Child~~
It’s your annoying child from every moonday🤍
For this letter I decided that I must write about feelings and emotions.
For some reason I've been getting a lot of signals this week that I should talk about it. So I thought"okay universe, I’ll do as you say".
I will not write just for writing, but I will write honestly about what I've learned / I’m still learning about it.
First of all, context:
I came downtown to make a Karimchi delivery and took the chance to stop by for my daily dose of caffeine. It's 12 pm but the weather feels sooo good today. It's cool and cloudy. Good enough to order a hot Flat White, I swear.
The weather and the context of the moment is perfect. I love delivering on Sundays at this time because the avenues are closed so people can come to ride their bikes. I love this atmosphere. People enjoying the moment on Sunday mornings relaxes me so much… Families biking, friends, couples… It warms my heart.
I think I became quite a sentimental person. Don’t you think?
Thanks to Karimchi I’ve been able to experience new things, meet many people, even some Deobis. And now, sitting here with this good weather writing you a letter.
I hope you can feel that we are having a pleasant conversation, I will imagine that you are in front of me drinking coffee enjoying the moment as well.
Anyways! I always get off the main topic, don’t I? That's why my letters are so long... Sorry not sorry, child.
Okay, going back…
Feelings and emotions…
I want to thank you for always being so honest with us about your feelings, you are always so open at PM and I’m truly thankful for it. You know that we will be always here for you🤍
Thank you for having that confidence in us even though you might not know most of us in person. I know that it must be very hard to speak up because you always have to be careful with what you write or say because of the industry and the public opinion 🫠
But still whenever you have the opportunity you speak both for you and also for us 😭 you always give us voice whenever you can 🥲
One of the reasons why I thought I should talk about it, is because I’ve seen you speak up on pm about the things that might be bothering you lately and also you open your heart to us to speak about topics that need to be addressed. 🥺
Also the other day a friend sent me a message because he wanted to talk about something that was bothering him, and he said he had no one to talk to. I listened to him and supported him with everything that was in my hands but at the end of the call he apologized for the way he was feeling and for calling me when he was vulnerable.
[Wait there is a man behind me speaking English on the phone, he is from Vancouver apparently lmao, he snapped me out of my thoughts for a moment]
Anyways, I realized that a lot of people always apologize for feeling certain way, and I admit that I have done it too but I’m working on it ✨
Sometimes I can't stop thinking about why I wrote or said something when I was influenced by my feelings in the moment. Those were the things that keept me awake at nights.
But now I’m learning to accept my emotions.
Emotional awareness and emotional intelligence…
We should learn to accept that both our positive and negative emotions are absolutely normal.
We can’t always avoid our negative feelings or hide them because it can turn out having the opposite result of what we want. We must face our feelings.
For example, if you feel jealous or sad about a one side love, it's okay to feel sad. The first thing we would think about is "ugh, I shouldn't feel sad for someone who didn’t even like me or noticed me, why am I this dumb?"
I know I'm not the only one who has ever felt this way 🫠
In this case, for example, it's not our fault to feel sad.
Avoiding our feelings or running from them only makes us more anxious and makes things worse.
In this case I would recommend:
1. If you need to keep your distance from that person in order to heal, do it. Don't keep grudge, because you can't control that person's feelings either. Facing it when you don't even know what are your feelings exactly, is only going to make the snowball grow and your emotions too. That's when you don't feel satisfied with what you said to the other person. Keep your distance to heal, it's not healthy for both of you.
2. To heal, you must first accept your feelings of the moment. It's okay not to feel okay, we can't control our hearts from falling for someone either, it is not under our control. We do not choose who, how, when and where to fall in love. Right?
3. Don't get mad if they don't like you back. We can feel anger or sadness in moments like these, not because we have been rejected but because we feel disappointed because we didn’t get the answer that we wanted to hear.
Here is where we have to put a name to our feelings and accept them.
4. You can talk about that emotion with someone close to you. Don't apologize for sharing it with other people, they will totally understand.
Also, I have noticed that we can feel empty when we share something with someone, be a friend or a family member. Most of the times it’s because they don’t think the same as us, and that is why we tend to overthink things and start wondering if it was a good idea to have shared our feelings with them or not. But hey, we also must learn that we are not the same ( I want to address this topic too).
Anyways, what I’m saying doesn’t apply only with one sided loves (I would change this phrase in English because I don’t like how it sounds tbh but I don’t know if there’s another way to call it, hlp) or relationships, but everything in life. Learning to name our emotions allows us to relate with our loved ones in a healthy way.
For example, the day my boss told me that I wasn't giving results I felt like I wanted to cry and tell him everything I was thinking at the moment, but I didn't, because the emotion I was feeling at the moment was only anger.
Would I have spoken and it would have been okay? Yes.
I still think it would have been fine to say it right away, but I also think it would not have been the same result as waiting and discussing it calmly later.
So, I thought about it for the rest of the day and the next day I told my boss how I really felt.
Tbh, if I had answered to him at the moment, I would most probably have quit my job lol
I am not incentivizing (? labor exploitation, of course not. If the job is not good, quit, if you are not valued after expressing how you feel and they don’t care, quit. It's not healthy to be in a job like this.
But before quitting, speak. Talk about your feelings and about what’s bothering you.
In my previous job, when I quit, I told my ex-boss everything I felt at that time (it was actually the first time I did it so I was so scared to speak up) even though I was sure that I wanted to quit, I needed to tell them the things I didn’t like of being there and the things that werent fair so they could at least try to fix them.
I didn't do it for myself, because I was quitting anyway, but for my colleagues, because they were going through the same as me but they were afraid to speak up.
Fortunately, they agreed to raise their salaries and tried to improve the work environment. My friend, Andrea, is still working there and she told me that thanks to it a lot of things went better at the office.
(Again, I got a little bit off the topic lmao)
I also tend to clash a lot with my parents, but something that has helped me a lot was taking my time to reflect on how I’m feeling and talk to them once I feel ready.
Another thing that helps me a lot to relate with people is learning that we are not all the same. Not everyone is going to answer or react as we want to or the same as we would do.
I think that is a golden lesson in life.
There might be very expressive people but there’s also people who is not used to it or don’t like to do so, and it's totally normal.
Also we all have a different ways to express our emotions and feelings.
Most of the people I know tell me that their first impression of me was that I looked very serious and that I looked like I was angry most of the time lmao
But now they say I’m totally the opposite of it.
There are people who need their space, and there are people who like to socialize. Once we learn to accept that we are all different, then that is when we can manage to have a healthy relationship with everyone, whatever the relationship might be.
As my mom would say: “hablando se entiende la gente” (means “speaking, people can understand each other”)
And it is so true. If from the beginning we speak sincerely and we are honest about us and our feelings we can understand each other and avoid a million misunderstandings on the way.
I think my relationship with my co-workers is healthy because from the beginning we started to talk about our feelings, about what we like and what we don’t.
Whenever someone new arrives to the office they will be like: “Karen can often not listen to you, but it is not that she’s ignoring you or dislikes you, but that whenever she starts working her mind is 100% focused on what she is doing. Her mind automatically will block out the outside world”.
(100% real no fake, the truth is that 1. I focus 100% on something or 2. I fall into a non-ending hole of distraction for the rest of the day. There is no half point).
So, I might say this is on the top 10 of things I’ve learned and have helped me to have good relationships with the people around me.
That was the topic of the day...
Let’s accept our feelings and name them in order to have a healthy relationship with our loved ones and everyone around us.
It’s never too late to talk about our feelings with people. 🤍
[I should compile these reflections in a book and give it to my future children -if I ever have- so they can read it lmao]
It makes me happy to see many Deobis using this platform as a way to express themselves (including myself).
Writing is also a good way to release our emotions.
I also appreciate that you take the time to read some of our letters. Whether you read them or not, I appreciate that you give us the opportunity to release ourselves here.
I'm not looking to use FC to complain about my day but to write about my life lessons and reflections if they can be helpful for you or anyone that reads me.
I am aware that not everything I think/write is right and I am not looking to change your perspective of things but I hope that somehow what I write here can be helpful to you.
You know that if you ever are going through a similar situation you can come to my FC and read me anytime. I hope I can become your source of strength too.
I don't need to know if you read me or not. The simple fact of having the opportunity to write to you already makes me happy, child. 🤍
-Back home-
Guess what?
Lmao I was at starbucks editing what I wrote and then I heard a lot of voices calling my name from the outside…
I looked at the window and there were my friends and colleges from University waving at me loool
So I went out with them and there were like 11 of my classmates.
You know back at school I didn’t use to talk too much and I was so shy so it was so weird to see 11 people looking at me excited at the same time.
It’s been 2 years since I graduated so the last time I saw them was back then. They did a reunion today apparently.
It was so funny because the costumers started looking at us.
My friends were like “from this perspective it looks like we are Karen’s fans” lmao
I felt sooo shy suddenly.
So I joined them and we went bowling ✨
I teamed with my close friends. We actually have a group chat called “the unlucky ones” because we tend to share our story times every time something bad happens to us and try to cheer on each other.
Obviously we lost against the other team but it was so fun lmao
We also went to the chocolate place I told you about ✨
Also I did my nailss again, finally… lmao
One picture doing your finger pose cause it looks like Morty fangs (?
Two of my nails peeled off last week so it was necessary to do them again. 🫠
I call it karma…
Just in case u didn’t saw my friday letter I did cut my hair 🤍
I told you my nails peeled off (as you can see in the pictures) lmao
For queen 🐝’s birthday my computer showed this in the search bar 🥹 sooo cutee
Lmao these days as u can see, universe translations have been like this…
You saying you are going to bed and to eat for the 30th time in an hour.
If I didn’t understand a lil’ bit of Korean I would think that you must be really hungry. 🤧
[“costumes” instead of “costumers”
🫠 it’s so hard to write on the phone with long nails and the autocorrect on].
“Let me do what you want” loool
That was so funny.
Also since the translations are wrong I just gave up, that’s why I only write non-sense in there. Sorry 🥲
Also the reason why I asked this is because most of americans think we are from South America. I hear that a lot when I speak with US providers at work, I’m just like “Sir, we are speaking about trade rn thanks to NAFTA”. Also even a lot of mexicans don’t even know we are from North America, they think we are from South. But I think that’s because of the lenguage and cultural background.
Anyways, just wanted to clarify.
In Kevin I trust 🤝
Also wtf
We are connected lol
I didn’t know Canadians used it too~
In Mexico we say “GPI” (Gracias por invitar) too in a sarcastic way lol
So my friend and I used to say TFI (Thanks for inviting) as a joke in English.
Now turns out it already was being used…
I feel dumb lol
I guess Mexicans and Canadians we both share braincells when it comes to humor 🤌🏻
For this week I decided to recommend you these songs in Spanish. I always recommend you songs in English so I think is time to give you new vibes to listen to. 🤍
I don’t know if there are yt videos with the translations of the lyrics to English but if there are give them a listen ✨
Darling it’s you…
Only you…
You give me everything else.
I wanna be where you are.
I don't need anything else if the hardest thing to find I found it with you.
This one is actually in English 🤍
When the skies are blue
And the tides are high
And I see the moon, I think of you.
Just look at me with those beautiful eyes of you…
Only with that I feel alright
Today I am reborn
This is not a dedication but a song recommendation lol 💃🏻
This artist is very popular right now. She has a very beautiful and unique voice 🤍
Please give it a listen and tell me whatcha think. Idk if it’s your style but it’s always good to listen to something different once in a while~
Also this song of Selena 🤍
This is one of my fav albums from her tbh, along with Revival.
Now my playlist became so diverse 🤝
I like it, I’m playing it everyday on my way to work or while I’m working.
Anyways, I wrote a lot, didn’t I? 🥲
Thanks for all your sweet words at pm these days, as I said before, I think those topics needed to be addressed. I’m happy that you did it well knowing your words mean a lot to us.
Let’s take care of us together.
Thanks for inspiring me to have a healthier lifestyle. I always wanted to but as you might know, the hardest part is always the start, but you helped me with it and made it a way easier, as I told you in my last letters. 🤍
I’ll take care of me for me.
Please also keep taking care of your health. You are doing great but there’s a thing that keeps me worried, you need to sleep better 🥺
I know it’s hard to sleep well, I have insomnia too but it’s not impossible. It takes time, we can do it together from now on… let’s try to sleep better. We can put our alarms to go to bed earlier and put our phones on ‘not disturb’ mode before to sleep.
It actually helped me before for like a week~
I’ll find more ways to sleep better and I’ll share them with you. Since it’s health related I can upload it anytime 🤍
I hope you keep enjoying your day so far and are having a very relaxing day watching Disney or Netflix~
I love you so much / te amo mucho
Sending you warmie hugs~
🤍🤍🤍
—Karen.
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