How can we distinguish when a person's telling a lie?

[Teddy]

We might have the needs to discern the moment when a person is telling a lie or tries to tell it in front of you. Not only policemen, interrogator or prosecutor but also mothers, teachers, or married women have often the opportunity to learn if his or her partner is actually giving you a fake opinion. Would it be easy to look into insides of a person's mind?

Probably, a professional investigator may use a useful devise such as polygraph or other outperforming detector, but we in our life cannot utilize it. It is likely that a psychologist has the capability of grasping whether a person is telling the truth or not. In fact, one of the worldwide leading companies used to dispose a psychologist in an interview room. His main task is to listen to an interviewee to figure out what he is telling and then examine what he tells approach the truth.

Many people think that a person telling a lie appears probably fidgety and hesitant and also makes too many unnecessary gestures. However, it might be untrue because a liar feels uneasy and so doesn't move too much for fear that his lies might be revealed. Generally, a person telling something false and untrue shows typical behaviors, such as a high pitch of his voice, some errors in his speech, a longer latency of a response while speaking. It takes time for a liar to give you an answer. Sometimes, a liar tries to, in an awkward manner, gives you a smile or contrarily smiles less. It can be said that these are typical verbal signals that a person who's telling a lie exhibits.

Besides, there are also some types of none verbal signals that help you to discriminate when a person is telling the truth or giving a fake opinion. For one thing, a person while telling a lie might show some nervous mannerisms, such as pulling a lock of hair, tugging on part of his body or wear, keep fingering something around him, looking away from your eyes, or abbreviate shrugging of his shoulders. Rapid blinking of his eyes, dilatation of his pupil, or other unnecessary gestures would be also cures of telling a lie.

People who deal with a lot of other people, like when a business man is on the point of negotiation with buyers or sellers, need to read as exactly as possible what his counterpart intends to say what and how. An interviewer needs to figure out what an interviewee would want to depict something. A young woman who dates with a handsome guy needs to perceive his mind if they can fall in love with each other without any change in future. With the advent of internet by the turn of the 1980’s, many people tend to utilize them either to send message or communicate with people online or to get information and data from a flood of sites. There always exist uncertainties and insecurities to some degree because some sites are often considered to be lack of reliability. More prudence and caution are indeed required when people want to get what they need for the purpose of using them.

[Pepper]

I am poor at reading people's real intentions from their words or gestures. I sometimes wonder how people having jobs that require them to meet many different people feel when they meet a liar. Would they catch it at a first glance?

[Hannah]

I don't sometimes get to the point when people beat around the bush. I'm also quite gullible and naiive that I trust people easily. I believe I'm not that bad at telling white lies though. ^^ As you wrote, we could be drawning in the information flood on the Internet. I feel frustrated when I talk to people who've got wrong and superficial idea which could lead them into an irrevocable condition. That's probably why experts in the States suggest people get information from Google scholar, not plain(?) Google, which provide mostly published literature.