haven't you done or are doing enough to help them too? Aren't you just continuously giving to them as well? As they continue to manipulate you?
Anyway, it's always karma going back to bite them in the arse. They might not get it right away, but soon. They will face the consequences of their actions.
I hope the true good-hearted people put up boundaries and not give into every whim of the abusers or better not give anything anymore or else they will deplete you, not only financially but in every aspect of your being. Because all they will do is take, take, take because they can fake anything for a long time. And they know you have the means to help them when they "need" it.
Let these manipulators stand on their feet, on their own.
Let them learn what they need to learn.
Let them do what they need to do.
You are not always going to be there for them.
Because if you will always be there every time they act weak, they will continue to do that.
They are old enough to know what is right and wrong.
If they continue to act maliciously, remove them from your life.
Don't give into them anymore.
They do not have the power to destroy you.
Don't let anyone use or abuse you any longer.
Don't let anyone continue to take advantage of you.
Life, karma and the universe will take care of them for it knows the truth.
Block them if you need to or some maybe change passwords so they don't have access to you anymore.
So where is this coming from?
I've been in the used and abused position. I gave and gave until it destroyed me mentally, emotionally and financially for trusting the wrong person.
Was it my past relationship?
Based on this story, no. It was a so-called friend.
Just a little something to keep in mind for anyone who has gone thru this, is going thru this or hopefully will not go thru this because I already said it. Let no users, abusers and manipulators feed off you anymore. Enough is enough.
- Your pudgy panda who's feeling a lil bit like Carrie Bradshaw with all the writing and shizz because I'm bingeing the show on Netflix 😆